im with a girl hus alway remindin me that she loves and that she wantes to spend her time with me
but i dont feel the same about her
shes great but i rather have her as a friend i really want to break up with her
i want to stay as friends but i know that thing will be alot differnt
ive also have had a secret relationship with another girl who i really like and weve kissed and everything.
need advice
plz be serious
2006-12-02 08:13:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So you had a "secret relationship" with another girl bc you didn't want to hurt your gf's feelings?
I think being cheated on hurts worse than hearing the truth
You don't deserve her friendship
2006-12-02 08:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol dude i can be as serious as possible but its easy to answer.. if you dont have feelins for her and your already in a relationship with another girl you should break up with her ASAP before she finds out. Sooner or later she will find out about your affair and then never want to be your friend. You should try telling her you dont feel the same way and don't want to hurt her any more then you have to because of it. It isnt easy but you gotta before its too late
2006-12-02 08:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by AdrianAP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here girls say they love you but they also love puppy's and flowers and.....rainbows so believe me she doesn't really love you its not like if you break up with her she will never find anyone else. As well the longer you stay with her the harder it is to break up with her and be friends after it so I think the best thing you can do is go up to her and say we need to talk then she knows it's bad news so shes prepared and break it to her gently. Then depending how it goes wait a couple of days and try and talk to her some times it's useful to talk to one of her friends first to see how she is and then take it from there.
2006-12-02 08:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. trying to not be biased and answer honestly....you have to tell her. Things will change but in time she'll move on and stop hurting and then you might find your friendship again. She is gonna be upset but the longer you drag it out the deeper she's gonna feel for you. write her a letter if you cannot face it, cowardly yes but its better than carrying on a lie...good luck
2006-12-02 14:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by sue.roberson1@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate give her a clean break, don't be her friend thats just an insult, Who would want to be friends with a guy they fancy and watch him make out with other girls?
2006-12-02 08:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're a bastard, why would you torment this girl so? Just tell her you want to be single and then be with the other girl, your first girl will get the message and yes her heart will be broken but not as much as it will be if you continue to delay !
2006-12-02 08:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mountaineer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do more harm by not telling her. It may be hard but you have no choice, what kind of relationship is it if it's built on a lie?
2006-12-06 03:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is tell ur girlfriend how u feel BUT DONT tell her bout the other girl ull break her heart
2006-12-02 16:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by tanya_is_an_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let her down gently you are not being fair to her by still seeing her when you fancy somebody else, do the girl a favour and move on
2006-12-06 03:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being fair to this girl....there are plenty of better men out there for her....let her go and at least be honest with yourself and stop using her to feed your own ego with her adulation. God knows sounds like you don't treally deserve it.
2006-12-02 08:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋