yes My Husband is always hanging around with this guy . his name is Roger. he and Roger is always out for hours . now My Mom told me he could be cheating on Me because i never give him what he wants Sex. its not because i dont Love him i do . I love this man very much . but i dont want to make love to him if hes cheating on me / because i could end up getting a sexually transmitted disease . please help Me i dont know what to do . i dont want to ruin our marriage . or should i take my moms advice and just leave him . please help . thank you .
2006-12-02 07:54:33 · 11 answers · asked by Marcella P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Rather than assuming, OR listening to your mom....you need to find out from your husband, what's really going on. If he's gay, then you and he do not really have a marriage. End of subject.
2006-12-02 07:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is My Husband Gay.?
2014-12-18 19:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your whole question and I still can't figure out why you ask if your husband is gay???
In your detail you make no mention of anything like that but in your question you do.
Also, he is your husband...talk to him...ask him what is going on. Why don't you have sex with him? I know what you said in your details but was that always like that or did you just stop recently?
I really think you should talk with your husband and no one else.
2006-12-02 08:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by megabites42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has put doubts in your mind and now the best thing would be to find out about where your husband and his friend Roger are going and what they are doing... If you have no proofs about him cheating or about your husband having a gay relationship, I don't think you should leave him. You love him so I think you should have a heart to heart talk with him before you decide anything. After all don't you think he deserves it? I don't think it is right for your mother to be meddling in your marriage. This is a matter that should be discussed between you and your husband.
2006-12-02 09:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married to a man who finally figured out that he was gay about 7 years into our marriage. I agree with everyone who said that you need to talk to him. Don't come out and accuse him of anything, but rather find out why he'd rather spend time with his friend. It could be that something else that's not even related to sexuality could be bothering him. I urge you to have this discussion sooner rather than later.
At first, my ex thought he was bi and we worked out ways that we could stay married and he could still indulge both sides of his sexuality. As time went on, he didn't want to play by the rules we had (play safe and tell me what he was doing) and I got tired of his lying to me so we seperated. It's certainly not an easy thing to have someone you love prefer to spend time with other people, but don't jump to any conclusions.
2006-12-02 08:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by mmcmullenrider 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your moms advice is based on your husband being gay. you don't know he's gay! Don't leave your husband over what you think he is doing. He is obviously not happy with your marrige. maybe thats why he spends so much time with hs friend. I've done it myself. when I didn't want to see my wife I went out. Find ways to make him want to see you. get a make-over, tease him, do anything. cutting a man off is just asking for trouble.... sorry but thats how it is. ecspecially in marrige.
2006-12-02 07:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by kgsult 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, first of all please for the love of god, wake up !!!! you have no idea what he is doing with roger. might i suggest you sit down with your husband and ask him what is going on. then later ask roger the same question before your husband gets to him first. that way if there is something you need to know then there answers will be different. and if they are the same answer then you have nothing to fear. but sounds like to me the problem isn't your husband and roger, it is in you. chances are you are pushing him away for some reason and that is way he is running around with roger. and the whole sex thing you and your husband need to iron that out alone.
2006-12-02 08:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jeffery B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is simply talk to him and tell him your fears. If he is gay or bi, he will most likely not admit it anyway. Do you know anybody who knows this Roger guy? Is he single or married? Maybe you can do some asking around about him.
2006-12-02 08:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you should do and do it now is sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him, tell him that someone tells you he is cheating and probably that he is gay. this should get his attention and then you need to talk it out. If he loves you and you love him then you should have a clear understanding after the talk which is what you want anyway. you should have this talk tonight and get it straight before you and him ruin your marriage
2006-12-02 08:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to your husband about this not yahoo people.
2006-12-02 10:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋