Amidst all the happiness that surrounds the Holiday Season, I have always found it to be a bit of a sad time of year as well. Christmas Carols even seem to have a hint of melancholy to them. And it seems that you hear about more bad things hapenning during Christmastime.
Why does such a happy time also hold a bit of saddness?
2006-12-02 07:52:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I feel sad around Christmas, too- for many reasons.
1. This will be my first Christmas without my mom.She passed away in February. The family Christmases I remember are those with all my brothers and sister and my parents. My mom made our Christmases special.
2. The weather. It is very cold, snowy and gray here in Ohio. It will be that way until April or May. So, the lack of sun sometimes causes the blues.
3. I have high expectations at the Christmas and they usually are not met. So, I set myself up for disappointment. Now, I lower my expectations (of myself and others) and have a nicer time. Whatever happens- happens.
Some of the Christmas songs are a bit sad- because we know what lies ahead for the Baby Jesus.
Cheer up a bit. Enjoy what happens to you.
If you are very sad and can't seem to get over it, I suggest you talk to a counselor who may be help you through it.
2006-12-02 08:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have bitter-sweet memories of Christmas. I have some wonderful times to remember, but they often had punctuations of sadness when one person would start up a fight when everything was going well. I also miss that I never knew my grandparents; so I don't have any memories of them as part of my life. I had relatives that lived fairly close, but we only spent one Christmas with one of those families. It turned out to be very awkward because my sister and I got far more presents than they did. It sort of spoiled Christmas to actually get together. That was decades ago. I haven't spent any holidays with my sister since I moved to the East coast over twenty years ago. I am generally pretty happy, but the fact that my children don't really have memories of my family at all. One year, though, I was thinking about all the traditions that we celebrate, and I realized that neither I nor anyone else was likely to actually have any of it. Although I have fond memories visiting one Aunt and uncle and family, they DID NOT live in a sparkling Victorian home a la Thomas Kincaid; no matter how many times I listened to Steve and Edie sing "Sleigh Ride," we had never ridden in a sleigh; it didn't snow often where I grew up in California, and now that I live on the East Coast, there is a lot more time spent on digging out of the snow than caroling through the neighborhood with hot cocoa. There are MOMENTS like this occasionally, but it doesn't actually typify our experiences. I became happier when I realized just how unreal it all was. Seeing these the unreal dreams that they are made me feel a lot less depressed for not having them. I was sharing this with a friend one time, and a few days later, my friend had sent me a gift certificate for a real sleigh ride! It was so wonderful. and I pictured it happening just as the songs promise. But, just like all the other dreams, we were not ever able to take this trip (I let her know so that she might get her money back). We had three little ones, and we were never able to make the drive to actually take the trip.But it was just as magical as the sparkling Victorian home, -- and I will be forever grateful that she made that happen for me -- even in my imagination.
2014-12-07 12:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Claudia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's because of all the fake media hype about people being in states of accelerated happiness. There's lots of stress over family issues, too much food and drink (or, for some, not enough), pressure to find just the right gift for people you may or may not really know or care about well enough for it to make sense... Many people go into deeper debt at Christmas, if you have kids you have to go to programs and do gift exchanges for them and their friends.
You have to pretend to be happy the whole time even if you're not or people will call you a scrooge or a grinch.
2006-12-02 08:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents finalized their divorce right before Christmas (a long time ago) and it was the saddest Christmas ever. Since then I have had trouble really feeling happy at this time of year. Especially since after that they fought over who I was going to spend Christmas with and I went to each of them every other year and would miss the other one.
2006-12-02 08:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes very much so. It is because of the cold, damp depressing wheather and the thoughts of Christmases psat with loved ones that are no longer here. You are not alone, alot of people get depression around the holidays and the suicide rate is quadruple of any other time of year!
2006-12-02 07:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Christmas used to be a happy time for me but since ive left for college it is so sad for me.
2006-12-02 07:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by incubabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel like your the only one.My mom feels that way too on holidays sometimes.
2006-12-02 07:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not me i put lively Christmas songs.and i put my red pajamas,and go to my daughter house and we have fun with my grand-son seeing him to open his gifts,and then we eat.
2006-12-02 13:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by cilia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my mother.
2006-12-02 07:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is what you make it. I think it's wonderful.
2006-12-02 08:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋