i play a lot of boys sports like wrestling and so on. my friend has a diff bf every 2-3 weeks, me on the other hand i have never had a boyfriend. i dont think it is the looks well it might be , i like a lot of people but no one ever likes me, they just treat me like one of the guys and are always giving me crap about being a girl. my friends mom said i was just like she was, to much of thier friend and thats why, but i am starting to think i will never get a bf, most people just wory about not currently having a bf, im worried about not ever having one, i am being myself around them.
2006-12-02 07:30:06 · 7 answers · asked by ohh babyyy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
thanks but sometimes the guys are like you dont even have a chance with anybody,then one day one of the guys named clayton got a girl friend and this guy named jaelen came up to me and said if he can get a girl you can get a boy so that made me feel like crap, then he told the whole wrestling team that he t-bagged me and if you dont know what that means it is ok, its not that important. i think he doesnt want me to get a bf.
2006-12-02 08:19:39 · update #1
You sound young. When I was a teenager (when dinosaurs roamed the earth) I was terrrified of girls and nothing changes. Boys are still the same. Your friend is doing her own thing with boys but don't worry cause your doing your own thing with sport. Theres no right or wrong. Oh and if wrestling is a boys sport how come the woman on Gladiators are to die for. Don't worry, you'll probably find that because of your sports you'll find someone who shares the same interests as you and that type of relationship is gonna be the one to last. Not the social butterflies your friends dating. I work with a woman who is "still" a tomboy but she could have any man she wants as a boyfriend because she is stunning - Like all women, as she got older she got more beautiful and those lads who were playing football with her are now trying to win her heart with flowers and fancy restaurants. Just be true to yourself and you can't go wrong.
Just read your second part - Sounds like the guys a jerk. Just remember this. One day men like him will come crawling to a girl like you because you sound like you have a good nature about you. I can't comment on your looks but I know many a young girl always think they look worse than what they really are. It sounds like your mature enough to have a relationship with someone but the "boys" you hang round with probably think giving wedgies is still cool. Dont worry, your day will come and it will be you that gets to pick and choose. You just have to believe in yourself. Men do find that important in a woman. Note that I said men and not the boys your surrounded by. By the way - their treatment of you is just bullying and it just shows up their own insecurities.
2006-12-02 07:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you play a lot of boy sports, it doesn't mean that you can't work on your looks and your interaction with girls and boys.
Try to play up your feminine side a bit when you aren't involved in the sports. Act like a lady.
Enjoy your friends and see what develops.
It's true, you will have a boyfriend at some point, so don't worry or dwell too much. Try to enjoy your life now, as it is. It will happen when the time is right and the person is right.
2006-12-02 18:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Shars 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad I am the same way. I have never hadboyfriend either but I don't care. You'll get a boyfriend. But for now just enjoy not having a boyfriend. I know that I'd rather get a boy as a friend then as a boyfriend. It would cause too much trouble and then I would feel uncomfortable around them. Just keep being yourself around them. When the right one comes around he'll treat you like a boy and a girl. He won't always treat you like one of the guys and will treat you like you want to be. Just keep being yourself.
2006-12-02 16:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, when my sister started high school, boys and even her girl friends were quite cruel to her, making her first two weeks of grade 9 hell. There was nothing she did to instigate it -- sometimes people (particularly young people) are fickle and don't think for themselves. She completely lost confidence in herself and fretted about her appearance which I'm worried you are doing.
Well, she turned into a knock out --- and those same boys who made fun of her later asked her out on dates (and then it was she who rejected them). My hottie sister's first boyfriend happened AFTER high school and happens to be still with him. I'm not saying don't date, just watch how much emphasis you place on it. I've seen so many girls give up friends and other activities just to be with a guy (some of them dumb at that!)
The right one is worth the wait.
2006-12-02 16:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like those sports do those sports
I have alot of guy friends that like tomgirls
Be a little girly like get some cute jeans \
Wear your hair straight or curly once in a while
Your you and thats what matters!
2006-12-02 15:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Just continue being yourself and eventually someone will come into your life who likes you for who you are and that will be the best person in your life other than your parents.
2006-12-02 21:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to be selective than a hussy.
Maybe they just think you are interested in them as friends, and that's why they don't ask you out. Or, you could always ask them out too.
2006-12-02 15:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by ANSWER MY QUESTION!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋