Do you think its right that if you have a child by an ex, that his new partner should have a say on visitations? do you think that its fair that the child calls her mom knowing that he already has one? Do you think its right that she tries to tell you that you need to hand over custody so she can be the mom? DO to the situation this girl wont let me see my child his father tells me if i attemp to he will disappear.Please i need advise thanks from a mom whos heart that aches.
2006-12-02 07:20:52 · 8 answers · asked by mystery 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
beat that bitc*'s a** and get your kid take the as*hole father to court get structured visitations aand do it fast before he takes off w/ your kid!!!!!!!!
2006-12-02 07:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am a little confused here.Apparently you have custody because you said that the woman your husband is with now says you should hand over custody, but you also say that the girl will not let you see the child and the father says if you attemp to, he will disapear??? Now , if you are trying to see this child when it is your husbands visitation time, Why ? It is his time. No, the woman has no right to tell you , you need to hand over custody so she can be the mom. She is out of bounds. Then the child calling her mom. I am not sure of this childs age but, if it a small child and there are other children there that belongs to the woman your husband is with and they are all of the time calling her mom, maybe he just thinks her name is mom. If it is a very young child, i would not be concerned about that. As far as her having any say in visitation time. If it is a scheduled visitation with the father , she has nothing in it. If it is a non scheduled day or week-end and you want him to take the child, i feel he should discuss this with her, after all, this would be ( their ) time together and she may have plans, even if it is just to spend some quiet quality time with her man. I do feel there are some real issues here and i would not know why there should be. I would say you need legal advise. Get scheduled visitation and stick with that. When you start swapping days and week-ends and there is another person involved, then that person should be considered.If you were with a man who had children and it was a non visitation week-end, don't you feel he should discuss this with you? And it is your ex-husbands place to ask her if she minds the changes. If there is good communication between the adults, the better things should be for all concerned. This is most likely not the advice you wanted but, since there are so many people involved, i try to see each one's side.
2006-12-02 15:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman sounds crazy. I have a stepson who is now 10, when my husband and I first started dating he was 4, I never tried to get him to call me mom. In fact it would have made me very uncomfortable if he had. The main thing though is that no matter what she says, or does you need to always think about your son before you react to her. I don't mean she should get away with this, I just think you should handle it in a way that you look like the mature one. Children are so Innocent they can't help that their parents didn't stay together, and they shouldn't be in the middle of arguments between the parents either. If they are not letting you see him you need to get a lawyer and take it back to court, just don't talk to your son about it though because he can't do anything about it anyway. The only thing you should say to him is that no matter what you love him and will always.
2006-12-02 15:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kari M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visitation should be according to the divorce decree. Any alterations would be a violation of the law and subject to charges. Parental alienation is also against the law and could be brought up as a charge against someone (one parent poisioning the kids against the other). If a parent deprives the kids of the other parent, the kids will eventually hate that parent (the one who deprived them). Either way, the kids should not have to pay the price for your poor relationship or relationship problems. Maybe some counseling would help.
2006-12-02 15:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people with any say are you and the father. Of course, the father is influenced by his new partner. The court needs to decide on visitation and custody. If they take off with your kid and do not abide by the legal rules then if they are caught they may forfeit all rights.
2006-12-02 15:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is rough! But you need a attorney to redo the visitation ! Yes there are woman that just like monkeys take the child for there own......but really no matter what you are the mother and the kid will always think of you more than of her.Its nature! so dont worry blood is thicker than water.But do show your rights if you can .Wish u the best!
2006-12-02 15:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by jessy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen very close I have been in custody situations before and I can tell you from experience what your ex is doing is wrong... You are the mother of this child and no one will ever replace that.. It is your ex'es responsability to make sure that you are a part of that childs life and if he dosn't there are laws to protect you.. It is ok for him to remarry and this person to care about your child but they will never replace the one thing god gave you.. This is your child and that is that.....
2006-12-02 15:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by undecided 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice that you need.......should come from a lawyer.
2006-12-02 15:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋