me and my girlfriend are both 13. i asked her out a few eeks ago because she was my friend, her boyfriend (my friend also)broke up with her, and i was waiting for the time i could ask her out(of course i didnt do it RIGHT after they broke up, but soon after). we went ice skating twice and we talk,hug, if the teachers arent lookin, we kiss each other(just little pecks), at the lunch table. this is my first girl friend, but i dont know how to tell my parents. i just wanna know how, why, when? she already told her parents and my parents already know who she is, but not to much.
2006-12-02 07:15:11 · 17 answers · asked by jim h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell them in any case. Maybe not right out: I’m dating etc
But let them participate in your happiness.
(If you are not happy, forget the whole thing)
Like that they will accept your emotion more easily (first hint at possible later separation etc)
Include them in your experience.
You might want to rely on them in some later situation, include them now!
2006-12-02 09:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by saehli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 40 and if my son brings a girl home I'm chuffed that he's got himself a girlfriend. They (your parents) probably do what I do and put 2 and 2 together anyway and assume any girl your see is a girlfriend. The hard bit will be staying friends with your mate. Remember he will be angry with you but if you ride the storm and can remain friends no matter how hurt you both get then you'll have a mate for life. As for the "rule" you have to be 16 before dating?!? I was 11 with my first girlfriend and we didn't do anything that can't be classed as innocent. I didn't turn into some axe wielding homicidal maniac either. I have my own business and have made a good life for myself. Dating is fun so you enjoy yourself kid just remember those lyrics by Adam and the Ants (ok before your time ;-)
Let all the braggers brag
Virginitys no crime
Your body should be yours
and sharing it sublime.
2006-12-02 07:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my son turns 13 (ten years from now) I hope he feels he can talk to me. It would be nice to be able to talk to your mom & dad at the same time when they're not distracted (example: over dinner or watching nothing-in-particular on tv). If it's too much for you, pick a parent you feel more comfortable with knowing that they can tell the other. Of course they're going to ask questions so be prepared..the topic of 'sex' may come up and that's okay because they just want to be sure you know all the issues, (relationships get complicated when sex is involved).
I hope you still have open communication with your parents through your teens, (so often it seems to disappear).
Be brave!
2006-12-02 07:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Shorty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From where I stand, there isn't that much to say at this point. Perhaps just a simple "Mom, I really like so-and-so, and we've been hanging out more recently."
Then when she/they ask about it you can expand, if necessary. It's true, you should be prepared for your parents to want to talk to you about sex, relationships, etc. That's OK, it's important to hear their thoughts.
Re: your "girlfriend" ... be kind and good to her. Treat her like a lady. Be honest with her. You are indeed very young, so keep things on the slow/innocent side!
P.S. It's marvelous that you want to share your feelings/thoughts with your parents. Keep that up, too, as best you can...
2006-12-02 10:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Shars 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dont be scared! Its ok just tell them that you have met a girl and that you really like her. You guys have hung out and you hang out at school. Honestly guys parents are so much cooler with that kind of stuff.. but boy you will be ok just tell them about her.
2006-12-02 07:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way i told my parents about one of my boyfriends was i waited until a skool dance and i would be like bye mom im gonna go hang out with 20 other couples and theyll be like are you going with someone and thats your chance. My mom just asked right off the bat if i was going with someone. best of luck and happy holidays.
2006-12-02 07:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my son told me he had a GF, he was 5. I was excited. As long as she's a good kid, your parents shouldn't mind, if you think they will mind tell them you have a BOY friend, if they freak out tell them you're kidding, you have a Girl friend, then they'll be happy.
2006-12-02 08:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I will have to say that you two are way to young to be dating or doing anything else for that matter. If I were your parent, you would have known my rule which is no dating or group dating until you are 16. If I caught you dating then it would be moved to 18 & out of my house. Which means no prom.
Just tell your parents and hope that they won't ground you for life.
Again 13 is way too young to date or group date.
2006-12-02 07:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just tell them. I think that they would appreciate the fact that you want them to know what's going on in your life. I also think they would really be happy that you can come to them and talk to them about anything. Good luck!
2006-12-02 14:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents how you feel about this girl and make sure you tell them you are not intrested in doing anything sexual with her and ask them for their advice on the matter.
2006-12-02 13:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋