Why am I having such a hard time making friends in High School?

Question

There are so many cliques and groups and I just don't fit in any of them. I can't relate to anyone. Everyone is just so different than me. What should I do?

Answer 1

If you keep seeing the differences instead of the common threads then you will always feel separate. Take a look around in your classes at first. I would guess if you can find a common thread with someone you could at least comment and make contact. Keep throwing lines out there and you will eventually have someone throw one back to you. Keep an open mind, sometimes your closest friends end up being someone you didn't have a lot in common with.

Answer 2

Continue to be yourself, don't change to fit the cliques and groups, It may take time but you will find friends is school who appreciate your unique nature. High school can be a scary environment, especially when you consider yourself so much different then the general students. Remember that high school is just a step toward the future, if you can stay true to yourself now your one step up in the game of life. Good Luck

Answer 3

people are all different not only from you but from each others too. So the only thing is you to be open to everyone and adjust to the situations you are in. Also don't try to find people like you cause you might never find them. No need to waste time.

Answer 4

Suggestions:

Start your own clique/group. invite ANY one who hangs out with you.

have someone over to your house. I invited someone over, and we are the bestest friends!

Answer 5

There is no substitute for a friend!

What is friendship? Friendship is an in-depth relationship. Friendship is comfortable and relaxed. Friendship requires meeting the needs of both friends.

Building a friendship from casual friends. Building friendships takes time. Friendships require self-disclosure so any friendship has risks, Talking and listening builds friendships. Friendships require equality and loyalty from friends.

Maintenance of friendships is crucial. Friendships can not be neglected. One-on-one contact is a prerequisite of friendships. Friends must be flexible. Conflict must be resolved for friendships to continue.

Friendships do end. Friendships may not last. Friendships can lose importance and die gradually. Some friendships end abruptly with unresolved conflict. The worst enemy of friendships is change by one or both friends. There is usually pain with the loss of friendship.

Setting Limits in Friendships Friendships as well as all other relationships must have limits. You set limits with your friends because you care for them and your relationship with them, not because you don't.

Manipulation: If you think you are being manipulated, either by a friend, mate/lover, or relative, take this short test to check it out.

Conversation: Being able to carry on a comfortable conversation with a social acquaintance is a matter of practice and following certain procedures in communicating. It also works for best friends, too.

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Best Friends: How to Grow a Friend
A twelve-step program

The best time to grow a best friend is before you need one!

Written or compiled by Joy Stevens


1. People Equal Friends.
There is a certain chemistry with friends just as in a love relationship. Therefore, contact with other people is the first building block to grow a friend. Friends can't grow in a vacuum. Best friends take time.
2. Talking Is Essential Among Friends.
Talking between friends requires reciprocity. In a mutually satisfying friendship, both friends talk and both friends listen. Friends talk appropriately to each other.
3. Friends Acknowledge Friends.
Friends acknowledge each other when talking. Many conflicts in your personal relationships can be avoided if you will take the time to acknowledge other's feelings and points of view.
4. Friends Listen to Friends.
Listening to friends in an important step in building a closer friendship. We often take listening for granted, never realizing what it means to really listen to a friend.
5. Friends Attend to Friends.
Friends focus during conversations. Friends pay attention in conversations. It means that your ears, your eyes, your body and your feelings are all focused on that person at the time.
6. Friends Show Empathy With Friends.
Empathy is identifying with your friend's feelings and seeing life through your friend's eyes. Confidences are freely given when they are received with empathy among friends.
7. Friends Touch Friends.
Touching is a warm form of communication between friends. When you see best friends communicating, you will notice friends "listen with their eyes," stand close together, and touch comfortably.
8. Friends Praise Friends.
Affirmation is a powerful tool for growing a friend. Genuine praise can affect your friends' lives. Be liberal with praise for all of your friends, including your casual ones.
9. Friends Are Loyal and Trustworthy.
Trust and loyalty go hand-in-hand for friends. Friends can trust you with their secrets, both large and small, because good friends never break a confidence. Good friends are forever loyal!
10. Friends are Equal.
Friends are on a seesaw. In a healthy relationship, friends are equals. Not 50/50 every time, of course, but with a true, lasting friendship it always evens out in the end.
11. Friends Reveal Their Feelings.
We feel closest to our friends when we are suffering together, when we feel like our friend needs us, or when we feel a friend has shared something of great importance with us.
12. Friends Do Not Mind Read.
The person who thinks, "If you really liked me, you could read my mind" can not have an adult friendship. No friend can read your mind. And you can not read your friend's mind.



STEP 1: Be loquacious, gregarious, chatty, talkative, friendly, outgoing, amiable, congenial, neighborly, sociable, approachable, easygoing and otherwise chummy. STEP 2: Introduce yourself to those in your dorm and class. STEP 3: Show up early for orientation. STEP 4: Attend parties, sports events and special gatherings where people socialize. STEP 5: Remain open to new cultures, ideas and values. STEP 6: Invite people to join you for a bite to eat and a drink. STEP 7: Offer to give people a ride somewhere. STEP 8: Study in groups. STEP 9: Reach out to others when they need help. STEP 10: Join a student group or sports team. STEP 11: Explore the Greek system. STEP 12: Throw a party. Tips & Warnings
Give people a second chance if they make a bad first impression.
Let people open up to you slowly. Make sure you are not forcing yourself upon someone.


GOOD LUCK DEAR FRIEND

Answer 6

maybe joining a club or trying out for a sports team might open that up for you.