I broke off a 5-month relationship a few weeks ago and don't feel ready to start a new one *quite* yet - All the same, I was curious about how long it usually takes people to be ready for a new, "healthy" relationship, as opposed to a "rebound" one. So what have your experiences been? What's worked best for you? What hasn't worked? Thanks muchly. :)
2006-12-02 06:25:36 · 21 answers · asked by lovesickness_rocks 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi. You made me do a quick inventory of all my broken hearts (sigh) and memory shows me that I usually gave myself the gift of 6 months to a year before I started noticing again. Hope you feel better soon. I am sorry. It hurts, but you know what....in the end, you will look back and be glad.
2006-12-02 06:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is how it stands. It is not a matter of how long to wait but rather, is there someone who makes you happy now? If so hang out with him but take things slowly.If that person is not there then take your time. Better no relationship then one that is going to not be right so do not rush things. Also keep in mind the Mr. Right will come along when the time is right. When he gets here you do not want him to think he is what you found on the rebound so if you want to date now keep this all in mind. You are dating cause it makes you feel good and not to take the place of something that was not working anyways.
2006-12-02 06:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know people that broke up 10 years ago and are still not really ready to date. It depends on how much you loved the person. ALso, when you do start, you might be very depressed because the new person you are with is not the one you thought you'd spend your life with. That's where I am right now. You might keep comparing the new people you meet with the ex and they can't seem to measure up. Then you get depressed. I'd rather be alone than with the headcases I've been meeting online. The ones I've seen in the bars seem like desease infested lowlife.
2006-12-03 14:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the person and the situation. I was in a 5 year marriage, that ended a year ago. Other factors were present, but from a "getting over" and not wanting to rebound, I would suggest at least 6 months to a year in order to let your heart heal.
I hope this helps...
2006-12-02 06:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Agustin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I was with a girl for 7 years and it took around 6 months to a year...I had a small relationship only a month after the break-up and it really helped me move on, but it was definatly a "rebound" kind of thing.....try being single for awhile....there is no rush
2006-12-02 06:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by surfmerrick24 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that all relationships (pretty much) are "rebound" ones. I think that if you want to have a fling and you are single, than go for it. But, if the right person "falls" into your lap in the meantime, go for that too. Sometimes, the "right" one comes into your life when you least expect it and when you are least ready for it. But, don't let it pass you by because you think you might be on the rebound.
2006-12-02 06:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, first ask yourself what kind of relationship you were in. If your bf/gf was good to you and you can honestly say you still love and respect him/her, I'd wait a while. If you're bf/gf wasn't good to you and he/she cheated or was abusive etc....then I would just get over him/her and get on with life. also....consider how long you've been dating him/her before you broke up. There never really was no set limit on when a person could rebound, I guess it just changes with who you are. The best advice is to just be patient and let them come to you....give yourself a chance to fall in love again, hopefully this time fore real.
2006-12-02 06:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Derek S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been single for 5 years, after my last break up I am tired of meeting people just to be played with and let down. I have been trying for the last year to meet Ms Right, but I am starting to see there is no such person for me, so I am just chilling and enjoying my life with family and friends. If you meet someone nice that is great, best wishes to you. :)
2006-12-02 09:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's all about personal preference....I was in a 6year relationship, broke it off and the next day I met the guy I'm with now, we've been together almost 4 years and are getting married next year...so there's no "Right" anwer for this question follow your heart
2006-12-02 06:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I see my relationship failing I start looking for a replacement before the break up.
2006-12-02 08:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Gail 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋