I'm 30 my boyfriend is 52, 1 yr older than my mom. We are in love and talking about marriage...my mom is single and can't find anyone. She doesn't know my boyfriend although she has meet him and has spent brief moments here and there with him, but she hates him. (She said so.) At my age it doesn't matter but I was just wondering do you guys think she hates him because she's jealous?
2006-12-02 06:21:29 · 16 answers · asked by whoamitojudge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Possibly, but maybe she thinks you can find someone your own age? Or that he isn't good enough cause of his actions (worried about his actions or motives cause she's your mother and cares for you) or simply because she is stirrr crazy of the stereo-type-AGE. Or maybe no offense she likes him, or cause of the fact that all men around her age are looking for young women like yourself and not her age.....and that the younger men are rocking the cradle or in it for only ONE thing.......see if your BF has any friends........she's lonely and humane you can't blame her tooo much. =)
2006-12-02 06:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope - she does because that is what mother-in-laws do for entertainment. They hate the son-in-law or the future son-in-law (i.e. Boyfriend). The fact that she is 52 and still playing this game says she does not have much faith in your choices either. Mothers are terribly jealous of daughters at about 16 to 22 as it means they are O-l-d and the "youngster" can have everything "she" never had. If she is still jealous that would be rare. If she says she hates him - ask her why - and make her give you a good answer. If she has no reason that is logical - tell her that, If her reason is logical - forget about love for a minute and consider it carefully as your future depends on it.
2006-12-02 06:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest yes. I dated then married a man 18 yrs older than me and my mother was jealous of him. At the time I was 25 he's in his late 40's now. It's really sick if you think about it. Age is just a number and as long as you two are happy thats all that matters. It's not your fault she can't find anyone but she shouldn't take it out on you. Best of luck!
2006-12-02 06:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that your mom is partially jealous... But, she probably hates that fact that you are dating someone older than she is. That's gotta' be tough for her. She probably wants you to find someone your own age. And she probably wishes that she could too. But, if the two of you are TRULY happy, then like you said, it doesn't matter. My husband is 8 years older than I am and this is the best relationship that I've ever had. But, every relationship where the couple differ by more than, I'd say, six years or so, is going to face some challenges. Good luck. I wish you many happy years together.
2006-12-02 06:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At age 52 a man he'll say anything to a thirty year old to sleep with her. He doesn't want marriage or children he just wants sex. He's way past his prime for that. It's not that your mother is jealous it's just that she is your mother and she is trying to be your mother. She is protecting you, you maybe thirty but you are still her baby. She probably sees what is going on in that realtionship. What he actually wants and she knows what she is probably telling you. Just be careful and talk to you're mother about this. This is the same thing over and over. Ya know.. it happens all the time. I mean I know I've seen it alot where this is the case. Here is what you do tell him you want to run off to vegas and get married. If he loves you then he'll do it. If he doesn't love you then he'll make up some lame excuse to get out of it. Good luck
2006-12-02 06:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by NERDGASM 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's definitely a possibility. Especially since she doesn't KNOW him. You should ask her to give you some concrete reasons as to why she "hates" him despite the fact that she hasn't spent a substantial amount of time with him.
2006-12-02 06:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. If she loves you then she will accept your choices whether she likes them or not. I'm 27 dating a man of 45. My mother doesn't like it and has told me so...I finally told her to just drop it...that I love her and respect her...but she can't live my life for me.
2006-12-02 06:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could be jealous,or just concerned about age difference
2006-12-02 06:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by blushlilac 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is because your bf is older than your mom.
2006-12-02 06:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Webballs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Motherly instinct might be telling her of some dark secret he is keeping from you. Have you had him inveatigated yet you might want to.
2006-12-02 06:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by bingomom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋