I mean when you meet a guy and go out with him...he could be very nice and god person...but if those tiny things ( when he doesn't smell good, when he doesn't order something else after one hour, he made us sit in inapropriate table cuz it was huge for two people...etc) can ruin our impression?? How to react?
2006-12-02 06:12:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's just a fact of life. You like the fantasy of him being perfect. But when you get to know anyone you become aware of their faults and all. You need to decide do you really like him or just the illusion of the perfect guy?
2006-12-02 06:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Details bring the impressions closer towards reality. You need to point out those little things during casual conversation. Not all at once and certainly don't blame him! The biggest mistake women consistently make is not communicating their feelings in a negotiating manner but even more critical is the expectation that guys are somehow psychic. WE REALLY CANNOT READ YOU MINDS! :) My fiance' is constantly amazed when she just takes the time to point out what irked her, its so much easier too when she listens to what I was feeling, thinking or intending at the time. Communicate! Good luck!
2006-12-02 14:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Darryl S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's most important to you? What he orders or if he orders for you? WHy should it all be up to him to make a date great? you didn't mention anything that's worth much as far as his character or personality. Does he talk about himself constsntly or brag about his paycheck? Or did he ask you questions about yourself and give you compliments?
Go to www.tangomagazine.com and read about dating behaviors and tips.
You sound like you're too shallow and superficial, and maybe a little too critical. I bet you were really fun to go out on a date with...........
Learn some flexibility or enjoy your solitude!
2006-12-02 14:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they bother you now whats it going to be like in twenty years? Some times we men do things just to impress you ladies. Talk to him and find out his intentions. Not everyone is a Casanova.
2006-12-02 14:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Carl-N-Vicky S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How to react? Perhaps you need to decide what YOUR priorities are. What things are most important to you? Does he have THOSE qualities? If so, the little stuff is meaningless.
2006-12-02 14:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋