I need help ASAP!!?

Question

Ok I have a serious issue...my friends b/f text me yesterday saying he wanted to talk to me and I got the impression something was wrong so I asked him if he was ok and he said yeah he was fine...then later on I got another text from him and it said "you be a good girl tonight I will be thinking of you" YIKES!!! I have never, ever sent the message that I was interested in him, hes dating my friend for cripes sake. Now I don't know what to do b/ if I stop hanging out with them she will start to wonder, but if I keep hanging out with them I will feel not only awkward around him but be adding to the problem. I never picked up on his feelings but he really didn't act any different or look at me "that way" you know....The last thing I need right now is this problem. NOTE: There is no way in HELL I would do anything with him at all but should I talk to him anyway and tell him that he can't do this to me or her and work out his problems with her and leave me outta it? He is fantasizing!!!

I appreciate serious advice thanks!!! This guy has felt this way for who knows how long and now I feel really weird!!

And I cannot stress enough that I will NOT EVER go behind my friends back and fool around with her b/f

Answer 1

This one is straight forward. Clearly he makes you uncomfortable with his e-text. You be a good girl I will be thinking of you might mean he is thankful you will speak to him. Something might be on his mind but it does not necessarily equate with him wanting to do something behind his gf's back... you know - birthday surprise planned for her that kind of thing.

On the other hand if you really feel that is his intention, e-text him and ask him exactly what he wishes to discuss and when he tells you what it is, you might be releived. However, if he indicates attraction, tell him in no uncertain terms that you are not interested and that you have far more respect for his g/f than he seems to. I don't know how old you or he is or how long he has been seeing her but young love is frequently intense VERY and short with a max of 1 or 2 years. Fidelity and awakening sexuality can really impact morals.

I think you have your head screwed on right. Keep the text and if you don't like what he says, go to your g/f and say, it might be nothing but I respect you and our relationship too much not to say anything. Here check my texts. I don't want to cause any problems but I thought you should know. IF you think it is nothing, so will I. If you think he means something wrong, I suggest you text him on MY cell and lets see what he is really about. I am willing to stand by you whether its nothing or it's something very wrong.

The point is not to assume and not to take it on yourself. Let her decide what it is and challenge him to speak up and say what he has to say. Once you are past that and it is in the open, people will generally do what they believe is right for them. Be certain to tell your friend that you want her relationship to work but you are worried about the tone of the text. If she is your friend she will see your sincerity and your text messages and not turn on you. IF he is messing about she may be angry at you for sharing this with her (remember don't diss him just ask her to look at the text messages and to give you her impressions). If she makes the assumptions then it is back on her and him and you can be the supportive friend.
I hope this helps. I drew on my own experiences for the answer. Been there done that! Good Luck you seem like a nice person. She's lucky to have such a loyal friend.

Answer 2

talk 2 him and see what is going on. let him know that u r not interested in him n would never date anyone a friend has.

but be careful something simular happened 2 my daughter n later she found out he has sent the wrong text 2 the wrong person. also he went back n told his gf my daughters friend that my daughter had hit on him (because instead of talking 2 him through text or phone my daughter asked him 2 meet her so they could talk).

good luck

Answer 3

Go straight to your friend. First off, do you want your friend with a cheater? And second, if you hide it and she finds out she will never trust you again. Tell her what happened, show her the message and then step back away from the rest. Let the girl handle her stuff, but make sure that she knows that you support her and are there for her.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I would confront him and tell him how you feel. See what he says and if this is the way he meant it. Make sure you're not reading more into it then is there. If this is how he meant it, your feiend needs to know. Chances are, you're not the only one he's flirting with and your friend being in the dark is just wrong. It's hard to do but she deserves the truth.

Answer 5

1) Mistakes on cell phones are easy to make happen. He could have been trying to text your friend and texted you instead.

2) Have you SPOKEN with him? If you haven't, now is a great time. Don't accuse him of anything, just ask him if he meant to send you those texts. If no, then you're overeacting. If yes, then you need to put your foot down.

Answer 6

You can do either of two things--confess and tell all--or tell them you would rather not hang out and just let them be together and enjoy one another.

Answer 7

Yes, confront and confess the truth. Communicate!

Answer 8

Tell him to back up and not to say that stuff to you he is dating your friend and that if he does it again you will tell her (save the messages)

Answer 9

talk to him and make sure he understands that you have no interest in him. however, first make sure that he was meaning what you are thinking. maybe he thought he was sending that message to someone else. be careful that is a tough road.

Answer 10

I would tell him in no uncertain term's to knock it off! That you are not interested in him in any way and that if he does it again you will tell the G/F.