I just wanted to see if anyone could help me with the guy i like. To tell the truth with my last boyfriend i was young and liked 2 guy at once, i went out with the first one that asked and still regret it. When i was in a relationship me and the other guy flirted like mad but then when i split up with my b/friend he cooled off rather rapidly. I really like this guy and always have done, (i still get the butterflys when i speak to him!!) i know he has commitment issues. but i really want to be with him
So any ideas on what i can do?
Please help!
2006-12-02 06:04:27 · 10 answers · asked by sxiecat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im in the same situation as you and currently heartbroken :(
I have nearly risked it all for a guy who was nearly totally opposite as the one seeing.. who gave me butterflies. And has now just well.. left me alone.
But the solution answers to what has already been said here- COMMITMENT.
The excitement to the guy who you had a fling with was that of seeing a girl who had a boyfriend, and yet you was seeing him- instant confidence boost and reason for seeing you.
YET the minute that you give up your relationship, and turn to him- what happens? He suddenly doesnt want to know. Several phone calls and incessant interest has turned into not even answering his phone.
The "interest" of a single girl now all puppy and doe eyed after this guy is scary, and you are no longer of interest.
all this guy is interested in is playing around, and flinging with girls already in relationships, or as many as they can get their hands on- they are a common creed all across the country, and sadly, we, the innocent and loving girls have to suffer this and our hearts too along the way.
He will show no commitment but has backed off now seeing you come out of a relationship..looking for a relationship I.E him- of which he doesnt want. This guy is a flinger and ladies man, remember.
Give it up hun, before your heart breaks any further.
Just speaking from past experience and what i am currently going through. There are some good men out there- go find ;)
skye xxx
2006-12-02 06:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Skye_Babez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sxiecat
You were “safe” before, the guy knew you had a b/f so he wouldn’t have to really commit to you. Not your “not safe” you’re available and interested in him,, It’s like a dog chasing cars,, now he knows he can “catch you” and he’s not at all sure what to do. Maybe he’ll change and maybe he won’t. But it’s up to him and if he’s truly interested in you enough to commit. Give him some time but not "forever" if he can't change,, long term it wouldn't be a good situation anyway.
2006-12-02 14:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want what isn't ours, and then when we can have it, most of us take it for granted. This guys sounds flighty and fickle. Just get to know him a little more, hang out and see if you guys really have something. Then see how you feel. Ive always found that I like a person alot more when I first meet them then after I get to know them. Good Luck!
2006-12-02 14:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by ziomy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has committment issues? it probably wont' work outt. if he can't learn to committ, he'll go out and cheat on youu. you should talk to each other alot more and see if he still likes you and what he's willing to do for you. then see what happens from there.
2006-12-02 14:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tinaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you like him tell him whats up and how you feel there is no need for the games just be honest
2006-12-02 14:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful... seems like he might enjoy the chase a whole lot more than the capture. :o)
2006-12-02 14:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a gf ''HES TAKEN!!!'' lol...If he hasn't, ask him out and when the moment is right, tell him how you feel. good luck
2006-12-02 14:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. If he has committment issues--don't go there.
2006-12-02 14:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just a fling. You just need todo it and get it out your system..
2006-12-02 14:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by leah d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GO FOR IT
2006-12-02 14:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋