One of my best friends accidently sent me a text message meant for her boyfriend calling me a bi*ch and that i'm a sh*t friend. it was completely out the blue and uncalled for. I asked her about and she said she just feels I put all my other friends over her, which is untrue. but it worries me that she can talk about me like this, god knows what she says when i have done something wrong! she says she is sorry but if she had sent it to her b.f, she wouldn't have been. i love her and feel really let down. what should i do?
2006-12-02 05:52:18 · 13 answers · asked by Tara B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Betrayal of friendship is one of the hardest things to overcome in life. If this is the first time this friend has done something that calls your friendship into question accept her apology and let it go. If not maybe it's time to put the friendship on hold until she can show you she's worth the time and energy you put into the friendship. Remember that your friends are only human, sometimes they feel unwanted and they react badly to these new feelings. I hope this was of some help. Good Luck
2006-12-02 05:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard call because a true frined would have come to you, not complained behind your back. Would really make me question trusting her in the future. But if you truly care about her and think maybe this was a fluke thing, that maybe she was just mad at the moment and said things she really regrets, then I would work on keeping the friendship together. True friends are so hard to find aren't they? I know many times people say things out of hurt or anger that they don't mean and later regret it. You just need to decide if it's worth it to keep her as a friend. Is this the first time she's done something like this? I'm soryr you're going through this. It's so painful when a friend turns on you. Many hugs!
2006-12-02 13:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by MasLoozinIt76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you do have reason to feel disillusioned and let down!
That was pretty sneeky and if I were you I'd be downright hurt and indignant. Do you really want a friend like that?
Examine your relationship with her, if you see other signs of this double-facedness jus' bail. If you think this was a one-time thing caused by something that you might have unintentionally done to upset her then it's another issue and requires alotta reflection and talking. But whatever you do you do not want someone snitching behind your back!
2006-12-02 13:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anu_K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends come and go......I've been there I don't even want to get into it but it was some really low bulls***t. Girls can be malicious, vindictive, jeoulous and on some misery loves company level. If it was out of the blue.....I don't know seems a little weird to me? Have you been not seeing her lately or blowing her off and not meaning to cause of the hectic errands in your life?? Or maybe has it been her fault that you haven't seen her lately? How long have you known this girl? If it has been awhile, she should DEFINATELY have been upfront with you......Obviously she doensn't respect you that much to tell her own boyfriend this. Too be honest with you I wouldn't even want to be her boyfriend cause I would think to myself if she's talking about her own friend or best friend like this, what does she say about me or do behind my back?? Things happen for a reason I believe, and although you might be hurt at the fact.......you have to weigh out the good and bad......sometimes it's hard to even still be friends with someone like this. Cause she basically lost your trust and now you have to sit and wonder in the back of your mind every single time she's with you if she's going to talk about you or if you should tell her something cause than again she might run her mouth to everyone else??? Questions question, decisions, decisions I don't really know the girl....but she doesn't seem to be upfront at all she sounds like plastic to me and I wouldn't want to waste my time but everyone perceives things differently.....and has their own opinion about things. If you want observe, keep your eyes open step out of the box and test her for a little bit but as far as now I wouldn't trust her as far as I can throw her unless if you did something wrong and really hurt her feelings but she still could have been upfront with you. I dislike people like this and it aggravates me and although i don't know you I don't want to hear that you are getting walked all over on......Again test it out, and think logical about the situation and if it's even worth it? Good Luck!! =)
2006-12-02 14:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Friends make mistakes. Have a good talk. Work things out. And, if there is sincerity on both sides, be the stronger for it.
2006-12-02 13:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this so many times with my girlfriends. With my experience i recognize how it makes you feel and also how your friend feels. You feel like hurt disappointed,disrespected because you feel like you have not "given your other friends more attention" than you've given the friend that called you a sh*t friend.
However, Your friend feels that you have given them more attention. I think that its kinda cool that she obviously loves you. She just wants more of your time. Maybe she prefers to hang out with you alone sometimes instead of all of the girls. I've had friends like that. They used to fight over me. I'm not playing. I'm not exaggerating. I'm very serious. Kelly would have one of my arms and keasha would have the other arm, fighting over me, who i was going to hang out with. I decided that i would hang out with them on different days.
She has expressed how she felt & she meant it to go to her boyfriend not you. Right but i always say that "everything happens for a reason".
I understand how you feel, believe me. I just think that you should take into consideration how your friend feels. Its not like shes spreading rumors about you. Its not like she has talked about you to the other girls. She told her boyfriend, Most couples discuss everything and express how they feel about their friends, family, life etc Right? Its her man so don't be to mad at her. He probably would of advise her to speak with you about it.
Don't most couples discuss everything? When they are hurt, when they are mad, sad, happy.
2006-12-02 14:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would be considering this person a "good friend" more like a reluctant acquantance. These are just the things you know she has said about you, think about all the things she has said that you don't know about.
2006-12-02 13:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you need to be a better friend to her or she is just weird and not worth being friends with.
2006-12-02 13:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by kingofdabong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that that was nice of what she did but just try to be the better person and forgive her good luck :)
2006-12-02 13:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by !m bored! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really think shes great and all, then you should forgive her.
2006-12-02 14:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Unknown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋