My best friend,we've been friends for years, we're really close but sometime's she ignores me when someone else is there.
She knows I love her to bits(I'm not a lesbian). But whenshe really needs something of me we're so close then other time's I feel left out because she'll ignore me with other friends(they're my friends to).
I really dont know what to do. Should Ileave her and go my own way and let a friendship like that go away. Or should I tell her.
I'm really confused.......I dont know what to do.
I dont really want to tell her that 'Oh why do you keep on ignoring me' because she could think that am to clingy andam nothing without her.
2006-12-02 04:54:08 · 22 answers · asked by Betty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She dosen't act different when others are around it's just she sometime's ignores me.
2006-12-02 04:58:45 · update #1
She obviously changes her mind frequently about who she wants to be around. I'd go my own way, if I were you.
2006-12-02 04:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nadja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say you don't want to tell her how you feel, that makes me sad. Because talking and being open to someone is one of our biggest problems. We don't share our feelings enough because we always worry how the other person will feel. Well, what about your feelings? And if you are as close as you say you are then you should be able to tell her you are feeling a little ignored when other friends are around. Don't say it an angry way, tell her true feelings, just like you told us. If she is a close friend, then she will understand and may act differently.
However, some people have a hard time spreading their attention around. Maybe she can only address a certain amount of people at a time. And she may feel in her heart that you will be her friend no matter what because of your closeness with each other, and that's why she gives more attention to others when you are around. Its kind of like, I know she will always be there for me so I will talk to her later, let me talk with them only. That may not sound fair but if you really think about it, she can count on you and that's a good thing.
So go ahead, express your feelings. Because for you to post this question here, you must be feeling hurt at times.
Good Luck.
2006-12-02 05:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by megabites42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably likes being the centre of attention which means that she might see another friend that she thinks is 'cooler' and goes with them. I have this problem with a close friend and when she does this, I walk away and talk to my friends,that don't do this. I suggest you do this too. Don't follow her around, let her know that you're a leader :) x
2015-06-24 07:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't realize she's ignoring you, if she really is your best friend you should be able to tell her how you feel. I would ask her when it's just the two of you and also make sure to ask if there is anything you may be doing that causes her to do this. If she truly has your best interest at heart she'll listen if not then she's not a best friend. Friends don't ignore friends.
2006-12-02 05:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should let her know that you feel left out sometimes. dont ask her why she is ignoring you, because she might get mad and can always deny it. but the best way to approach her with this matter in my opinion is tell her that sometimes when she is with (name of the certain friend or friends), you feel that she is not
listening to you when she is with those people.
but if you tell her how you feel more than one time and she still keeps on ignoring you, you should just be plain friends with her.
or, if you do not like that idea, maybe you should feel more flexible and make some more friends, that way if she's ignoring you, you always have someone to turn to (but don't use them as a backup friend!!!!).
hope this helps!!!
2006-12-02 05:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by C♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen this happens a lot. The best thing to do is to find another friend to be close with and treat her like she treats you -not to make her feel bad or anything- It's just that at some time some friends can not be so close anymore because of many differences that arise by time.
2006-12-02 05:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by Bondok 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went throught the same thing with my "best friend" if we had class together, and sat right by eachother, she would hardly talk to me. She would be friendly with everyone else, and when she needed something thats when she would be my best best friend again. You do need to talk to her about, if she tries to twist it around and act like it's your fault, then it's not worth it. There are so many other people in the world. It's not worth the effort if youre the only one trying.
2006-12-02 04:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jahna S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my best friend do that too.
I can't say why we do but we can be frosty with one another.
but shake it off.
You should tell her you don't like it. Or ignore her and see how she likes it.
Though she might be able to talk to several people at the same time. I have this problem.
2006-12-04 04:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Recover3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl mj i have the same problem with my best friend last year she got a little know and she started to act all funny with me when she be around her other friend like we be walking and talking and then she see them and just walk away and dont even say bye but when she need something it was all like best friend... she is still like that now but i try not to let it get to me all i can say is try to do u now do what i did i got closer with my other friends she will come around trust!
2006-12-02 05:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by miss.#2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl don't trip on her ...if she was really your true friend she would treat you like she treats her other friends.....
but i understand how you could feel that way... cause i thought i had a close (like sister) friend ...and we work together . but we got in an arguement. and ever since she only talks to me about work( and that's if she has to)
remember... REAL friends will be there for you, listen to you, and evne when you argue, they will get over it and be friends again.
she doesn't sound like a real friend.....but also I always believe in telling a person how you feel. so maybe you should talk to her.
2006-12-02 04:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she is not really a true a friend because if she was then she would not act different around other people!
2006-12-02 04:57:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋