We have been married for 3 years and I was a wild child before we got married.
But no she constently blames me for this and that. Says I'm cheating on her with so and so..
I'm getting sick of it!!
Any advise?
2006-12-02 04:53:03 · 18 answers · asked by jeff_4_jeeps03 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it all depends on one of two things: Your behaviour and her past. Your behaviour could be one that causes her to doubt you such as going out with the "guys" to the bars, flirting too much with the opposite sex, watching porn, or having magazine subscriptions that do not honor the sanctity of your marriage such as Playboy, FHM, etc. Her past could be at fault if she comes from a broken home where her father was either a cheater or he abandoned her mother. I would think this over and make the necessary changes. After all, you did marry the woman to honor and cherish her. Women are very sensitive beings and we men are not always versed on the subject.
By the way, your avatar does give the impression that you are up to no good.
Sincerely,
Mr. M on "trust."
2006-12-02 05:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the most important thing in a relationship espeically marriage is TRUST. With out trusting your partner it can lead to problems. Your wife doesnt trust you, it can be one of the reason.
is it becuz you did sumthing that send her a signal that you are not a responsible man?
Since she constently say you are cheating with so n so it seems to me that she is not having much confident in her self or in this marriage.
Have you talk to her about this situation? (in a peaceful way)
Sumtyme youi might have to show her in action that you can be trusted and u love her.
2006-12-02 13:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by ceci 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was a wild child and still is in a fun way. Your wife sounds like she is insecure in the relationship, she sounds like a child saying your sheating on her, no wonder it makes you mad. NO one like to be blamed for something they are not doing.
You need to have a SERIOUS set down no one around, phone off the hook talk, couples therapy helps sometimes. If you wish to be in a marriage that is solid then get down the some serious talks with her and find out what her trip is.
2006-12-02 13:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My experience has been that the person mistrusting is the least trustworthy. Maybe she's cheating on you?
I've been married for 12 years with 2 kids and I certainly was guilty of this. I cheated on him (well...if you call flirting cheating) and then started to not trust him. It's only after a lot of growing up on my part that this stopped. Thankfully before divorce.
Good luck.
2006-12-02 13:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by fly_girl_pc12 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's possible she is reflecting on the past. And really doesn't look at you as a faithful husband. If she is cheating on you, it will come out. I would just keep on comforting her with all the passion you hold. Marriage isn't something that is given up so easily. It should be cherished and worked through with patience.
2006-12-02 13:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 Your history
#2 Her history (she's probably been burned a time or two)
#3 Get marital counseling to get to the bottom of this...this sort of thing can ruin a marriage & you never know...that may be some twisted, underlying reason for constantly being insecure for her.
#4 If you are cheating, wise-up and stop being cruel to her
2006-12-02 13:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say is she loves you , and is scared of losing you.
she's insecure,and she feels unworthy. Just be patient,and do little things to let her know you won't leave her.
sit her down and explain to her how this makes you feel.
shes not a mind reader,and if you communicated to her your true feelings she may just turn around. do or say little things that will show her how important she is to you. she just needs to fell like she is the only one.
I'd say confront her with the people she has accused you with and show her your telling the truth, then tell her you don't want to hear anymore about cheating.
if you do that it will be dealt with and she wont do it anymore.
good luck
2006-12-02 13:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by celestialangel43 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you would benefit from marriage counseling. Let her know you have had enough accusations and that they are harming your marriage. It will take time for her to relax and learn to trust you, but BOTH of you need to work on it.
2006-12-02 13:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's bringing up the past after 3 years of marriage....then ask her, kindly, what it was that made her want to marry you.
Tell her to hold that thought.
2006-12-02 13:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either she has cheated on YOU before OR she has VERY LOW self esteem. I would just have a heart to heart and let her know by looking dead into her eyes that you love her so much and you would never do that to her. Maybe she just needs that reassurance every now and then.
2006-12-02 13:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋