how do you stop being romantically inclined?

Question

i just really don't like being this way because what I long for never happens.

how do I "kill" this in me

thanx

Answer 1

Sorry, but you don't sound romantically inclined. Romantically inclined would be a good thing. You sound lonely. Lower your standards.

Answer 2

I am also romantically inclined and I don't think it's a good idea for you to want to kill it.

To be romantic is a wonderful thing - it's something very beautiful and special. It's like always being young and idealistic no matter what your age is and what experiences you have been through. It's like something very pure in your soul that forever remains clean and good like an angel in the heavens.

Answer 3

it seems that poof is on the right track. based on decades of experience and reflection, i could suggest the following. falling in love appears to be a neuro-chemico- biological device hardwired into us to guaranty procreation. i'm sure many people realize this fact once the "hormonal imperative" quiets down a bit. moreover, being involved in a relationship based on the phenomenon is going to be a difficult proposition in the presence of co-dependency and all of the usual other dramas we are prone to involve ourselves with/in in the absence of "doing the work" necessary to become more conscious humans. in other words in a heated up relationship the stimuli and the responses come quickly and furiously. and, unless one has the tools to deal with the conflicts, etc. "maturely" and wisely, we all know what the outcome and pain will be. how to avoid this way of being? check out *the complete idiot's guide to toltec wisdom* for some exceptional insight. beyond this, and perhaps, more on point. when older, all the craziness seems to dissipate a bit, as hinted at above. so, something's lost, but something's gained. it seems that the relationship might be less hot, but, yet, it can be far more rewarding in more important ways: "sane companionship", being one aspect. there's so much more one could say, i hope this is somewhat helpful. the book mentioned is really a key to many facets of human existence, romance being one of the most dramatic and challenging. check it out, and good luck! ;-)

Answer 4

Don't give up on love. It will happen eventually. I was shunned by all the boys in high school, but when I went to college, I was beating them off with a stick. Things change.

If you want to be "just friends" with someone you like, that takes awhile. I would get over that person the way you would normally get over someone, stay away from them untill you're over them, and then resume friendship. If you have to be around that person because you have all the same friends or something, make sure that you're only around him/her when there's something physical going you're both participating in, like a soft ball game or something.

Answer 5

it sounds like maybe you are codependent. i understand where you are coming from. i don't want to be in another relationship until i'm totally ready to be, because i know if i act on feelings of lust/infatuation, i'll just get into a crappy situation again. so i just keep working on myself and being happy with myself. when the time is right, i know i will find the right person. but until then, the focus is on me. it's just a matter of habit; of training yourself and changing your focus. be happy with yourself, i mean really HAPPY and you will find you won't be longing after anyone. then you can start seeing what you really need and want in your life.

Answer 6

Don't kill it. Embrace it. What a wonderful gift.

Once it dies in you, you lose a vital part of keeping alive and looking to the future - it's the flame that spurs you on.....even if it is never fulfilled, it will keep you more alive than someone who has no romance in them.

Answer 7

u can't ''kill '' this in u,it just happens,ur heart can't help how things will turn out to b ,it just happens and cupid just strikes u time after time,but if u really want an answer on y u r liek this and how u can stop being hurt,u could take psychology classes,so u will know wat ppls motives r with u,their body movement etc.hope i helped and good luck with this issue ,hiope u find asolution bcuz i hav been there too.

Answer 8

You stop it once you get what you long for. Persistence is key. Do not give up.

Answer 9

we always want what we can not have. Once you find the right person you'll want it back!

Answer 10

Don't worry, someone will kill it for you.