The love of my life just broke up with me. I'm in Iraq right now. I'm supposed to go home in a few months. We've been together for 4 years and she is everything to me. We've never even argued so I'm totally shocked. One thing I know is that I'll never love another woman so hope for me is lost. There's no hope for happiness, no hope for love, just no hope. It's not that I can't live without her, I just know that I don't want to. Some will say it's selfish but they don't have to live the rest of their lives in misery every minute of every day which is what I would have to do.
2006-12-02 04:10:23 · 33 answers · asked by Mike F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wake up Mike F. The lady did not care about you or else she would have waited. Why kill your self for such a two-timer. You are definitely not everything to her.
2006-12-02 04:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off I want to THANK YOU SIR.You are one of the brave MEN that our country looks up to.That is a coward's way out.In Columbus Ohio a lady was murdered.She has a beautifully baby and her husband is in Iraq.Taken his own life was never an option for him.Look at how this Brave MAN has to move on.Sir if you can take what you have to go trough there you can recover from this.You went there because you want to protect our Country and above all your family.Think of how we Americans would feel if you were to do something so foolish as that.When you get home don't be surprised if she is waiting on you with open arms.She just got a little lonely while your gone,I know you can understand.Please keep doing what you are doing.We need you.Thank you again.God bless you
2006-12-02 04:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hay man don't give up. never is a long time. im 46 now thought the same thing when i was serving in Germany 25 years ago an my first true love dumped me. I stuck my head in a bottle it took me 15 years years and 2 more true loves to get my head back out of the bottle. my last true love witch I had been with for 11 years wrote me a dear Jim letter from jail. Pretty bad concerting i was the only one putting money on her books. thought the world was over again. to make a long story short.their is one asleep in my bed right now that i swear to god is 10 times better in bed then the rest of them put together. nutter than a fruit cake but fun. the best part is my ex. is out an seen me with her an wants me back. ha.isn't life a *****.and there is always another ***** to bring you back to life
2006-12-02 04:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope. Keep yourself busy & move on. Allow yourself time to cry & feel the emotions your feeling. Each day will get brighter. Take care of yourself so you can make it through this & Iraq. Your family is missing you & will be here for you upon your return.
Seek out family & friends for comfort. With the end of this relationship, your "right love" will be closer to coming along. Learn what you can from your situation. You will come out of this a much stronger & wise person.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-02 04:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope is never lost!! Things may seem bad right now but they do get better,I know I'm one to talk about suicide,I've tried numerous times and think of it often, Yet there is some force that keeps me here. Love will come into your life again probably stronger than before even though it doesn't feel like it, I can also relate on that level.
2006-12-02 04:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No its not and you can't possibly believe what you are saying right now. One day you will think back to this question you wrote and say what was I thinking look at the beautiful creature I married who is in my arms right now!!!! I know it hurts, I am sure many people here do, we have all been through this once or twice in our lives and you know what we have survived. Look at yourself and what you have accomplished. Your a soilder in Iraq, you deserve love, honor and many metals for that alone. Here is a big hug for you, you definitely deserve it. Listen, right now may seem like the end of your world. I honestly know what it is like to love and lose but its not the end of the world honestly it isn't. Keep it together. For her to do that from the distance that she did is just cold and extremely inconsiderate. You deserve MUCH BETTER!!! There is hope and plenty of it keep the faith, Love is all around you be open to it.
2006-12-02 04:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is a "Permanent Solution"
To a "Temporary Problem"
Dude --- this will pass. I've been there. The emotional pain is extremely hard to handle. But it is temporary.
The sun will rise again - and at some point, this will be yesterdays news.
I guarantee, there is another girl out there that you will fall in love with - and she with you.
Keep busy - talk with family, friends or counselors if available.
Good Luck and God Bless.
We appreciate you!!!!
2006-12-02 04:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by ump2please 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is still hope. She probably broke up with you because she thought that if you weren't together, then she wouldn't love you as much and wouldn't miss you as much. Chances are, she thought this would help you to love and miss her less too, so that neither of you would be suffering while apart. She's going to quickly learn that breaking up with you won't make her feelings change, but might make them worse. Give her some time to figure this out. She's going to come back to you. She thinks she is saving herself and you from hurting, but she's not. She'll realize that soon enough and once she does, she'll want (need) to be with you again. She might try to hold back until you're home because she thinks she's doing something helpful right now to protect both of you. As soon as you get back, go and see her. Here are some things women tend to believe when they're in love with a deployed soldier:
-If we didn't love each other so much, we wouldn't miss each other so much.
-If we didn't miss each other so much, we wouldn't be so hurt by the deployment.
-If we weren't so stressed and hurt by the deployment, then maybe we'd have a better chance of having a stronger relationship when he gets back.
-My soldier might be depressed and distracted because he's thinking about me and missing me, so maybe breaking up with him will let him focus on his situation and stay safer.
See her as soon as you get back. I have a feeling that no matter what happens in the next four months for you (or for her) that deep inside she's waiting for you. You wouldn't give up on a fellow soldier if he were scared and feeling doubtful during an intense situation, so don't give up on her. Don't let her doubts be your doubts, you might need to be strong for her now. She might do things to try to distance herself from you like breaking up with you, or even trying to see someone else, etc, but you need to be prepared for these things. In her mind, she's saving both of you. But, please - please, remember that after 4 years of the kind of relationship you two have had, chances are she's just scared and needs you now more than ever. Whether or not she can say that to you. Be patient with her. Let her do what she thinks is best, but don't give up on her. She'll find soon enough (in about four months) that your love can survive this.
2006-12-02 04:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of God's 10 Commandments is, "Thou Shalt Not Kill." You are going through a loss of a loved one but there is always hope, never give up on anything. Being in love is only a part of life and life HAS SO MUCH to offer you. You will get over your hurt and pain and never say never because you don't know the plans God has for you and your future. Just like you found her, YOU WILL find another because EVERYTHING happens for a reason.
2006-12-02 04:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by Neetaa 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Mike !!
THERE IS NOT ONE WOMAN ON THIS EARTH WORTH DYING OVER!! They may think they are but their Not period!! If she pulled this S*it on you and your in a battle zone, she’s a cold heartless booty call. Nothing more. You’ve got responsibilities to your unit and the people around you. Given your current situation would You want to be around someone who has their head where yours is right now ?? No you would NOT !!! Go talk to your C.O. get your butt pulled off the line and get some help NOW !!!
Remember one thing if nothing else,, read the first line, and make it your mantra till you get your emotions squared away!!
2006-12-02 04:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is for you to struggle through for a couple of years. The one that you can't possibly live without won't even be a memory in a few years.
You won't be in misery for the rest of your life. You'll be happily married to someone who you'll believe is like a shiny diamond compaired to the other. Time goes rapidly.
2006-12-02 04:26:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋