I've had a friend who i've been really close with for a while now, and I thought our friendship was fine and out of nowhere she writes this blog and posts it on myspace for everyone to see about how i'm such a horrible friend, Idon't make time for her, etc.I always thought I was a better friend than she was. she was always asking me to do things to help her out and I would always drop what I was doing and help her, yet I never asked for anything in return. So after she posted it, I wrote her a letter saying that I thought that was immature and childish to do that, and that our friendship must not have meant that much to her, and I told her that i felt she had just been using me. After I wrote that, she wrote a letter back to me saying that she wanted to meet and talk through our issues. I was still pretty upset about the blog, so I brushed her off and told her I needed some more time to let things boil over and now she has an even worse blog up in which she just ripping me apart
2006-12-02 03:40:09 · 9 answers · asked by Vanessa P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that the two of you should meet calmly and "clear the air," so to speak (this does not mean to "slug it out").
We are all fallible, meaning that we sometimes make mistakes and do things that we later regret, like hurting those who we care about the most.
I think that if you have had a strong friendship in the past, then it would be worth sitting down together and talking about things, especially about how hurt you are that she has done this to you, but be prepared to hear why she feels justified in doing what she had done to you. As I have said before, we are fallible creatures -- you might have said or done something that you thought was innocent but she took it hard. If she is a good friend, then she would probably be willing to do this.
Friendships, like any kind of relationship, take a lot of work to maintain and there will always be bumpy roads along the journey.
Good luck!
2006-12-02 03:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would blow her off. she said that you don't make time for her. so she wanted to do something to get your attention. just like a child would do, if a child feels like they are not getting attention they do something bad to get some.that's just what she did.you are right she is being immature and i would no longer respond to what she is saying or doing.it was bad that she did this the first time, but you could have tried to work it out, but then she goes and does it a second time. it is time to lose her as a friend. don't bother writing to tell her this, ignore her.when she gets no attention from you at all she will realize that what attention you were giving her was better than none at all.
2006-12-02 03:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is being inpatient but there is no need to post nasty blogs about you. Sounds like something from high school (not you) First you have to decide if you can get pass the nasty things she said about you. If you can then give her time to cool off and then talk to her.
2006-12-02 05:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry..........a friend lyk tht isnt a friend.
She's a hypocrite-didnt even tell say it to you tht she thought u were a bad friend.
If u really do lyk her and are willing to forgive then go for it-it seems lyk she does seem a bit sorry but be careful because if she was able to do tht she might be able to do other things as soon as things arent going so well between .....and they will be worse.........
Good Luck!
2006-12-02 03:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk with her,if shes still being immature then tell her you don't think you should be friends anymore then she might start wising up or she might make more blogs but if she does just ignore them your better than that
2006-12-02 03:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just stop reading her ridiculous blog? Who cares! Did it ever occur to you that this person does these things just to see how upset she can make you? As long as you continue to react, she controls you.
2006-12-02 03:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Rocket Squirrel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try and talk about u'r problems and then hopefully you can be better friends so yeah just talk and do give her another chance if she still treats you the same then maybe still be friends but find some new friends who won't do that.
2006-12-02 03:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♥volleyball♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with friends like that who needs emenry i would sit down and talk to her tell her how you feel so that she may be able totell you why she feels this why if that doesn,t work tell her you can no longer be her friend hope thishelps good luck my friend
2006-12-02 04:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by dar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was u there is always a second chance for everybody so let it go and if it happens again then you'll know what to do.
2006-12-02 04:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by bobbys_baby_88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋