if a woman/wife has dedicated her life to loving her husband/man why does he feel it is necessary to cheat on her rather than ending it with her before moving on?
2006-12-02 03:35:35 · 19 answers · asked by ayquechula 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would like to know this answer my self as I treated mine like he was gold. I catered to him, there was nothing that I wouldn't have done for him. From rubbing his back when it hurt, cooking, cleaning, working in the yard and garden, you name it I did it. We worked together on some things. I was always loving to him, was always available for him when he wanted to make love and I made sure that it was NOT dull. I worked outside the home and brought in a pay check as well. What did all this get me...a cheater, that's what.
It don't have anything to do with how smart or dumb, fat or skinny, how often you make love or not, how good you are to them, it still happens. I have searched high and low trying to figure it out and still haven't come up with the answer myself yet. Sad thing is most of the time when they do it, they really don't realize until after that they lost a very good woman by cheating on them. I know women cheat too, so this does not apply to JUST men. If you want to cheat...just end the relationship that you are in and then just go sleep with everything that is out there except for the ones that are in a relationship and that way you can just go and spread STD every where. That would serve all of you cheaters out there right. You all deserve what you get!
2006-12-02 04:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always does it go that way. In many cases, the man has been "seduced" by the "other" woman. Usually his wife's best friend,sister,co-worker! Men are Weak Creatures, driven by their sexual desires, they can never get enough. It takes, maturity,loyalty,trustworthiness,dedication. An unfortunately not only Men, but woman have No Moral Foundation(s)!. In many cases I tell the man/woman to take a Good Look at their mates parent(s) - it all begins in the four walls in which you are raised. I know how it hurts, but when you think of it, your better off without this liar in your life!Without trust, there is no foundation, with the foundation, there is no future, in any relationship.
2006-12-02 11:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by peaches 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't about not loving the wife anymore, he doesn't want to move on. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. I've done a lot of research on and off the field into this topic, so hang in there, this is going to be interesting.
1) Biologically men are geared towards cheating (SERIOUSLY!) It is in their best interest to spread themselves around, this ensures the best possible odds of survival for their progeny. I know nowadays making babies is not the object of sex, but this is on a conscious level. Deep down, that's part of the primal urge. So when a guy cheats on his girlfriend/wife etc he's not doing it because he doesn't care anymore, he's doing it because his odds of having children who grow up and make more children increase dramatically with every girl he sleeps with.
2) Guys don't attach the same meaning to sex as girls do. For girls it is quite commonly about love/feelings, not just the physical gratification. For guys its the opposite (not for ALL guys, but the cheaters). They aren't negating feelings for the significant other by sleeping with another girl, they're just satisfying a physical urge.
3) Some guys just can't commit to anything that serious, cheating is like a way out. They don't want to come straight and admit that they're too pathetic to be with the one they love, so they cheat as a way out.
Well, those are a few of the big reasons, of course there are other subtleties etc., but using these as starting points you should be able to identify what kind of cheater you have on your hands. Remember though, not all guys cheat, some of them really are the wonderful guys we want them to be. With experience you'll soon be able to pick out the good from the bad!
2006-12-02 11:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is such a good question. I don't know the answer but, I know there are a lot of answers. I just found out my husband cheated on me, not a good feeling. But I do understand that he was not happy with how our relationship was going and I think he needed a little bit of a boost of confidence. Believe me, he went about it the wrong way but, that was the best reason he could think of. I believe him because we were heading down the wrong road. I think the best anser you will get on this one is that you have to look at the guy and his lifestyle, try to put yourself in his shoes. I know it seems stupid. And sometimes it is just plain ole stupidity... Men, do they really have a brain that works, (besides the one in their pants) Good luck......
2006-12-02 11:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by jayjay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
usually because their affraid of being alone. Their affraid of not having any where to live. Their not sure another woman will really have them for longer than a nite.
Why do wives cheat? Same applies.
All cheaters are missing a thrill, or attention, or sex, or themselves in dreams. They cheat cause usually they can!! They cheat because they have no idea what Love is. OR what their vows stand for.
2006-12-02 11:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men a re always looking for "something". Some want something tha they cannot find in the marriage, whatever that may be.
Some don;t even consider it cheating, just having some sexual needs attended to (more along the lines of a lube job for the car)
2006-12-02 11:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do women cheat? The big question. To a lot of guys its just a sex thing. I mean they see a hot girl and everything they really care about just goes right out the window. Its stupid, and disrespectful... they dont seem to remember the vows they took. Its a tought thing to explain, the only person who could really explain it is the guy cheating. But usually they're not to honest about why they did it, and sometimes they dont even know. Thats the sad thing about it. Any guy/or girl who is willing to cheat on their partner isnt worth being with anymore.
2006-12-02 12:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ash420Granito 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a man, the love of my life, the one I would have laid my life down for, cheated on me and then divorced me. I loved this woman with every fiber of my being. Making her happy, made me happy and I never cheated on her.
What's your point about men? Does this same point apply to women?
2006-12-02 12:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are just a bad as men. I notice that some people change after the ring is on there finger. That attention that is given when a coulpe is dating is lost after marriage. A person (male or female) wants that attention and finds it in the arms of someone else.
2006-12-02 11:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They get into their heads that they can have more than one. Why not cheat when they know they can get away with it? They think as long as they dont get caught, they should explore more women. They dont seem to realise how things would be if it was the other way around and their spouse was the one doing the cheating.
2006-12-02 11:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by SAMANTHA B 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋