my boyfriend loves me and i love him, alot! but we r in 9th grade..he tells me that he isn't ready until iam..thats respecful..but how do i know if hes just sucking up..hes a really nice guy even way before we talked about having sex..he tells me how he loves me and he wants to grow old with me..and i say the same..is it all a joke..or could it be real????
2006-12-02 03:35:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
DON'T let him pressure you into having sex - remember hormones are raging through his body just now (yours as well) - and even if you're just kissing then he will be getting turned on and it is SO much harder for young men to control their urges once they are in that state.
Try your best to wait - I hate to say it but chances are he will not be your life partner - we all change as we age and what you are going through is just a part of it.
Try and keep your legs crossed girl !
2006-12-02 03:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by kamirsam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This boy is only after sex. Whatever you do, don't allow him, your friends, or anyone pressure you into having sex. You're both in the 9th grade. You and he both are going to meet many more people before you know who you'll spend the rest of your life with. It's time to end the relationship because he's not going to stop pressuring you. He's saying all the things he thinks you want to hear. And believe me, the minute you give in, you'll be history and the subject of sex to him and his friends. There's no such thing as safe sex. So, don't fall for that and even if it was, what about self respect and a unwanted pregnancy at your age. He sure will not be a daddy to a baby. Leave this guy alone. Start preparing for your post high-school education, get involved in school activities, join a youth group in your community or a local church, start a hobby you can develop, and try volunteer work. These are things you can do without pressure and are meaningful and you'll be happier. You do not have to have a boyfriend in your life right now. Give yourself a chance to grow and mature without relationship issues. When the right guy comes along, there'll be no pressure, which will be years from now. I know this is old fashion in today's world, but save yourself for marriage. You'll be elated that you did. Then you can make all the love you want.
2006-12-02 05:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey like you I am a freshmen in high school too. I don't think you should be having sex though. I mean don't you think you should wait until your a little older? Just because you're in love doesn't mean sex is the solution. I guess it could be real. How long have you guys been going out? Don't have sex though expecially if you aren't protected. Being a teenage mom isn't cool and you will never get to hang out with your friends ever again. Just wait until maybe you guys are out of high school or atleast a couple years. I wish I had a bf though..good luck
2006-12-02 05:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Loaha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you so much then he should not preasuring you ijn having sex. First finish high school and then go to college or after completing high school marry him and have all the sex you want. But if you do have sex before time is right you are going to regret it. Do it when you feal your body is ready to expand. You could be in a 3 year relationship and still be a virgin. If you do have sex use protection.
2006-12-02 03:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SEEM VERY SMART, YOU HAVE ALL THE ANSWER. HE IS FAKING YOU , YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE SEX WITH THIS BOYFRIEND YOU ARE TOO YOUNG FOR THAT. I WILL BET YOU ANYTHING ONCE YOU HAVE SEX WITH THIS GUY HE IS GOING TO CHANGE ON YOU. WHY? BECAUSE HE WILL HAVE GOTTEN ALL HE WANTED FROM THE BEGINNING. HE IS NOT YOUR SOUL-MATE SAVE YOURSELF FOR MARRIAGE. IF HE GET UPSET BECAUSE YOU WON'T, WHEN YOU DO HE IS JUST GOING TO WALK AWAY. IF YOU WANT TO KEEP THIS GUY AROUND , KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSE.I REALLY KNOW THIS , SURE HE WILL GET UPSET AND BREAK IT OFF AS LONG AS HE KNOWS YOU WON'T GIVE IN HE WILL KEEP RUNNING BACK AND YOU WILL KNOW IT IS ALL ABOUT THE SEX. HE IS NOT REAL IF HE IS REALLY GETTING UPSET ABOUT SEX, LET HIM GO BESIDE HE CAN'T TAKE CARE OF YOU AND A CHILD HE IS ONLY IN 9TH GRADE. YOU SHOULD BE GOING TO MOVIES WITH YOUR FRIEND GIRLS AND DANCES NOT LAYING IN BED WITH SOME BOY THAT CAN'T PAY BILLS OR ANYTHING. TELL HIM WHEN HE CAN GET HIS OWN PLACE, BANK ACCOUNT,CAR AND BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR WELL BEING THAT'S IS WHEN YOU WILL OR MAYBE THINK ABOUT IT.
2006-12-02 03:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be literally a statistical miracle if you guys lasted forever. DO NOT have sex for at least another 2-3 years!!!!!!!! You will regret it!!!!!!!!! Just enjoy being with each other and don't EVER let him pressure you.
2006-12-02 03:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jake S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him pressure you for you both are young kids with a full life ahead get your education first then decide what to do about the other stuff later
2006-12-02 04:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋