I know what most people are going to reply but I don't care because I still want to hear it anyways. Does it make me a loser that I begged my husband to not leave me and that I told him that I would do ANYTHING to make our marriage work?
2006-12-02 03:32:01 · 12 answers · asked by guardianangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just so that people know, no I didn't do anything to make him want to leave me. He just said that because we are always running across problems.
2006-12-02 03:40:18 · update #1
I definitely don't think you're a loser, but I also don't think we know enough about your situation to properly answer your question. Did you do something wrong? And now you're asking for forgiveness? Or did he do something wrong? If you're begging him to stay because you honestly believe you can change some behavior, that seems honorable and very human of you. If the relationship's really just not working and unhealthy, then maybe you just need to let it go. Either way, I wish you all the best of luck. Take care of your self!
2006-12-02 03:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not make you a loser. What you did we can sit and say you should not have done because of self worth self respect. What you did came from love maybe not wanting to be alone, maybe financial. It matters not why you did this. What matters is the affects. First you now think low of yourself as a loser. This is not helping you what so ever. Build up your self esteem and self respect also self worth. If a person does not want to be with us and are there out of us pleading it is just an empty shell. Think about this now is he there cuz he wants to be or because he feels he has to be. We do not want the has to be we want the want to be.
2006-12-02 11:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on what you did that provoked your husband to want to leave you?
You're not a loser if you want your marriage to work, but if you did something so unforgivable to make your husband not want to stay in the relationship, then,....... only you can answer the question of whether or not you're a loser.
2006-12-02 11:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that don't make you a loser. It shows that your are committed to your marriage. and in todays world they don't last as long as they use to. An folks think or say different have not been married or are quite selfish.
2006-12-02 13:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't make you a loser.Though most times we do things will think are silly and they later turn out not to be.So u're not a loser it only shows you as someone who gets a white dress stained and cleans it up and not as one who gets it stained and runs away.It show you're responsible and one with feelings. Cheer up.
2006-12-02 11:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, becuase you still love him and want him that is why you are begging him, but if he is not willing to commit to you again and you are begging him, then you might consider that as a loser.
2006-12-02 11:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! NO! It makes you a person that values her marriage. But, call it pleading for your marriage. While every person needs pride, putting pride aside temporarily for the sake of your marriage is proper. TEMPORARILY. Every marriage has ups and downs, and we too often give up on marriages that could endure, and be happy. It's today's throw away mentality.
2006-12-02 12:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I begged mine not to leave me and it did no good. If you can works things out thats great. But if it's over let him go! He has to wanna work things out . It takes two people to make it work! Talk to him and see if he is willing!
2006-12-02 12:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went threw a few divorces my self, and no one is a winner, because the both of you have to start all over again and that isn't easy. and i went threw it this past week. baby it hurts like hell but hold your head up high and go on with life. and go and talk with other women who went threw the same thing your doctor can tell you where there is meeting for this.
2006-12-02 11:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by sexie1949 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it doesn't make you a loser! It makes you a married woman, who wants to keep her wedding vows intact!
Your only a loser if you did something terribly wrong in making him wanting to leave.
2006-12-02 11:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋