I don't know how to handle this one. He lost his job and was drawing unemployment. They fired him for some bad quailty that the supervisor had changed the ticket he put on it that it was bad. They sent it that way to make a profit. Of course the company sent it back saying it was marked first quialty when in fact it was second quailty. They never wrote him up in the 5 years he was there. Now he's having to fight for 9 week penitly peroid. We have a car payment to make and insurance. He's really upset and depressed about it. I'm a caregiver for my mom so I can't go get a job. Help we're going to loose the car. Our credit is bad no way of getting a loan. We live with mom rent free cause I'm here taking care of her 27/7.
2006-12-02 03:28:44 · 10 answers · asked by butterfly 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
he has been looking for a job but he hasn't been lucky in that department. we think it's because the company has black flaged him.
2006-12-02 03:36:48 · update #1
First, be extra nice & sympathetic to him. Don't whine, nag, etc., at least give it a rest until he gets back on his feet. Don't tell him something like "things will be OK" because he's probably smart enough to know that may not be true. So just be real sweet. This is a real tough time for a man & he needs your unconditional support. He'd probably rather hear you say that you'll stick with him no matter what.
Second, try to save money any way you can. Don't spend unless you absolutely have to. Losing the car? I don't know where you live so my advice might be useless, but there are usually other options like taking the bus, riding with friends, walking, biking, etc. I've lived without a car for years, there are ways around it. If you can take a bus, then the car is a huge waste of money.
Third, I don't know anything about your mother's situation, but maybe someone else can help pitch in with her care (even your husband) while you go out there and work for a while?
Fourth, you can get on the phone or make visits to places to help him find a job. Call, call, call. You can find help wanted listings for him at the local unemployment agency.
Don't get upset with him for being depressed. Getting fired is a huge blow for a man, a big ego blow. His biggest fear might be that you'll leave him, so you need to be extra supportive.
2006-12-02 04:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Babyface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just reassure him that everything will work out OK. It seems bad now but there is a plan in life for everything that happens. Check with the laws of your state but in most states if there has been no write ups he has to get a warning first then a write up. Most states they can't just fire you. Also take it up with labor board in your state, the company may have done this illegally.
2006-12-02 03:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by wiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step he should take is to revamp his resume and register with a employment agency for temp to hire work to work immediately. Next you both can compile a list of all local newspapers and employment sites where he can locate jobs in his field. Next call all your family and friends to see if they have jobs openings at their places of employment.
Not sure if you have kids but even if you're just staying at home to care for an elderly relative you are eligible for welfare benefits.
Other than supporting him with his efforts be there to listen and assure him things will get better.
2006-12-02 03:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he has all of his documentation regarding past performance reviews along with any other "kudos" received during his employment. Sounds like the company was looking for a "fall guy" and they found one. You could try a lawyer to resolve this - but that may take a while and might cost some bucks - but it could help him restore his credibility. Be supportive and encouraging of his skills - try not to nag...hang in there!
2006-12-02 03:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by Geanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing you can do, is call who you have a loan through with the car, and you can request a "defered payment" for 2 months, where you aint gotta pay it for that time, but they tack the 2 months at the end of the loan, so it helps, it'll buy ya time while he looks for another job, and times like this he needs to really be looking, and not mopeing around, and not necessarly be too choosy, he could work a crappy job temporaly while he looks for a better one...just to get food on the table
2006-12-02 03:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you take care of your mom,go in person to your local chapter of United Way. They can help you get in contact with organizations that provide food,clothing and the Meals on Wheels program that deliver lunches to physically disabled people. They might even be able to put your husband in contact with a church group or organization to help him get another job. Good luck.
2006-12-02 03:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to encourage him EVERYDAY to get out there and find a new job! My husband was out of work for a year, we had to live off his 401K. Thank god he finally got a job now we are doing much better. Good Luck!
2006-12-02 03:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to step up to the plate and look for a job to help.
2006-12-02 04:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try acting soft with your husband... He'll chill, and cleared minded he could think of something. Drink less coffee.
2006-12-02 03:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and make sure he gets his butt up and get a new job
2006-12-02 03:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by evanesheaven1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋