here's the problem.just 2 days before,i told my 3 month crush that i like him & he replied with a "i would have said yes,but i don't want to be in a relationship right now & i like someone else".
bear in mind that i was planning everything to the last detail & ALL my friends knew abt it(my friends are his friends too).it was supposed to be special cos mainly i thought he liked me too,by the way he behaved around me.
today,i just got to know that almost all my friends knew abt this 'other gal he likes' & they never even told me abt it.not even a hint(while all the time,i was constantly talking abt him).
i mean,i'm not a person who likes regretting,that's why i always tell a guy if i like him.but this REALLY hurt me now.i can't believe my friends knew abt this all along & never told me.
did i Really make a fool out of myself this time?
thanks.
2006-12-02 03:13:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, your friends didn't tell you because they didn't want to hurt you feelings. That says they care a lot. I think everyone like you well enough that nobody is going to call you a fool. I don't know you, and I already like you.
2006-12-02 03:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by relaxed 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best made plans of mice and men can go astray. I have no idea why you would even think that you made a foolish mistake. I say you should have had earlier conversations with him and asked what is going on in his life. As for you, You did nothing wrong nor did you do anything you should be ashamed of. So he is not dealing with any companions at this time, does it mean that he won't be dealing with someone in the very near future. As for me I am happy that you finally told him how you feel and I believe that when he is ready to give it another try you could be the first one on his list, That is if you maintain communication with him. And just be a good friend. For I am sure that he is in need of a good friend right now......................... I don't know how long you waited to tell him how you feel but by just being a good friend he will always remember you wonderful words....................... Forget about what your friends did and worry about just being a good friend.........................................
2006-12-02 03:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends played you and the guy probably knew the whole time.I would be a little embarrassed but now you know they're not really true friends.Dancin-in-the hail is right,it's never pretty when you date people in your circle of friends.Chaulk it up as a life lesson.Don't look for love or you'll be taken advantage of.Keep your head up and be happy with who you are and the guys will start coming out of the woodwork.It's nice to have lots of aquaintances but be careful who you call your "friend".
2006-12-02 03:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did not make a fool of yourself this time, your "friends" did it. I would be very hurt, offended, and confused if my friends had kept such a vital fact secret. Perhaps, to be generous, they didn't know you actually wanted to get close to him, but thought you were merely admiring him from afar. Or maybe they did not realize that you were unaware of the other girl. But I doubt it. If I were you, I would ask the closest friend you have who knew about the other girl why he or she did not tell you. I would insist on a rational answer.
2006-12-02 03:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry what the worst that can happen? Just say better look next time climb back on the horse and go again. I used to go around the disco asking the pretty girls for a dance (punching above my weight) until one said yes. Theres know shame in trying. To help yourself thank them for caring enough not to stop you trying and turn it around on them if you feel let down. I hope you can see where i am coming from. Tell him its ok and size does matter leave him crushed
2006-12-02 03:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by froggerty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You so didn't make a fool out of yourself. You were brave enough to ask this guy out rather than sitting there complaining but doing nothing. It wasn't your fault your timing was out. But..... your friends should have told u he liked someone else. Remember it is always better in life to regret the things you've done rather than regret the things u haven't done! Next time, keep your crushes to yourself and good luck for next time :)
2006-12-02 03:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't make a fool out of yourself at all. Your friends should've told you. I think it is good you told him. I am really shy and so I admire that you are able to tell people how you feel. I am sure things will work out. Just try not to think about it too much. you did the right thing.
2006-12-02 03:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by x_ice_artist_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, we all feel foolish sometimes. So he said "no." Big deal. It isn't the end of the world. I suggest you look outside the groups of people your friends know...outside of school of wherever you are currently looking. You are letting too much drama in. Personal relationships are meant to be just that...personal. If you like someone and he knows that all your "girls" know every move he makes because you dish every detail...do you think he's going to be interested? Newsflash *real relationships ditch the drama*
Quit trying so hard. True love comes to those who aren't even looking for it. Just be yourself and someone will fall in love with the REAL you.
2006-12-02 03:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends were definitely wrong in not informing you about the information that he was interested in another girl. It is more hurtful to find out that your friends knew something that meant a lot to you and didn't tell you then finding out later on. (almost same situation happened to me) As for the guy, he will probably get over it quite quick as guys do have a short memory span and seem to not pay to much attention to details. Hopefully your friends will come to their senses and realize that by not telling you was hurtful and will apologize.
2006-12-02 03:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by stretchskeleton10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all dont worry about it too much you will just make yourself more upset. It stinks your friends didnt tell you but lets be honest he is a guy. Maybe they figured he wasnt sure what he wanted anyways. I dont they they were purposely trying to hurt you. I think they just didnt want to give you biased opinions. You definately didnt make a fool of yourself. You liked him and made him aware of that. What u did was normal procedure. Dont sweat it hun its his loss. xoxo
2006-12-02 03:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by Evilish13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋