i have a best friend, i don't want her to get hurt again, I'm sure she doesn't want too, I always give her advice about not to go out with married guy but she doesn't want to listen to me. She said she knows what she doing, she been hurt before and left her with two kids with separate father. she said she is smart enough to handle this game. she said to me its alright to go with married guy beside is just a game she will not take it serious about having relationship with married guy. I'm just worried about my friend I don't know what kind of mind that she have she is gone crazy! no matter what advice I gave her nothing happen she still going what she want to do. Please help me with my friend I don't want her to fall down. tell me what a good advice to pin in her head.
2006-12-02 02:56:09 · 26 answers · asked by Chimelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just tell her to remember what happend to doctor gordon in saw 1 (movie) she'll quit trust me!
2006-12-02 02:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by manofsteel_returns 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She's going after married men because she thinks they are safe and won't pursue a permanent relationship. Somewhere in the past she's been hurt pretty bad. She thinks that the short term, temporary pain is better than expecting a permanent relationship and then the let down.
Tell her that the pain is part of learning. Obviously, she CAN'T handle the game if she has 2 kids from 2 different daddys and she's still single. That's NOT handling anything, that's "paying the price".
Basically, YOU can't do anything. Just be there for her, she'll grow up sooner or later.
2006-12-02 11:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you date a married man you know you can't be tied down. He'll go back to his wife and you're free to go about your business. Your friend doesn't want to settle with another man yet. It's the married mans wife and children that will get hurt when the wife finds out though. You can only tell your friend to imagine it happening to her when she falls madly in love with a man and there's another woman doing what she's doing now.
Tell her to chill out for a while and have a think about her actions. Some wives can be very nasty if they're fighting to keep their husbands, what would happen to her children if a wife found out? Ask her.
2006-12-02 12:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was one of my friends who kept breaking up marriages, especially were kids were involved I would tell her straight that I disagreed with it and that she would only end up hurt again.
Is she so insecure that she can't find her own man?
If she kept playing this kind of game I would do a little bit of research and find out who the guys wife was and tell her exactly what is going on.
Once your friend feels the wrath of a married wife of a husband who is having an affair she will more than likely change her ways.
Cruel but kind...I wouldn't want any of my friends to be labelled a "marriage wrecker".
2006-12-02 11:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by debs1701 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like your friend has already fallen down!
She doesn't know what she's doing! 2 kids from 2 seperate fathers? NO, she hasn't a clue. She told you it's a game. She's playing one sick game now, isn't she? The married men should be at fault too. And if they don't practice safe sex, she'll be pg again in no time.
Your friend has no self respect. For herself or her children. She's not showing any respect for the married woman sitting at home either. Or his possibale kids at home too.
There's nothing you can give as advice when your dealing with a sleezy whore who doesn't even know how to love herself.
2006-12-02 11:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never good to date a married man. The guy is in the wrong for leading your friend on but she is wrong for messing around with him. Most married guys that have affairs with people are not planning on leaving their wives or their families but they just want a toy to play with on the side. It is morally wrong and even if the guy does leave his wife, who is to say it won't happen again. If he does it once, he will do it again so your friend is only setting heself up for heartbreak when she dates a married man no matter what she says.
2006-12-02 11:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by granny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she sounds like a right homewreaker.
Id find out who the married man was and find some way to tell his wife so as not to implement you. Give her details of where they are meeting. Let the wife confront her, she will soon realise how wrong she has been and that it is not a game she is playing but real life!
This may sounds harsh but she needs stopping.
2006-12-02 11:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To your friend it is precisely that...a game. She is not emotionally connected to any of these men, & therefore has no feelings. She sounds very selfish & inmature, consdering she already has two children. What life do they have? She is screwing up her life, the lives of her children, & the lives of the men she is sleeping with. One day you have to hope she will realise what she has done, & how unhappy it is making her. Only she has the power to change, nothing you say or do can help her.
2006-12-02 12:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop and think of the repurcussions her selfish behaviour is having.she is hurting the family of this married man, and it isnt fair, your best bet is just to be there for her as i am sure you always are, and try not to say i told you so when it all goes pear shaped as it definitely will. you sound a good friend.
2006-12-02 18:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by HELEN W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your friend that she is being used for sex only and that none of these men will ever marry her. At the very least she should be using protection. It's possible that your friend only requires the closeness of sex to make her feel wanted and loved.
2006-12-02 11:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by supressdesires 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop 'giving her advice.'
.......that is of course unless she asks for it.
You're clearly wasting your time, breath and energy.
She knows exactly what she is doing, so butt out.
She sees it as 'a game,' messing within the lives of others, and she'll likely go on seeing it in that what for as long as she chooses.
Sorry, but butt out and leave her to it.
Sash.
2006-12-06 09:22:13 · answer #11 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋