I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend is grieving right now (lost a family member) and has been very cold lately. I've tried my best to cheer him up and sometimes It works and othertimes he just wouldn't talk to me! Like for days! 3 - 5 days!Oh gosh! what to do! should I just end this? I mean, It is hard to love someone who is being cold.
2006-12-02 02:48:39 · 13 answers · asked by venom! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's kind of like kicking a guy when he's down isn't it? Why don't you just come right out and ask him how he's feeling about the relationship and does he want to continue it right now?
2006-12-02 03:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweetie this is really abda time to break up with(end it) him,though he's not showing it,he really need someone to be close by him.He's just really in a bad state now and all you can do is try to be there for him no matter what.Atleast call him once intwo days to know how he feel/how he's faring during one of ur calls he's going to give in and you'll see how lonely he is.So pls just stand by him afterall thats wat friendship/relationship is abt staying by the side of ur friend through goo times and bad times.When he's strong and you want to break with him,fine but for now put urself in his shoes and try to understand and bear with him.For the meantime keep urself busy with things you love doing and spend more time with ur other friends dat way u don't expect too much from him.Ok!Just hang on cos he really needs you right now.Cheer up gurl.
2006-12-02 03:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u end it ur showing the world that ur not kind like come on the guy just lost a family member ofcource he will be acting cold... i lost a family member too so i think its like something that everyone goes through like i went through the same thing i felt like i didn't give a shyt about anything anymore.. so give it some time.. be nice to him.. show him that ur there for him
2006-12-02 02:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by OutLawZ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, he might feel worst if u dump him while he still cant get over the fact that he has lost a family member.but what is the point of having a relationship with someone if ur not truly honest about the whole thing? girl, its really up to you.
2006-12-02 02:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by kiki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking over the phone isen't going to help him right now honey.. He is volnerable and hurt...If you want to be there for him right now, You will have to go to his city... If that is at all possible.. that will really be the only way to fix this... He needs you there with him right now, I mean who is with him now.. during this time of tragedy ...Believe me he does not feel like holding the phone and talking right now. If you are going to be there for him... then be there for him... but if you truley can not, then he will probably be re thinking the relationship as well
2006-12-02 03:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by dollapassadime 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be there for him. He'll realize once he is over the rough time that he really needs someone he can rely on. Who will he turn to? If you stick with him and persevere, he'll come to you. Stick it out.
~Crissa
P.S. Thanx for the 2 points, I would be obliged it you'de make it 10, but no pressure sweetie.
2006-12-02 02:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all long distance relationships can't work and stop being so selfish and let him deal with the death in his own way
2006-12-02 02:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's grieving and he's going through the stages.
First it's denial, then anger, then sadness, and then making the attempt to go on.
Don't leave him now when he needs you most.
Just be as supportive and encouraging as you can be...
2006-12-02 02:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It mat be hard to love someone who is being cold, but remember, it must be hard for him to NOT love the person who he lost.
2006-12-02 02:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by AJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just went through the same thing. Give him some time but not to much. Trust when he warms up it will very worthwhile to you!!
2006-12-02 02:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋