We have a strained relationship with my in-laws. We have decided to have a christmas family gathering at our house. One sister was not going to attend but now has changed her mind and wants to come, but she also asked if her daughter could bring a friend. I think this is really rude since we hardly get along with the family. Plus I have a daughter in law who is uncomfortable around large crowds. What should I do? How should I answer my sisterin law?
2006-12-02 02:43:10 · 3 answers · asked by Kathy Z 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you are really concerned for a daughter in law then you must tell your sister, only family members will be attending. Your allegiance should be to your d-i-law first before a stranger.. If this is unacceptable for your sister, then so be it.... You have to stand strong and listen to your innermost feelings.. It is your home and you make the rules... don't ever forget that...
It is not her place to be asking to bring anyone else.. if you had offered her daughter this option, it would have been different. It is obvious that she has no concept of proper etiquette re invitations. I know it is an old word but you have to know your place and she doesn't.. I would tell her no other guests and feel just fine about it....
2006-12-02 03:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 01:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by huehn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite all. Let them all worry about their relationships.
You should not worry about the daughter-in-law who doesn't like large crowds--if everyone makes allowances for her, she'll never learn to deal with it or get help for it.
Can the daughter bring a friend? If anybody/everybody else is allowed to bring a friend or if the friend is her "date", then yes. Otherwise, "Just family please".
2006-12-02 02:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Secret Agent of God (BWR) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋