Help!Adults and parents.?

Question

I just found out im pregnant Im 18,boyfriend 19(dumped me when I told him) my parents say they will help me best they can I live in my apt I have a OK job.NO mean answers like"should of thought about that before you had sex"Im scared.Ohh Im going to keep the baby no matter what

Answer 1

Although you will be a very young mother, you sound like a young lady with a bright future. It's great to know that you have your parent's support and you're already looking how to support yourself and baby. Yes, it's all scary. Those feelings are very normal. Just try to stick with your plans, and rely on your parents and friends for support. You are young, strong and determined and I predict in 5, 10, 20 years, you will have a very good life with your family.

Answer 2

Lots of women raise their children alone. It's not easy, but if the father won't help, what can you do? You can hope that later on you will meet a man with a big enough heart for both you and your kid, but right now, the focus is on the kid.

You say you live in your own apartment, but you say nothing of a source of income. You should be planning now for something you can do while the baby is little. Hopefully this will prevent your having to leave the baby with strangers to go to a job.

There are jobs you can do at home, including various sales (Avon being the most obvious, but there are hundreds of products sold that way) and computer-based work. There are also a lot of frauds out there who will try to "sell" you a job.

You will need to do a lot of research to find out how you can make money while you are raising a baby, but there are a lot of ways. It depends on your skills and interests. And remember that the child can come with you when you run errands, including down to the UPS store to send packages if you start an on-line business, or become an eBay trader.

Good luck and God bless the child.

Answer 3

If your family and friends Will be there to help you let them, but do not take it for granted. this will be a huge huge time of your life and you may become overwhelmed. Fortunately you can get some financial assistance in the area of health care if you are not on your parents insurance and you can also get wic, i am not an advocate for using the system but it is there if you need it. I am sure that your family's church will be a huge help also with guidance and support.just remember you have chosen to bring this child into the world so make your child your world, never put a condition on loving your child this is for life. you will have the best memories of your life through your child's eyes, treasure every moment. Once in awhile (once a year maybe) take a break from being a mom and have a day for just you not as mommy, example Mommy days out. it will be ok you need sanity

The Best of luck

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend dumped you. Having a baby is a wonderful experience that both parents should be a part of. But, there are many women who raise their children on their own these days. You can do it too! Look for support from your family and friends. I had all 3 of my children by the time I was 20. They are now 15, 13 and 11. Yes, there were tough times, but life couldn't be better!
Things always work out for the best. Take care of yourself and your baby...you'll be fine :)

Answer 5

First, if he left you and his baby then don't fight for him, he's not worth it, you focus on you and your baby. You can do this, people have kids young everyday. I had my first two daughters at 18 (not twins.....just busy lol) It was damn hard but today I'm expecting number four, I have a great job, just bought a house, and things are going well, you just have to make through those rough spots.

Second, the government offers programs such as Medicaid and WIC to help you tend to your baby until you're completely self sufficient, which takes time so don't be ashamed to use what's out there, one day you'll be paying it back through your taxes.

Third, I'm proud of you for keeping the baby. It's not an easy choice to make when you look at the right here right now aspect, but you'll do fine. Let your parents help you and be the best mother you can be. Don't listen to those people who would tell you to keep your legs closed or other mean comments, just blow them off. Congrats to you, you can do this!

Answer 6

Well you are a adult now and the same thing happened to my sister may I suggest moving back into with your mom and dad B/C having a baby takes a lot of work so if your family can help that would be great for you. Don't be scared just find a good enviorment to raise your baby in whether it's you mom and dad your best friend or a aunt uncle find someone to help you throught this hard time. Then when the baby turns one everything will be much easier. Dont stress over it to much b/c you want to keep yourself healthy for the baby. hope this helps

Answer 7

Well at least the jerk is gone. Now you can focus on what's important. Just because you have a baby doesn't mean your education has to stop. They are soooo many programs out there designed to help young mothers get a college education, as well as programs to help with medical, pregnancy, and food costs. So don't stress out!!! Smile! Your going to be a mommy. That's a beautiful thing, and everything else will fall into place. Just make sure you take care of yourself and don't freak out. It's not good for you or the lil one riding along in you belly. You should go down to your local DSHS office right away and get on medical so you can see a Doctor right away. You want a safe and healthy pregnancy so going to a Dr. when you should is crucial. Get lots of rest when you can and just think of happy things to come. God bless. Take care and feel free to e-mail me anytime. (((hugs)))

Answer 8

first i must say that i read the othr answers and they are right, there are programs out there that will help you. Starting with your Parents is a good sign, knowing you have the support from them will make a difference. Dont stop going to school (if you are) continue making a better life for yourself. Also because boyfriend isnt ready to be a daddy he should have thought about that and he should be made to pay support for the child and get it in writing if you feel he wont pay then dont bother but that is where the government will start is with the child support

Answer 9

First of all, don't be scared. Your parents were probably the hardest to tell, and that's obviously over. (I found out at 19 that I was pregnant with my first.)

Your boyfriend obviously wasn't mature enough to handle the pregnancy, so it might be good that he's gone. It'll be one less stress while pregnant worrying about if he's happy or if he's going to stay. And, HE's the one missing out, not you!

Take your time and do the best that you can. Ask for help from people who care about you (parents, aunts, uncles, whatever). There's not much more that I can say, but I wish you the best of luck. I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 10

It will all work out. You will have a beautiful baby in the end. Im so glad your parents are helping you out the best they can. That is great. At least you have that support there. It will all be ok. Dont stress about it. Just take care of yourself and your baby.:)