first i am 14 years old and my friends in the summer were having sleepovers, that i didn't know about till one of them (she is my neighobor) had all of them outside playing a game. well i just happen to walkoutside and all of my friends are there at her house. the feeling of your friends have a sleepover without you is something that makes you think if they are really your true friends. so i kinda figured out that all fo them have had sleepovers befor so i feel left out to what they are doing without me in the summer and i don't know what to do about it.
2006-12-02 02:06:47 · 7 answers · asked by armenianbum90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This stuff happens to everyone. It is hard. Finding new friends is hard too.
I am 36 and this happened to me recently after a divorce. You see, it doesn't just happen to teens.
I have found new friends, in time you will too. Just know that this is not forever. When you have your new friends and new life, some will try to come back in your life to capitalize on what you have done. I have learned that if someone is not your friend now, they never will be. Don't fall for that, and keep them at a distance until they prove their friendship to you more. You will know when they will be deserving.
I hope I helped.
2006-12-02 02:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it hurts and it is sad too...so for that here is a "Big Hug" from someone who felt left out when I was growing up too.
Now, what to do about it...
First is forgiveness..yeah that's the hard part, but by truly forgiving them they will see your character and admire you. We all do stupid stuff... its forgiving each other that builds true friends.
True friends will come your way in life. Some are only for a season, they bring those special moments that you will treasure even when they are gone. Then there are those life long friends, you may have a few or just one. Meeting that person could happen tomorrow or when you're 40 but don't despair they will be worth the wait.
The most important thing for you to realize is that your "self worth" is not measured by your friends... so don't let them steal it from you. YOU ARE A SPECIAL Girl! You are just the way God made you and because he made you... you are more beautiful than the highest paid supper model! You have your own unique qualities and hidden treasures with in you. Be your own Best Friend first..not an ego thing.. but KNOW that your an awesome person... then what friends do or don't do will become less of an issue..may still hurt a bit.. but it looses its grip when you know who you are.
One other thing....it is not the quanty of freinds you have it is the quality. So the one freind that builds you up, and cares about you is worth more than ten thousand
2006-12-02 10:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by Friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel confident with these friends when you hang out with them during the day? Maybe your friends might misunderstand you and think you probably don't want to sleep over...but you may be right in thinking that maybe your friends don't care about you as much as you think.
Have you talked to any of your friends about a sleepover yet or mentioned one? When you're out with your friends you should bring up, "hey, maybe we should get together and have a sleepover sometime," and see how they respond. If they seem open to it then maybe it might have been some misunderstanding. But you know that they are having these sleepovers without you so if you're a friend, then I think you probably deserve to at least know what is going on or to be informed about what your friends are doing. I would also suggest perhaps branching out to find a few other friends (who aren't related to the ones you know now) that you can hang out with incase these friends you have now don't really see you as a friend whom they can invite over.
2006-12-02 10:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by turtle gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sad for you... in fact... i know that feeling... those arent really ur true friends... true friends stick together.. so if they dont let u join their sleepovers.. they aren't really ur true friends... only fwends... so better find some other friends, new friends... that will stick and be with u until the end...
2006-12-02 10:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by "fIrE_stAr" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened to you. I think you need to find new friends. There's no sense confronting them build just laugh at you behind your back. Welcome to life
2006-12-02 10:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by easymoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel... have a talk with them and bring it up...tell them how you feel and ask them if they would feel the same way...just dont sound like your getting an attitude.
2006-12-02 10:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by kristinaPearlxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well than there not a real friend because they are doing something fun without you gust like my friend liz.
2006-12-02 10:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by KUkuCHoooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋