he read the answers so far and got irritated.he said go on line and ask the people did your ex husband love you since he beat you in the head? of coarse i know that answer. no excuse he was drinking and on drugs and took his anger from his past out on me. not that i ever wanted to hang out all my dirty laundry on q@a i guess he wants to make himself the better man. however since he had me do this let me inform you he and his mom always feud. call each other names and they both turn on me at times together. she once hit me in the back because she always sticks up for her son and i told her he can stick up for himself. he was in bed and had a few and came out and said dont you ever hit my mom. id never dream of hitting anyone her age. for that matter noone at all. ive been called by him *****,idiot,whore,player,ect,ect and told to get out and when i pack up to go he says if you leave dont ever come back. which if i do i wont come back. she causes the problem by interfering all the time.
2006-12-02 02:01:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if she could let go we would never argue. she said when her husband died he was 19 that her son took his place. not sexually. so she rules. shes #1 i will always be a #2 and if i read this id say LEAVE-------- hope he is happy. by the way the ex recently started to help me financially. he wants to get me a car as im stuck in the country and no longer can walk if i need to leave. he took anger management classes and we have two grown children and a grandson.BUT, im not suppose to ever deal with him or my boyfriend thinks i will sleep with him. fact is it wont happen EVER. thanks for listening to this disfunctional b.s. thats what this is disfunctional dont you agree too? he made me make his point!!!!!
2006-12-02 02:09:14 · update #1
Glad to hear you got out of that mess! Tell your bf that your ex loved you when he was sober, but couldn't stay away from alcohol.
2006-12-02 02:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should your current bf want to know how much your ex loved you or not? What has that to do with him and his love for you? the more important question is how much he can love you from now on. A relationshp is not just about happiness but transformation. It is throught that transformation that you are able to reach happiness.
When we focus the relationship in getting happiness, that will come to an end sooner than we want it to be.
For Love do not has a good ending.... it is forever... into enternity.
In order to achieve that, one has to be transformed rather than to conform.
Most of the time when we focus on the wrong purpose we go into conformation, just like compromising instead of collabration during differences.
When you compromise, you are actually conforming to the situation in order to get what we want, sometime going against our own conscience.
I am happy that thus far we had not. Till now, I have great respect for you, because you stand for what you are. What you may have overlooked is to identify your real goal in life or what actually is to be found in a relationship. I am sure once you become clear on that ... transformation instead of conformation will be the vehicle to happiness. If you orchestra your life to the standards of the world at large instead of with the standards of your spiritual self and that small inner voice, you will be compromising to this and conforming to that. Life is living according to choreography, we must strive to live life naturally not to be choreographed by people around us.
Don't be affected by the past, the past is an experience where we learn. Focus on the future an the transformation of the new relationship and strive to reach the happiness you deserved.
MAY GOD BLESS YOU ON YOUR NEW AND TEACH YOU ON YOUR OLD.
May God give you (both) the grace to accept eachother shortcomings and also the things that you could not change.
May God give you (both) the wisdom to know what you could change for the new relationship and what you need to accept as a fact that could not be change.
May God give you (both) the courage to face th future with all that your wisdom is telling you.
In Jesus mighty name. Amen
2006-12-02 10:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by iamagoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm clueless! I got tired of reading ur self imposed woes. What's wrong with u? Stop defending him and look at the real deal here. He's no better than ur husband in fact he's going to be worse. U deserve every bit of the crap u r getting. U r a magnet to abuse and can't survive without someone telling u how awful u r. As long as u believe that no one can help u no one can. U seem to have a doosey of a "boyfriend" who seems to think that he is better than that abusive husband u left but in reality is in the very same category as ur ex. Neither he or his mentally sick mother should be in ur life. U don't have a right to put ur hands on her and U R not her child for her to put her hands on u PERIOD. Who the hell does she think she is? Do ur self a favor honey before he starts to hit u too. Get rid of both those losers they deserve each other and u get some professional mental help so that u can get some self esteem back into ur body, mind, and soul.
2006-12-02 10:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not dysfunctional it's crazy and why does your bf need to kow if your ex loes you or not. He should be happy that you love him, seems to me someone is a control freak and if he gets irriated with this answer good. Tell him to IM me or e-mail me and I'll tell him more. Because he should love youo unconditional no only whether your ex loves you or not. Well he should know beofre all this your ex did love you that's why you married him, then after the problems started it changed. You never know who or what your going married with till after the honeymoon is over. SO if your bf loves you he should let it go and be with you because living there you will have nighmares and will always remember the bad memories. That is why your bf should help you instead of forcing you.
2006-12-02 10:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is confusing me...You boyfriend told you you had to come on here and ask this question???? He is mad because he didn't like responses from last question???? Why are you doing this? Because he told you to? Is he that controlling of what you do you have to listen?
Now are you talking about BF mom or you ex's? See this doesn't make enough sense to put this together....
2006-12-02 10:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell is let loose on you.
But amidst all these confusion do you ever have moments of passion and love, Is there any chance of his alcohol / drug leave him?
If yes then Hope else
Quit.
The world is a big place and god is great.
2006-12-02 10:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by Vijay God Loves U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why does it matter how ur ex felt/feels about u? if he's an ex, then there's a reason for it. and if ur with ur boyfriend now, then there's a reason for that too. ur b/f should just let the past be the past and be happy that he's got u now.
2006-12-02 10:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow he sounds like a real prize... think I would put him back and pick another one.... but go to a different store this time..
2006-12-02 10:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Dirtydog 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋