I woud like a male point of view as my husband won't discuss it, and seems to think its perfectly find. Why would a male be content to go this long without sex?
2006-12-02 01:30:56 · 32 answers · asked by terri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a problem. It is not perfectly find.
There is one of two reasons:
He has some kind of ED problem
he is having an affair.
Whatever the case, it has to be addressed
2006-12-02 01:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK unlike some of the 31 answers posted on here it seems to be #1 hes having an affair or getting some on the side you know what I say to that bull. I am going to expose myself right now I am a 34 year old southern boy married to a 36 year old Conservative German and we both have jobs I go to night school oh and we both juggle 4 kids so basically no time for sex I too haven't had any for 1 1/2 but I still love my wife and when and if I ever get it I will enjoy it
2006-12-02 02:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one he just might be getting somewhere else. Like me if I don't have sex with someone in about a week I go crazy but 2 years and he hasn't gone to a doctor. Guess there's two things that might be happening, Which I will tell you teh truth and you might not like so, Here goes. First thing he is probably cheating on you and when he goes home he feels bad and can't have sex with you, yea some men keep doing it and still have bad feelings that they did it. Second it might be you that he can't have sex with like the way you dress, the way you treat hin or something to do with you, Or he finally realized that he is a born again homo. But the main and worse reason is that he might have gotten an STD and doesn't want to give it to you, Or else he has already passed it to you and you don't know. To make sure both of you go to the doctor and get tested, Just as a procaution. But I kow it sounds bad but there might be one other reason he might have mental problems, or too much stress that he think he can't proform the task anymore but for real both of you need to go see a dr.
2006-12-02 01:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he has some dysfunction. This is not normal for a married man to not to want sex with his wife in 2 years. Get some help for him, if there is any, but first find out what is going wrong. He might be getting sex from someone else, or maybe you drove him away and he has shut down, or maybe he is just weird. If he is just plain weird, which may very well be the case, then divorce him and get someone who wants you and will have sex with you all the time!
2006-12-02 01:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of going through the same thing and my husband saying that I'm crazy and that we're having sex at least 1 a week( which is not true) I try to approach him and talk about it all the time and he said that I'm the one with the problem. So I do understand how you feel. We went to see a Doctor and he was pretending like everything was o.k. and it looked like I was crazy. I think you should sit him down and tell him you're not happy about your sex life and have to do something about it and ask him if there's someone else. GOOD LUCK let me know
2006-12-02 01:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by AK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're stereotyping! Yes, men can go without sex for long periods of time. Highly unlikely though. He may be satisfying his urges through masterbation. Also, has your apperance or attitude changed? How about your personal hygene? Is he engrossed in some personal goals that is taking all of his time and energy? Are you nagging him for sex? You need to sit down with him and have a sincere talk about this. He's pushing you away for a reason and is either reluctant or embarresed to tell you why. Have an open mind and be willing to accept any truth that he may want to share.
2006-12-02 01:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by JayJay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's not okay. There is another issue here than just sex. Take a closer look at your relationship. Does he create arguments just to get out of the house? Do you have financial problems? My advise to you is to talk with your husband and find out the real reason he has abstained. Talk with a counselor or a minister. They can offer an unbiased view of your relationship and hopefully bring you two to an understanding of what needs to happen next.
Good luck.
2006-12-02 01:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lidya D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you wanted a male perspective, but... a girlfriend is going thru a similar situation. Her husband has alluded to have been abused as a child.
But get into counseling and be ready to accept the fact that he may have another life (relationship). But what has been going on that you have waited so long to seek advice (help)?
2006-12-02 01:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by rmdybles30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's experiencing gross deficiencies in either testosterone or growth hormone (or both). This is causing extreme lack of libido. That's the bad news. The good news is this can be treated by going to a good endocrinologist. Note that these are things that are tested for. If this is what is wrong with him, simple laboratory tests will show what is going on.
2006-12-02 01:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a platonic relationship.
doesn't sound good, try some couples therapy.
does he have deep seated resentment or some kind of grudge about it? think back to the last time you had sex - were there problems? maybe somebody has to break the ice. In the meantime you should look into his porn habits and perhaps there are other women involved, maybe he is getting his fulfillment somewhere else.
2006-12-02 01:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋