its christmas time once more and reunions are everywhere, I will be the center of questions by my aunts & uncles since I am the only one still single at 38, how can I survive the day with them?
2006-11-30 23:59:30 · 15 answers · asked by maree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Smile, thank them for their interest and make something up. Keep doing it, changing the story, until they beg you to stop.
"I was in love with a human cannon ball at the circus, but he/she got fired."
"I was going to marry a pearl diver from Bora Bora, but she/he clammed up on me."
"I was in love with a violinist; so much in love that I took up the saxaphone, so we could play duets. Then she/he decided that was too much sax and violins." ("sex and violence" - you'll have to stress "violins" just right to get this one over.)
Have about 10 made up beforehand. They should get the point at #3 or 4, unless they are rolling on the floor laughing so hard milk comes out of their noses.
2006-12-01 11:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I totally sympathize with you. I'm a bit younger, but I come from an extremely religious Italian family and I was considered an old maid until I married at 26 (I am not kidding).
I guess the important thing is you should ask yourself, "Am I comfortable with being single?". If you are, great! Kudos to you and hold your head up high. Talk about all of the wonderful things that you did this past year. If you aren't, who needs to know? Talk about all of the wonderful things that you did this past year. Families, although usually well meaning, have an amazing ability to be hurtful. Just remind yourself that you are a strong, capable person that does not need a spouse to make it in this world. There are millions of people who chose the path of singledom, and are very happy they did.
Also, I liked to leave family functions early and go home to a bottle of wine and a few movie rentals. Actually, I still like to leave family functions early. They are always traumatic!
I wish you the best of luck and a very happy holiday season.
2006-12-01 08:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is whose views really matter? Yes, your own. If you are content being single or even happy with your life of independence and freedom there is no need to justify it. On the contrary, why not promote it. Here are 10 good reasons to remain single.
1. You own the bed you sleep in. (His/her snoring, gassing or occasional punch in the face when they're having a bad dream does not disturb you)
2. You own your hard earned money. You do not have to answer to anyone for how much money you spent on that coat or those shoes. (The #1 cause for fights and divorce is over money issues)
3. You don't have to compete for the continued love and loyalty of a mate who is being lured into another relationship. (Women are on the prowl for vulnerable mates who think they are unhappy. If only the married knew how good it is to share life with someone who loves you enough to make this kind of commitment in the first place. How quickly we forget)
4. You have only the errands you create for yourself. Who wants to have to spend the whole day running errands and making phone calls to fix or patch the mistakes of someone else? You already have a life.
5. You buy the movies you like to watch, eat the food you like to eat, wear the close you like to wear. Once married you'll likely do what you want 40% of the time. More or less depending on who you marry.
6. They get sick and ill as the marriage progresses. You have to be their care provider. Do you want to be that loving person who changes and washes the bedpan three or four times a day?
7. They often come with secrets. Some secrets are darker than you bargained for. Are you ready to take that risk?
8. Your kids will be mirror images of you and your mate so multiply items 4 -7 by two or three kids
9. Prepare to lose your identity. This does not happen overnight but you will no longer be exactly who you are now. Your mate and your mate’s in-laws as well as their imposing family members and connections have a lot to do with this.
10. You and your mate will likely need professional help to juggle priorities, retain some of your former self, maintain your self-worth and still be there for each other, the kids and the community you've created from your union.
In other words, although marriage is not all bad, (I love our Friday night dates and the constant companionship of a loyal friend who loves me enough to commit a lifetime together) why not enjoy your freedom as long as you possible can. Singleness is a gift. Some have it. Others don't.
Marriage can be a gift as well, depending on the reasons and underlying motives driving the two together. So many get married and divorced for all the wrong reasons.
A person needs to learn to be happy in whatever situation one finds oneself. Have you ever noticed how well preserved and happy married people without children are? Yet I know others who had well over 4 children and they are as happy as they were when they first met. Single persons, even more so.
Enjoy your family reunion and protect your gift!
2006-12-04 15:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at the ones that are younger and married. Like in their early 20's. Your probably happier than they are. You still have time. You just haven't met the right person yet. Just ignore them.
2006-12-01 08:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give me a call sweetie , I'll go with yah. I love reunions, and we'd have a hoot too. (just remember , they might be hitched but 1/2 of 'em are mentally divorced.)
2006-12-01 08:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nOTHING WRONG IN BEING SINGLE!!
Walk in with an air about you and if and when approached, tell nasty little secrets as to why you love playing the field!!
At least you haven't ended up in a miserable marriage!
Think positive.
2006-12-01 08:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people like to talk and they like to ask.... just be yourself and show them that theres nothing wrong in being single at 38
2006-12-01 08:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by face-reality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweatheart ... Dere's nothing to survive.
How bad can it be ... personally they probably envy your liberal life. just feel good abt it.
And enjoy the Day ... Luck
2006-12-01 08:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Maya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them most of your friends are single too and they've all been married at least once! :-)
2006-12-01 08:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hire an escort for the day. That will get them talking.
2006-12-01 08:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋