I'm only 16 and not manage and I made my life a confusing mixture of a bunch of holy ****,I slept with a guy and he got me pregant and today is the day when I suppose to get my abortion so do I get it or not neither of my parents know about this
2006-11-30 23:56:12 · 26 answers · asked by Georgette W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you are not ready for a baby...think about what's best.....16 is way too young to be a mommy.
2006-11-30 23:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by th25tina 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Adoption! Adoption! being that you wrote this six hours ago I'm assuming that you had your abortion, If not there are so many options out there. look at all of them. Don't jump the gun beacuse of fear never never make a decision based on pressure or fear you will regreat it for the years to come. I dont know if your a praying girl but ask God for direction and guidence. If you had it already Know that your baby is with jesus and is in her savors arms. You will someday have to answer for yor actions. I pray if you did have an abortion you would realize what you have done and not have sex before marriage again.I would only pray that you have learned from your mistakes. please practice abstinance and if a guy really loves you and cares about you he will wait for you. Dont put yourself in this situation again sweety.
2006-12-01 06:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by ken9sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can speak from personal experience. I got pregnant at 16, and had an abortion. I personally found it to be a big mistake.
Ultimately it is your decision, but you need to be prepared for the consequences of your decision. On one hand, if you have the abortion, you will not have a child to raise, and you can go on with your life, but you will have to deal with your emotions (guilt, depression, what-ifs) and THAT is VERY, VERY, hard.
On the other hand, if you do not have an abortion, you will be raising a child, and will have to grow up very fast.
Your life will not be the same either way, but you need to choose the path that you feel you can deal with.
I still feel guilty about my abortion 8 years later. I have grown up, and gotten married now, and had 4 children, but every 5th of July (what was supposed to be my due date) I still think and wonder "what if?"
Good luck sweetie, I hope you choose the decision that YOU feel is best for YOU.
2006-12-01 00:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by lonijean 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason! U made the choice to sleep with him knowing the consequences, now it's your responsibility to take care of what you have created. You are very young, but from experience it's worth all that is ahead. I was pregnant & SCARED for the first time at 16 also. If I would have chosen to abord the baby I would have nothing but regret still today. I now have 4 beautiful children at 27. You can do it! Best Wishes!
2006-12-01 00:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Cstout 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! Tell your parents! If you don't want the baby, put it up for ADOPTION!!! Abortion is NOT a form of birth controll. You should have thought about this BEFORE having unprotected sex! You made your bed now lay in it...it's not the baby's fault you made a mistake...don't make the baby pay for your mistake! Adoption (better than) Abortion!
2006-12-01 05:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am so sorry you feel so alone that you cannot share this with your parents. I think you should try to do that befour you make a final decission in the abortion.
I am the grandmother of a 1 year old grandson, - My son got his girlfriend pregnate after dating approx 2 months into their relationship - bottom line we asked for custody of the young girl of her parents, --- because they were not able to cope with this kind of issue. Now my grandson's mother is 18 and she delivered our grandson at age 17, my son was 16 then.
It will be hard but believe me there is nothing a parent will not do for their child, and that's just love uncondional love.
Please talk to your parents first sweet heart. They will help you. It will not be all roses, beleive me. But in a matter of an hour or okay a few day's a parent's love of their child will be stronger for the fact that ---- a Parent will never, ever do anything to HURT their own child.... That's the bottom line.
Together with your parent's figure out what's best for you and everyone consirned here.
I will also tell you this I am 42 years old, my husband is 40, and his sister is 46 years old, I too have two older brothers ---- And we were ALL ADOPTED..... To the best of family's I can assure you that... Adoption is a screening process that even in this day and age is well planned... and they make absolutely sure that they can financially give that child the BEST OF EVERYTHING in LIFE.... We all have above average financial mean's in our family from all side. Adoption is very expensive and only the one's who can afford this, have the mean's to continue financially support a child......
Just please, please talk to your parents first.... They may want to help you raise your child, see that you finish school and so on like we did - in the decissions with our son, and his girlfriend.
you can even email me if you just want to talk..... It won't be easy, but I won't lie to you.... It's hard work, and I see that every day with the kids here at home honey. It's work to be a parent even when you plan it.
It's not the end of the world. But you have option's, lots of them. Just promise yourself to give your parents the option to except the news and I am sure they can help you figure out what is best FOR YOU.... Parents make sacarfices all the time - beleive me this is one sacarifice a parent will gladley make - they love you.
YOU KNOW THEY DO.... TRUST THAT LOVE PLEASE LET THEM HELP YOU.
After that all the rest will fall into place, one way or another.
My heart goes out to you.
2006-12-01 01:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents. And consider putting the baby up for adoption. But don't have an abortion. You really need your parents' help though.
2006-12-01 16:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting an Abortion is killing a baby. Don't sleep w/ a guy if u don't want a baby. Tell ur parents before they will understand and help you!!
2006-12-01 05:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by HOTTIE 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents and always remember, this is your body, your decision. dont let people on this panel talk you out of anything because they think abortion is wrong. you must talk to your parents because if something goes wrong, and im not saying it will, but there is always a risk. they will be there for you. I would say go ahead with it if you choose, not if someone else decides for you. good luck and god bless, and may you learn from your mistakes. it will not be easy to deal with but it something you must do.
2006-12-01 00:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by tsd574 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it, ultimatily it is your decision but please don't throw a innocent life (or what resembles a life) of a child because of a bad choice. I have wanted a baby for four years and everytime someone is pregant and thinking about abortion, or everytime I hear about someone mistreating their child it breaks my heart in pieces. Please don't do it, contact me if you need someone to talk to at Sunshine72188@yahoo.com. Tell your parents, I'm sure they will be supportive. God doesn't make mistakes, just surpises, and I'm not a religious person either.
2006-12-01 01:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you will regret it for the rest of your life if you do. You can always put that baby up for adoption and he/she can go to a couple who will love it dearly. Also, you really should tell your parents, this is not something you should take lightly or go through alone. Good luck, hun.
2006-12-01 00:03:49 · answer #11 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋