I am 19 and pregnant. We were engaged b4 we found out and still happily together. What should I expect along the way?? Is labor as bad as every1 says?? That's what scares me and he's like everything will be ok. Will life ever be the same for me again?? Will he still get to live alittle?? Is it wrong to be afraid of childbirth cuz that's how my bff died??
I'm a vegetarian and 5'1 and like 100lbs. Will I ever get my gymnastics/surfing/lax/snoboar... tonedbody back??
Will he eventually become worried??If so when?? Will he love the baby or think it took away his life??
2006-11-30 23:51:42 · 11 answers · asked by Amabell 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes child birth sucks I have had to and having my third in May. Life will never be the same. You are now a parent and will be for the rest of your life. Your time is not your own. Do, sacrifice is the key. Remember this child did not seek you out, do right by the child. As far as your relationship it will be what you and yours make it. If you are worried about your image then you really haven't a whole lot of room for a child in your self centered world. It is time to grow up and prioritize.
2006-11-30 23:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by starchild_kisschild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are all questions and concerns of a normal pregnant mother to be. Yes, you'll get your body back if you desire it back and your life will change but for the better and you can still have fun and go out because there is such a thing called a baby sitter. Your boyfriend will be worried as well soon enough. He may be scared now just hiding it. Once the baby comes he'll most likely worry enough for the both of you. As for pain during child birth??? There is a reason it is called labor. It isn't easy. Usually for your first one it will be long and not as easy as if it were your second or third. I have four and am pregnant with my fifth and the first one was almost 19 hours and the pain was horrible but I had an epidural and it made it much more manageable. I did my second one natural and he was only 4 hours of labor but I swore I wouldn't ever have a natural child birth again because the pain was so intense that I passed out 3 times but they were also using pertocin . If you want a painless birth or I should say feel no contractions until it's time to push tell the Dr and nurse that you want the epidural right away but don't wait til the pain gets to bad because before you can have the epidural you need to have taken in the whole bag of I.V. fluid before they can insert the spinal block. Well worth it. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-12-01 00:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by ws_422 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i was 18 when i had my daughterand i am now 19. i had her c-section so the labor part i dunno but i have help other ppl go thro it and its not that bad no worries. and no ur life will EVER be the same it will be so much BETTER its so wonderful i couldnt imagine anything different. Yeah u two can can still go out once in a while trust me ur gonna need a break to dont feel bad about taking the baby to a baby sitters or family members and just go home and sleep or watch a movie with ur bf. My daughters dad has not been there since i said "gues what im pregnant" so the daddy part i dunno but my best friend just had a baby and her hubby and her are doing great im sure ur bf will love the baby no matter what and be there for you. good luck. If u work out u will get ur body back or most of it. And its ok to be scared of child birth its not easy but w the right doctor u'll be ok.
2006-12-01 00:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that I am a lot like you...I worried about everything from the moment I found out I was pregnant. I was 24 and married to my husband and still worried about how my husband would react!
Life will never be the same again, but for everything you lose, you gain with the life of your child. You can still have a child and a social life, it will just take you a while to get it back after the pregnancy and childbirth. I wouldn't worry about childbirth too much. Statistically, the odds of you dying during childbirth are very, very slim. If you are worried, discuss your worries with your doctor so you can both figure out a way to keep you as healthy as possible during pregnancy.
As for your body, it all depends on genetics combined with how you treat yourself during pregnancy. Drink plenty of water, exercise (lightly, if your doctor permits), take your vitamins, use plenty of lotion...just do your best to care for yourself. That will optimize your results. I have a friend who was small before she became pregnant and looks exactly like she did before...and she has a beautiful baby boy!
As for your boyfriend, it sounds like he is confident in your ability as a couple to raise a child. You should be too! Be thankful that he is supportive. Some men aren't as supportive and don't take well to the idea of becoming a father. It sounds like your boyfriend is doing well. He obviously loves and cares for you, so be thankful and enjoy this monumental time in your life! Good Luck and congratulations!
2006-12-01 00:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you he will love you no matter what always.
a baby will give the both of you a very specia bond that oone else will share with the two of you.
im glad your still happy thats the key to the beginning.
pregnancy i not scary i have had 2. enjoy it, tiredness to begin with, you probably will not gain weight straight away maybe till your about 6 months onwards thats when you will really start to notie. nothing will be the same again no, you will have the responsability of a new life yes you will still be able to live a little but you may find you will not want to.go out.
no its not wrong to be afraid of childbirth, i am sorry to hear about your friend but, the chances of the same happening to you are very slim.
you should regain your figure if your a natual sllim person and with training you will have no problems.
he will always worry about you but thats natrual. he will fall in love with the baby straight away. and he wont questionhis life being taken away so stop worrying.good luck
2006-12-01 00:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by rachie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all expect lots of changes physically and mentally. you have to remind him that also b-cuz your attitude will change and he will think that it is him so when things get wierd try to relax cuz remember that you do love each other very much.
labor is different for everyone i was only in labor 45 mins so it went really fast cuz theres so much going on. eventually you really do forget about the pain involved. life changes sooo much but it is changes for the best, babies are awesome. try to make time to be alone before and after the baby is born it helps too.
as to getting your body back be cautious of your weight gain and work close with your docs when i had me daughter i weighed 110 before pregnancy and 132 just before delivery then 118 the day after delivery but remember everybody handles it differently.
hope my answer helps to ease your mind--missi
2006-12-01 00:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by missi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... he is being calm to keep you calm. Your body will bounche back to its fit state, with a little extra skin on the belly though. I had my little girl 16 months ago, and am back to running and jumping, and having fun. I am currently 7 months prego, but will still contunue to work out, weven though now it will me a lighter work out less straining on my body. At this point i am starting to save my energy for child birth. Most important is to keep eating super healthy, and drink tons of fluids to keep your body up with it;s self and pregnancy. good luck.
2006-11-30 23:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by Holly M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to worry more about taking care of the baby and not so much about yourself, your body, or your baby's daddy!
women have babys safely everyday...continue seeing your doctor .
2006-11-30 23:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by th25tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you girls ever think of these things BEFORE you get pregnant????? Stop breeding like stray cats??? If so?? WHEN!!!!
2006-12-01 00:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
poor u if ur that scared! good luck :)
pregnant with #4
2006-12-01 00:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋