I have been with my partner for 5 years, we have our own house, very good jobs and a strong relationship, what do you think?
2006-11-30 22:11:21 · 19 answers · asked by ~Natacha~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh dear, I forget to mention the all important factor. My partner is 31. Time is getting on for him!
2006-11-30 22:38:12 · update #1
If you and your partner feel you are ready for children then go for it. I was with my hubby for 5 years as well before we had our first child. The timing seemed right - we had enjoyed 5 years of just us doing what we wanted for holidays, nights out etc. Having a kiddie does change all that, nights out together are not so often and hols are more for the kids rather than what we used to do before. Your life revloves around the children instead of just you and your partner.
I gave up my job completely when I had my first - we were financially secure enough to do that, but I've been working part time for the past 2 years and am soon jacking that in and starting up my own business to work round the kids and childminding more!! It's up to you whether you want to keep working or not around a baby, depends on your financial situation and what you both want.
Having children is the best thing in the world, it's so life changing and I couldn't think of anything better, they are the best decision I ever made!!!
2006-11-30 22:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right and you both want to start a family age has nothing to do with it. I had my fist of 5 children when I was 19 and my last at 28, so now they are grown they are more like friends and I am young enough to enjoy life and hopefully see them with their own families. Go for it if you are ready
2006-12-01 04:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could wait till your 40 then you'll think you are too old. I think you make your choices in life. Children are a blessing and not only need alot of your time, they need lots of love. Can you handle it is the question...........or does life to you consist of what you always want? (no offense intended)
Good houses, jobs and strong love for your mate does not mean you'll be a good parent. What's the deciding factor? YOU
2006-11-30 22:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that over 20 is never too young for children. Especially if you both have good paying jobs and your own house. I think its a perfect time to start having kids.
2006-11-30 22:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tuff question....well you both have done well together...congratulations....Do you do adult things together? You sound mature with your age, dont know the age of your partner?, talk it over, dont pressure him, just bring into an conversation...who knows...you both want to continue with your careers a little longer, and your partner could say when you both start having an family....My younger brother who is 33 yrs old has 3 lovely kids...5,3 & 1 yrs old and he's done very well with himself and also with my sister in law.....So take one step at a time...Good Luck!!!!
Bye from Down Under....
2006-11-30 22:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by AGS429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there will never be a correct age it is wen you feel ready I am in exact same situation and me and my partner are trying its not about what others think it is whether you are able to give the child the love and support it needs
2006-11-30 22:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by natl7788 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is....are you ready? If you answer this yes right away then you are good to go but if you stopped and think about it for a while, then try to have a talk to yourself. This is a sign of "no maybe not now" kind of thing. Even if your financially stable, he loves you, you love him, its about a commitment of having someone new in your life and this person will create changes ion your life...a lot!
2006-11-30 23:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by cuties 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it now, before you get to the age where you're questioning your patience and wondering whether you still want to date or not. You can always go out after your kid is a bit older(say 10 years; but if you wait, you'll be 40 and wanting to go out when the kid is 7 and you won't be able to!
2006-11-30 22:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel ready, if you want to have a child- go for it! When you are 21 it is much easy with from labor to all that will follow. When you are older you are wiser and may be still thinking: is it right time for kids? How i will cope? ext Time is going and it's better to have little ones around you
2006-11-30 22:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Everona97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy you life while you are young enough, have children if that is what you want.
It is not a choice of enjoying yourself, or having children, it is a case of doing both.
Some people suggest that having children is a burden, it can be amoungst your greatest joys.
2006-11-30 22:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by DoctressWho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋