I have been with him for three months, and he has practically lived with me - as he has spent everynight staying at my house (which i do a houseshare with other ppl) He has asked me to move in with him (At his mums house-although she is never there) which financially would be very good, and we are always together anyway so it would be the same.
Should i move in with him ? Is this the right thing to do ?
2006-11-30 21:38:24 · 29 answers · asked by Tamara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with Lavinia - most people will say it's too soon, you're too young etc etc but I met my husband when I was 18. I moved in with him at his step dads place after about 4 months, then a couple of months later we got our own flat, then bought a house and got married. 10 years down the line we're still blissfully happy and in love! Don't get me wrong it can be a struggle at times - we were both quite young and the pressure of responsibility and money (or lack of it) got to us at times but we weathered the storms. It can work out - I'd say it would probably make you or break you and I suspect you know which in your own heart. Good luck x
2006-12-01 00:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Badgrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things:
1) If you do move in... and it is your choice, do not burn the bridge behind you. Make it clear to the people you are living with now that you may come back if things do not work out but only as a final solution...
2) He still lives with mom????? That sounds a bit of a problem... you do not state how old you or he is so it is difficult to know if he is mature enough...
3) Have the 2 of you talked about your own place- if he is living with MOM, it is probably her house so her rules!!! be careful of the strain that may put on the relationship!
2006-12-01 00:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by P!ss Ant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way to soon. You really do not know each other. If you have only been together 3 mo. give it more time you do not really know him.If he is still living home with his mom why doesn't he have his own place? Doesn't he make enough money or does he spend all his money and live off of her, or does he help her with bills and different things? I think you need to spend some time apart (not be with each other every day)and if it is meant to be it will happen. My daughter's boyfriend moved in almost after the first date he was ok at first. Then he thought she should stay home while he went out with his friends or he would make her mad so she would not go out with him and he would go anyway. Never helped with bills or food he always had a good excuse! She made him leave real quick! So know what you are getting into. Go slow!!! Good luck!!!
2006-11-30 22:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by d3midway semi-retired 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like you said you are practically living together anyway so there wont be many suprises if you move in now.
The only issues that usually come up is workloads, once you move in someone has got to do the washing and the groceries and the dishes, and if he makes you do it all then thats where the problems start!
If you have a backup, like moving back into the house your in now then id go for it, Id tell him that I want to have a trial and dont make it too official.
2006-11-30 21:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by adnie25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Eeeeeh! Wrong! Do not pass go, do not collect $200!
Women typically get screwed when they move in with a guy without getting married (literally and figuratively). You seem to really be motivated by the financial aspect, which is a Red Flag that this is a bad idea. You need to go to school, get a job/career, succeed in it long enough to get your OWN apartment, THEN trust God to bring you Mr. Right who will MARRY you. Then you can buy a house together and have kids, and SHUDDER to think how your life may have ended up if you moved in with that other guy when you were younger!
Back up and start over by yourself!
2006-11-30 22:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by MandaPanda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know him better than us here, so you decide whether to move in with him or not. If you don't get along after moving in with him, then all you have to do is find another place to live. I met my husband in the February, we moved in together in the April, Married in the July and have been together over 13 years now. So you never know.
2006-11-30 21:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Curious39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY DARILNG.
do not move in with him I aint saying that you are gonna break up or anything, but you are throwing away your freedom, if you do argue, where you gonna run back to?? I was with my man for 4 years, we moved into my flat together this year in March, it was fine for a while, then we just started to argue, well we broke up last week and i never want to see him again, too much time together will put your relationship to the test. And as you are only 19, a few months older than myself, i wouldnt recomend it. We got so much to do and people to meet, dont settle down with the first guy who happens to come along. Yeah you might really love each other, but things change. Trust me, i think you should just have fun and dont take things too seriously. IF you move in with him, you will end up being like husband and wife at the age of 19. Aint there things you want to do first???
I really hope you listen to what i am saying. As things are easier said than done aint they, but i am going through your problem right now and i am telling you, it will end in a disaster as you are too young, what you want right now may not be what you want in 3/4 years from now.
But goodluck and takecare. x
2006-11-30 21:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tamara really the answer is no...i've tried it, don't! U two can get ur own place in 3 months after u've been together for 6 months, then u will have 3 months to plan it out, get money saved, and then do it. Make good choices!
2006-11-30 21:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Three months are a good time to know a person , liking / disliking / hobbies / general nature / moods / responsible and caring nature / some friends and relatives . If yes , go ahead and join him without fear . Good luck to you both .
2006-11-30 22:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 3 months - no way!!
You're still in the first flush of romance and him staying nights at yours isn't the same thing at all!!
Living together is a totally different thing! Have fun, enjoy yourselves and save the responsibility until you know each other better!!
2006-11-30 21:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by libbyft 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋