2006-11-30 21:24:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just accept that the liar has a problem
2006-11-30 21:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by ntu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since this is under Marriage - I am going to assume that it is your spouse that has been a liar.
First: Is the offense forgivable?
Did they lie about spending too much money on finger nails or day spa's?
or
Did they lie about spending too much time Naked with someone else?
If you determine that the offense is forgivable- and you really love this person, you must learn to trust them again. Talking it out is the only way you can get past this.
There are very few things that I would not forgive my husband for. Cheating on me would be the number on breaking point. I have no time for that - but if he lied to me about being at work when he was golfing with his buddy's I would probably not care nearly as much.
Trust is the single most important part of a relationship. Will you ever be able to trust them again? Will they be able to No lie to you? Can you both learn from this and forgive?
You are the only one that can answer this question - with out more details.
Get into see a professional to help you work through this. I can see that you love this person.
IF it is illegal stuff - then get out quick, since now that you know about it, you are an accessoory after the fact. Move.
Take care and best of luck to you.
2006-11-30 22:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by Night Train 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone has lied to you then they will most probably do it again. It depends on what the situation is tho and what they were lying about.
If its a partner or a friend then u really should get them out of ur life but if its ur parents or family member u need to access the situation....
2006-11-30 22:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by summa_girl84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no need to explain, i get it with what you said...
i had the same problems from my family and still being lied to...at times i confront the liars and other times i just let it roll off my shoulder..as long as i know they are lying, i am ahead of their game. i live my life my way, and leave the liars alone... i know the truth, my truth and their truth, they are so busy planning lies it is so funny, where i am ok with what i am doing.. [my gran mother taught me that when one lies once, they have to lie 5 times to cover the one lie and after awhile they forget what they said, and get caught in their own lies.. so they will not have a peaceful life as long as lies are a part of it.. i tell the truth so i can relax and enjoy being myself ,,,i am sure you are the same way...
2006-11-30 21:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hard to answer this if you cannot explain. We don't know who you are, so what are you hiding?
My husband lies about major things himself. At first it really really hurt me. Then it scared me. Then it enfuriated me. Now it's just really frustrating and annoying. I always hope he'll grow up and change. But the fact is, that I'm just gonna have to accept and you are too, is that these types of characters don't change. They've been like this their entire lives and probably will die this way, so, are you willing to live with it or not? If not, you may have to divorce, if you love him and your kids' happiness, and can deal with it longer, then stay.
Good luck
2006-11-30 22:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find out exactly why you were being lied to, and take your time to decide if you can except and forgive it. If you can't then just walk away - there is no point in continuing bad feelings, or building regrets. Do what is best for you.
Take care
Lx
2006-11-30 21:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya
But only you know the person and the situation
You will know in your heart if it was malicious or with all good intentions. It really does suck but you can't change the past. It will probably take a long time you just need to forgive and forget if the intentions are good
2006-11-30 21:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by Weeeee... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I suppose that all depends on what I was lied to about. If it doesn't change anything now what difference does it make. Just mark them a liar and move on
2006-11-30 22:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you accept that it happened, ask to discuss, and then decide whether you can forgive and forget OR walk away from the liar and get on with the rest of your life. Only you know the chances of getting to the truth (assuming you need to), and if they will do it again. Put yourself first: they have so far.
2006-11-30 21:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and think things through.Maybe he lied to keep you from getting upset ? Guys dont see things like women do.What we deem important they dont and vise versa+.One thing I know for sure is that if I cant trust the person I'm with then I won't stay with him.
2006-11-30 21:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by pammi_b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being lied to totally sucks. Without knowing the whole situation though I can't give any advice. You should at least give us some hints...
2006-11-30 22:34:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋