Just one thing i dont understand is like people telling me what i should and shouldnt do while im pregnant.... or about when i give birth if i wanted there opinion i would ask .... i guess the thing i want to know is how to politly let people that im not interested in being TOLD what to do... its not even advice anymore its more along the lines of "do this do that:" or tell me that im doing something wrong like eating the wrong foods or eating too little or too much.... also what should i tell my sister when shes acting like this is her pregnancy when its not!
2006-11-30 21:17:49 · 14 answers · asked by love_ridden_85 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It does seem that people feel they have the right to tell pregnant people what to do - but bear in mind that in most cases it is just that they feel very protective of the most precious creature you are carrying inside you. It is natural for everyone to want to share in protecting the young, even if sometimes this is shown in insensitive ways.
One way I find that works very well when people give unsolicited advice is to look them square in the eye and say nothing - this discomfits them and when they stop talking, carry on as though they said nothing.
It seems rude but it is amazingly effective - sometimes silence is the most powerful weapon of all.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 21:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by lozatron 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off me and my wife are dealing with somewhat the same issues and it makes her just as upset when people try to tell her what to eat how much to eat, when to eat etc etc... When your pregnant your alot more emotional as Im sure you already know, and I think you should just take a second, the people that are telling you that are only trying to help you... as annoying as it may sound its true. Although most of them probably haven't even been through the same thing as you, and if they have they probably forgot how annoying it was to be told that. My advice is if someone says something about your eating etc, just take it in one ear and out the other, dont worry about what they say, there just trying to help. And along the sister line, I really couldn't tell you what to do on that note, my wife's sister is over ALL the time now that she's pregnant and act's as though it's her pregnancy to, it annoy's the heck out of me. But she just doesn't say anything because she realizes that its the thought that count's and it's nice to know at least SOMEONE is thinking about you and your well being. Dont let it get to you. Enjoy your pregnancy try not to have to many bad memory's ... oh and remember stessing out only stresses your baby out to. Good luck with the baby, there a miracle. Take Care.
2006-11-30 21:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by anthony b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I went through the same thing and I'm still going through it and my son is almost a year old. Honestly everybody that has kids and even those that don't feel like it's their duty to tell you what you can and can not do. Last time I checked it was you carrying your baby not them. What I did was just let them talk and ignored them. If the hospital you have your baby at is anything like where I had mine, even nurses will tell you what you should do with your child. For example, I wanted to breast feed but when they took my son to check him out they gave him a bottle and he still had the effects of the epidural I got so he was sleepy when they brought him back so he didn't want to breast feed right away so I asked for a bottle and my nurse got mad and was like no you have to breast feed you can't give him a bottle. Anyways, to answer your question just politely say this is my baby and I feel like I'm making the right choices, or just let them talk and say all the stupid things they feel like they have to say to you. Good luck.
2006-11-30 21:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did u know that every year there are new things about what u should or shouldnt do while being pregnant! things in the old days were nothing like they r now just ignore them all its ur body and ur child thats all u have to b concerned about it will be the same when u have given birth dont worry! its a mad world we live in
2006-11-30 21:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by sweetflyer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just listen and nod but do want you want. It is your pregnancy and if you feel comfortable doing what you are, then go ahead. Just tell them that you appreciate their thoughts, but this is your pregnancy and baby and if you want advice you will ask. As for your sister, it sounds like she is so excited about you being pregnant, that you may just have to let her feel a part of it, but set boundaries.
2006-11-30 21:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by k1e9r6r3y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of that each and each female and each being pregnant is distinctive... some women human beings get each and every symptom in the e book jointly as others not often have any. i did no longer get any indications in my first being pregnant untill the seventh or 8th week or maybe then they have been gentle. i'm 12 weeks with my 2d and that i knew the 2d I conceived, feeling like I had the flu at 4 weeks and persevering with until eventually at last my tenth week.... however the 1st trimester is assumed to be the worst.
2016-10-04 14:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its one of those thing where everyone feels the need to comment. Most people really are well meaning, but I know how hard it is to bite your hormonal tongue! I think if you just smile and kind of generically say...
"Thank you for your advice and concern, but I have already researched and studied and I have made up my mind. However If I have any other questions I'll be sure to ask you."
Good luck!
2006-11-30 21:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by scottnkris819 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had that at work as im the youngest in my ofice and all of my collegeus had had children, they were constantly telling me what i can/cant do because it was my first child they presumed i had no idea!
In the end i had to talk to my boss and tell her that they were getting on my nerves and i dint need the hassle, i think the policy is to be honest, you will fell much better, if you are totally honest, tell them its your baby and your pregnancy and you know what is best for you!
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-11-30 22:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by linsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found with my pregnancies it was helpful to listen to everyone's advice ,but i made my own decsicions. And thats what you should do. You will find that everyone is a so called expert and its frustrating just try to not stress about it too much,most people are just trying to help. Good Luck.
2006-11-30 22:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get excited and want to advise you of the right and wrong way during times like this. They're really just trying to help you not make mistakes like they did. It's annoying but you might want to tolerate it because you may actually need them later and they won't be so quick to help you out.
2006-11-30 21:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋