2006-11-30 20:51:56 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you go bald, can she look at other men? No. Either you are married, or you are living a sham. You should not look, you will only torture yourself and make yourself think negative thoughts about your wife which are unfair.
She was once a baby, then a toddler, then a child, then a teenager, then an adult, then a fat adult--but all of her various forms contain the same SPIRIT inside. It's actually the SPIRIT that is the most important part of the person. The body is just the "vehicle" of the spirit. You married the spirit, soul (mind, emotions, free will), and body. Only her body has changed, and even that is not PERMANENT. Fat is an ATTACHMENT to the body--it isn't the body itself.
Your body might not have changed significantly---yet, but apparently your soul has become clouded, which is a much more serious problem. It reminds me of the parable about the speck on the eye and the telephone pole in the eye...
There may be many causes of obesity. There are a lot of good things out there these days than can help with that. She should try Thyodine from www.greenwillowtree.com and amino acids like Hi-Health's HGH 3-X at night. She'll speed up her sluggish thyroid and burn fat in her sleep to boot. Then she should dump YOU (just kidding...).
Try complimenting her and "looking through" her fat until she looses it. Work the fat off her by making love to her 24-7, you CAN do that, can't you...? Or does your member only respond to skin and bones?
You are probably able to "look through" another lady's T-shirt in public, so try "looking through" your wife's current fat. Then, maybe, after she looses her weight, she won't "look through" you.
2006-11-30 22:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by MandaPanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well more then likely if you see a hot chick your going to look no matter what but in a perfect world you would not look or want to look. However dont gawk at girls and dont make comments about them in front of her as this is just rude. You should marry a women based or more then just looks as all womens looks fade eventually unless they have the money to pay for them like celebrities. You should think would I still love this women if she does get fat, is she going to still make me happy, is her personality outshine her looks, is she a good person, why do I want to marry this person. Also remember she may stay looking the same and you may become ugly. How would you feel if a girl you married checked out a whole bunch of other guys if you were fat and you heard her friends or guys saying whys she with that guy hes ugly.
As for the looking part there are men with some of the most beautiful women in the world and they still look at other women. If you only marry for looks your marriage will be very miserable trust me.
2006-12-01 06:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Syrinthia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you're a jerk. I believe most marriages are based on a lot more than your partner's weight or appearance. If based on love, your marriage should provide support to help your partner manage their weight for the good of both of you. I your answer to dealing with problems that arise in your relationship is to try and find a new woman...then I'll assume that she is already looking for another man! C'mon, be a real man and acknowledge what's REALLY important in a marriage....The bond love creates between two people.
2006-12-01 04:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by kimmunism 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look all you like but your time may be better spent trying to get your wife to lose some weight,,let her know you miss the woman she was and found attractive,,yes there will be those who state that you should love them whatever but seriously,,would any of them say 'i do' if they could have a flash of the person in say,,10 years and they had let themselves go,,there are all sorts of reasons for weight gain and many people struggle with these health problems but for those who just pile on the pounds and still expect their husband/wife to still find them attractive,,personally i dont think it is as simple as loving them no matter what,,you should find your partner attractive,,you should want to make love to them but if they change their whole appearance,to the eye,,they are not good to look at anymore and you just dont want to sleep with them,love them or not. encourage the person to get help with the weight if they can,,show support and kindness and leave the other women alone.
2006-12-01 06:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your human... you will notice thinner women ... But it shouldn't go farther then that. Maybe she needs something from you shes not getting? Maybe She's had your kids and didn't lose the weight. MY hubby called me fat when I wasn't ... Showed him I got fat... left him weighing 300+ with his kids. weight gain is usually a symptom of something else wrong... Left him lost the weight... try going on a diet exercise program together walk love her and support her.... If it was you who got fat what would you want her to do???
2006-12-01 05:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by forever_wild_flower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,of course not.This is completely out of question.You could try a nice discussion with your wife and tell her how you actually feel about her weight gain.Then listen to her point of view and try both of you to find a solution.That is the right and honorable thing to do!
2006-12-01 04:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by ducky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isnt it suppose to be whats on the inside?? she would still be the same person shes not turned into an alien has she? if ur looking to stray then its because ur not happy not because of the way she looks. take a look at urself first mate
2006-12-01 04:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by sweetflyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why must u do that, is it not God that gives fat? except u never loved her ur marriage is for better for worst. Physical apperance is not love neither caring nor happiness to family.
2006-12-01 05:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are together you should not be looking at other women because this will lower her self esteem. her with should not matter what should is her personality, and love most of all. it is only natural to look but think of your wife. how would you feel if she was to look at other men?
2006-12-01 05:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appearances always deceives...........If you go according to ur decision now......sometime in future you may regret it........There is something bad about future..you can never correct it...but the present affords you the facility...there4 look b4 u leap.
2006-12-01 04:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋