Interesting question about certain types of women....?

Question

Not to generalize,but why is it that alot of the women i've come across who have had deep rooted psychological problems have sometimes been the most intelligent ones i've met?Is there any correlation,or is it just coincidence?I also find that the majority of these types of women are perfectionists.

Answer 1

These women have problems BECAUSE they are intelligent. I think you'll find it's the same with many men. Are a lot of the problems depression/anxiety based? Intelligent people have a tendency to over-analyse things. They have a better understanding of just how awful many things are, and are made to feel as though these thoughts are 'abnormal' or 'metally unhealthy', when they're not. The problem is that, in our over-cushy world, people do not have much of a need to better themselves and their intellects and, therefore, the intelligent folk are finding it harder and harder to find people of like-mind, and that can be distressing.

Answer 2

Not long ago I answered the question, "What defines a genius", and wrote a whole, big, thing that addressed mental illness and very high intelligence. You may want to find that question.

If it is true that the bright women you know tended to have problems it is a coincidence, I'm fairly certain.

Very bright women do, however, have a problem with being perceived as having psychological problems because people don't understand their reasoning or because people think that women should behave in some other way or think in some other way that may conflict with how the highly intelligent woman thinks.

Being a perfectionist, for example, is often seen by people who don't have the ability or motivation to aim for excellence as "too much"; while people who try to do things with as much excellence as they can see others as being "not quite enough". Women who are very bright can do things with excellence without much effort, so sometimes what may be assumed to be an unhealthy pursuit of perfection is not that at all. People who have a certain type of high intelligence can often easily produce excellence almost by accident and certainly almost effortlessly.

Women who are very bright may seem to have an inappropriate "attitude" or anger in their personality. Often, they have lived lives of being underestimated and in a world that can't even imagine how they think. People around these women can think, "Hey - everyone is nice to her. Why does she have that attitude?" They haven't walked in her shoes, and if they could they would understand the "edge".

It is entirely possible that you're accurate in your belief that the women you've run into had "deep rooted psychological problems". Its also possible they didn't, and that you just think they did because you don't understand their reasoning. motivations, or other factors that contributed.

Sometimes, too, people assume others are intelligent when they may only be nicely above average.

Read the whole big answer I wrote for that question I mentioned.

Answer 3

Most deep routed problem first occur during your early stage development. Sigman Froid explains it best. It is the intelligent women that cant seem to deal with these issues. like myself. I know exactly why I am the way I am, and why I have serious issues. The trouble is it is not so easy to fix. You become a perfectionist because you want to try fix what is wrong in your life emotionally, but can only seem to do it physically. We like to be in control because we cannot control what has happened to us.

This is why MENSA was formed. It is a support group for highly intelligent people. Hopefully people of like mindedness can help solve your social inadequacies.

Answer 4

Everyone has problems, but perhaps because your interest is in women, and women also express themselves more than men, that's why took notice of their problems.

However, on some level women might have problems based on inequality of social treatments during childhood, such that "a boy has to be strong", a girl has to be a "barbie girl".

This might have harmful psychological effects, and I believe it's worldwide problem.

On the other hand women by nature are more sensitive than men, due to their right-brain hemisphere dominance. Which means that they perceive everything in an emotional perspective much more than rational.

Finally, their monthly visitor also helps alot in putting them in a bad mood.

Answer 5

It is lessons in life hun. We learn from what we have gone through, and as we get older, become more aware and more understanding of problems. Not only do we look at our own problems, but we see everyonelses too. The more you know, the more knowledge you want. Personally, i do not beleive in coincidences, i say that everything happens for a reason. as for the perfectionist part....maybe it is because they don't want anyone to find fault with them, or the things they do.
Blessings
Soli

Answer 6

hai trent,

may be the reason is a lady how ever depends on man not financially i mean but emtionally as brought in our traditionds and customs says

and also what high position she plays professionally doesn't matter after coming to home.she has to do wat she expected to do irrespective of work tension, physical illness and moods.

naturally they r more strained looking after a number of jobs.

when in such a state they look for a person who is more supportive and loving , caring.

if not found , they get depressed and may hinder a psychological problem.

and coming to the point that majority r perfectionists
perfection not only belong to women but also man.
i have found many
perfection is great deal while cultivating leads to many things.(problems)

Answer 7

It's not only about women. And It's not just yr correct observation in fact it is more of a rule rather than an exception. I Guess it is because the more intelligent ones are probably so much more self-aware of their psyche that they stop taking it for granted - thus they open up to doubts - & if unresolved they manifest as psychic issues.

Answer 8

I think you are generalising whether you know it or not. I believe your suggestion might apply equally to men as to women, if it is valid at all. A lot of seriously disturbed people are really not very smart. Take a look at the quality of your nearest prison inmates for instance!
My guess would be that less intelligent people don't analyse things (including themselves) as much. Less intelligent people also probably just have less to worry about as they don't even 'get' a lot of what goes on around them. Maybe that is what you are noticing?
I also think that knowing more raises peoples expectations - what you might see as perfectionism.

Answer 9

Well Trent, first of all, you basically answered the main question yourself; your words just needed revised. Women with psychological problems seem to be the most intelligent because they think about issues much more intensely. For example, if a person were to pass one of these "so called women" on a street and in passing said to her, "Why hello, you look chirpy today", how do you think she'd react? Well, Trent, she'd act sneaky. Oh yeah, sneaky, because although she may slightly grin, avert her eyes, and say "thank you" inside she's thinking, "WHY did he say that?..... WHAT did he mean by that?.....I look chirpy today compared to what, other days??....Does that means he KNOWS ME???.....WHO was that man?????.....IS HE STalKiNG ME??????!!!!!!!...MY GOD HIS EYES, HIS EYES, I CAN'T GET THE THOUGHT OF HIS EYES STARING RIGHT THROUGH ME LIKE HE'S SUCKING MY EVERY THOUGHT FROM MY BRAIN!!!!!!!!! OH MY GOD MY HEAD HURTS!!!!!! WHAT DID HE DO TO ME??!?!!!?!?!?", ya know, something like that. Where a more sane woman would simply say, "Just what the %*&)does CHIRPY mean, eh?? Get the *$^! OUT of my Face you worthless SCUM bag!", then politely pass without giving you another thought! So you see, Trent, it's usually one of two things, 1) They are ALL hormonal and are in their very own little psycotic place.... OR 2)They're basically just bitches! There should actually be a number 3 to this which signifies "or BOTH!" Now, I'll leave the choices up to you on how you're going to rate the woman in reference. If you still are confused, you can simply ASK THEM, but, I wouldn't recommend it. It may be just easier to actually go with a number 3. Lastly, perfectionist?? I think that may be carrying it bit too far there, Trent. It's just that no one can do anything quite as well as they can! Another lil tip that could be a life saver, always ALWAYS carry little pieces of chocolate with you. Incase one of these mad-cows start raging after you, throw a piece of chocolate as far away from you as you can and RUN LIKE HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

With experience comes wisdom.

If she has a reason to contemplate something that may have happened to her - being picked on in school, went through a rough divorce when she was growing up - she could've spent lots of time sitting around thinking about it.

The conclusions she may have come up with could be used in different situations throughout her lifetime.