I asked this question in a different category but I'd like more feedback.
I'm engaged in a sexual fling with a married man. We had an impromptu encounter today and I suggested we have sex versus just oral. We've had sex before and we always used a condom. He refused to have unprotected sex even after I said it wasn't a problem.
Is he just being cautious or does he think I have an STD?
2006-11-30 20:43:08 · 30 answers · asked by buffythebeast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think its just cautious, better safe then sorry on both ends
2006-11-30 20:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Nathan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it looks like even though hes a slime bag hes not trying to kill his wife and watch her die with aids. Give the man some props. Most men wont wear a condom when they cheat on their wife and go home and have sex with her and never think twice that he may be killing her. Also how do you know you do not have an std or aids. Also maybe he does not want to get you pregnent. Honestly though you should be ashamed of yourself. If you think you dont have a disease and got tested how do you know it has not shown up yet. What if you did course this man into having protected sex even if it is his choice in the end and find out a month later that you have aids, find out that he contracted it, passed it onto his wife and she has it, they have 3 kids and the kids are not going to have parents around or his wife is pregnent and her baby ends up with aids, or whatever and you and her husband just killed the whole ******* family. How would you feel know that you left 3 kids motherless or just gave a baby aids and is going to die. If you are going to be a homewrecker do it with protection so you dont kill innocent people if if they guy does not think that way.
2006-12-01 06:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Syrinthia C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like many other writers have told you the reason number one probably is that he is afraid of making you pregnant and secondary after all you have only a sexual relationship with this male so why he should trust your word so much that in worst case he will be exposured for STD?
Maybe he don't think you have it yet, but he want to be cautions and make sure that the risk of catching something from you will be minimum if you will have something oneday. The male can be even thinking that you currently have much more than 2 sex partners and you have sex with other males randomly... so it might be risky to have sex without condom with you!
2006-12-01 05:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~This is just wrong on so many levels. He could be wondering if you have STD's, he may be wondering how many other married men you have been with, OR, he doesn't want you to get pregnant and he's being cautious.
If you were married, would you want some woman sleeping with YOUR husband? You could be breaking up a FAMILY! If there are children involved, you would be breaking their hearts! Find a single man. A single man to have unprotected sex with, since that's what you want.~
2006-12-01 04:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, he is just being cautious coz he doesn't want to be responsible to you in case he has accidently making you pregnant.
Secondly, he isn't serious with you coz he just takes you as his sexual needs. Only wife and genuine gf will be having unprotected sex by their spouse & partner coz they are comfortable with their health & sex history.
If I were you, I would just enjoy my pleasure without any commitment with such fling married man. I'm sure this wasn't his first time with single ladies like you.. which means he has more than experiences than you and you are lucky that you are safe from any unwanted disease.. or else you will be regreted ever after..
2006-12-01 05:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely being cautious, especially because of all the recent advertising and drama about STD's , i doubt its personal, maybe a confrontation will sort your troubles out? Just a plain question, try not to make it offensive.
2006-12-01 04:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by mutated_demon_monkey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The man is only playing safe because one: he is married and wants no commitment in the relationship, two: he does not want to ruin his marriage by getting you pregnant.
Three: to prevent against sexually transmitted diseases.
Th guy is just having his fun with you and does not intend to take the relationship a step further because he is married. He is a very wise guy!!!
2006-12-01 08:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by minny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably just worried about getting you pregnant. That would be a good reason for his wife to leave him and gets lots of his money. Not to mention you would want child support. Sounds like a smart man.
2006-12-01 05:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by ashleighshea1982 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just being cautious. Anyway, it's good for both of you so why not? Though it would be better if you find an unmarried single man.
2006-12-01 04:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by G K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both.
You might think about this.
If he is being cautious, he doesn't want to give an STD to his wife and be caught.
If you are doing this for fun, fine, but it doesn't look like he is going to leave her any time soon.
2006-12-01 04:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want a child with you and wants to protect himself against STD that you might have. If you do this impromptly with him then the chances are you have done this with many others as well. You shouldn't let him use you like a toilet.
2006-12-01 07:27:45 · answer #11 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋