my boy frnd wants to have sex with me. we are so true in love we having been planing our marriage since long and a few members of his family know about this too.sometimes i feel bad abt having sex before marriage btu sometimes when i see his penis i want him inside me i wanna have sex with him then. is it fine to have sex before marriage ? please help i do not want to get prege either
2006-11-30 20:40:18 · 24 answers · asked by soniya_deepthi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No problem you can go ahead with it but PLEASE use contraceptives for preventing you getting pregnant !
2006-12-03 00:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said you are an Indian, you must desist from sex at this stage.Once you have it before marriage you will regret it all your life. He is tempting you right now showing his phallus. But if he turns out to be your husband, in later life he will be the one to mock at you for falling prey to the temptation and will cast a doubt on your integrity when you become friendly with another male.Think of the time when you would have grown up children and when they would go out with friends, then you would not have the moral courage to tell them not to do such things as premarital sex.
In other parts of the world where this is commonplace, this act is OK. Some like not being virgin.
2006-12-01 12:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, its not ok. Imagine that he gets you pregnant. How would you tell your parents? If you don't want that to happen, then don't have sex. I understand you want to, but wait. If you both really love each other, you'll respect each other and wait.
My husband and I had sex before marriage. We have only had each other as partners, but I got pregnant our first time. I walked the aisle 8 months pregnant. Don't do that to yourself, your guy, or your child. We are still happily married. I just hate that some family will always wonder if the baby caused the marriage.
2006-11-30 21:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you be clear & firm that you won't be having sex with him until you are maaried, and yes marriage is a big thing even both parties agreed but still that may get cancelled, but if you are pregant in this case what you'll do? no body else in society will marry gal like you (pregnat without marrying). and if you think he will leave you if you are not accepting his like / or if you lose control after seing his penis then just forgot because even after having sex he can leave you, So don't do sex & request him not to be naked in front of you & nor try to make you naked. if he really loves you he'll understand your problem. But you should be confident when making it clear.
2006-12-04 18:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by JAMES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing YOU MUST DO is to make sure you are using protection,a condom would be wise to use and no sex without one.
You must do whats best for yourself,not whats best for everyone else.
That said
You dont want to fall out with your family and if your family are against sex before marriage then the chances of them finding out are high,especially if some of your boyfriends family know you are both having sex.
Sit down with your boyfriend and decide what you both want,sex is only sex.
If you both love each other and are planning to get married then im sure the whole sex thing can wait till your man and wife.
Love is different and you will feel the difference between sex and making love when you know and understand what you want for yourself and how to be happy and keep your boyfriend happy.
If you feel bad about having sex before marriage then you have answered your own question.
2006-12-01 01:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well... first of all... congratz for finding the true love. It;s very difficult to find one these days!
And secondly... its not a great hype to have premarital sex... in case you are confident about it. You shouldnt panic.... it;s just a normal thing.
And to avoid pregnancy, you can always use condom or take pills.
Its better you ask your boy friend to use condom.
And, lastly... just dont have sex, because iam tellling you to do so!
Think about the matters... is the guy right for you? what if he rejects you afer having sex?? Just confirm all the pros and cons about the situation.
If you are satisfied... there is no issues in having sex. Just take the precautions i have mentiond.
God bless you two !
2006-11-30 21:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by xtra_ordnary 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but from your question you sounds way too young to be having sex. The fact that you are even asking this shows that you are not ready for it. Give it some time, there is no rush at all. Once you give it up you can never get it back, so take your time and be certain you are ready for it.
2006-11-30 21:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your marriage is soon try and wait as 'good things come to those who wait'. I married the man that i lost my virginity too and its such a nice feeling to know that!!
We did sleep with each other before our married but i wish i waited until my wedding night!!
2006-11-30 21:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by SP 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i prefer u not 2 have sex before marriage because it can effect your life in many wayz! well ur even gettin married 2 da guy u love u shud have sex after marriage!! OK..!!!
2006-12-03 11:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about sex with your boyfriend before marriage. he may ditch you or may be his family or your family doesnt agrees for your marriage, then i think you will not be able to face you. involvement of sex is not true love mind this , its just a attraction
2006-11-30 21:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by harinder 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stick to your true feelings, you feel bad about it , so dont have sex before you are married, and if seeing him naked is too tempting dont be naked. if your marriage is based only on sex or wanting eachother that way it will not work. and there is no better way not to get pregnant.
2006-11-30 20:57:49 · answer #11 · answered by toadrose01 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋