I found out that my husband has 1 month old twin sons with another woman.He has them and our kids on an insurance policy that was hidden in his jeans pocket.When I confronted him he tried all sorts of tactics even saying that he does not know where the father of these kids are and tried to deflect from answering i.e bullying and threatening,bringing up his past or present gf names,asking why I am snooping through his things and loads of other stuff.Iusually just stay quiet and forgive more like let him get away with things but I couldn't let this one go.He even tried making a joke about it.
Yet he won't say anything not even give a lame excuse.
I am so angry and devastated that I can't even stand to touch anything of his own and I do not want to be bitter.
I love my husband so very much but I can't take this.He is away to see his family with the kids at the moment and I am alone.He has not called or emailed me.This is killing me.I am 7 months pregnant with our third child
2006-11-30 20:07:58 · 13 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not want my family to know about this but I have spoken to his mom because I am very close to her as well as she is such a levelled headed and strongwilled woman whom I find very impartial.I know he will be angry for me telling her but as I said she is very impartial
2006-11-30 20:25:57 · update #1
I can't tell my family because my mom put a price on his head aand have him buried somewhere deep in the forest
2006-11-30 20:27:53 · update #2
Sorry I mean my mom MIGHT put a price on his head
2006-11-30 20:31:13 · update #3
I am soo sorry for what you are going thru. Remember you are not alone. Many spouses have survived infidelities in marriages. I know it doesn't make it feel any better right now. It seems like people have such a hard time being monogomous in todays society, with all the temptations & morale decline. Try having another heart to heart with your husband. Tell him you wish he would open up to you & that you really need his support right now. Best Wishes to you. {hug}
2006-11-30 20:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nocine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a COMPLETELY different picture then what you posted the first time around.
He has been seeing someone else on the side, fathered someone else's children and when you confront him he pulls out an abusive song and dance routine??!?!
Pick up a phone and call a lawyer. This guy has no respect for you or himself and he's even so bold as to put the kids on the insurance policy?!?!
Call a divorce lawyer and a counselor so you can talk to someone who will understand, call and tell your family, have them come pack HIS stuff then call HIS family tell them what's going on. Then take your kids sell the house try to get sole custody of the kids and MOVE.
People like him should not be ALLOWED to breed. You should also hire a detective to find out if he's married to this other woman as well and if so have him thrown in jail for polygamy!!!
2006-11-30 21:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you are angry and the fact that he will not tell you about it is very disconcerning. I think that you need to sit him down and discuss it with him very calmly and say that for your own peace of mind you need and want to know what exactly is going on and why if he says that the child is not his, is on his policy.
Say that the two of you need to talk about it because you want and need to don't the truth, because at this moment it time you are confused and you need to know where you stand because although you love him at this moment it time you need answers.
Give him a few days to mull that one over and then if he still doesn't explain things perhaps you should think about going to visit your family for a few days or having a words with his mum. If he has a go at you because you told his mum tell him it was because you needed someone to talk to about things because he wasn't being forthwith with the information.
Also maybe you should consider telling your mum, or someone within your family, because this stress isn't doing you are your unborn child any good
2006-11-30 21:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you i feel so sorry for you.
You got some serious thinking to do. I know right now you hurt and angry but you got to decided where you and your husband go from here.
Can you ever trust him again (probably not) and do you want to be with someone who has not only cheated on you but seems to have a whole parallel life going on with this other woman and now their kids.
It don't show much in the way of respect for you and your kids!
I wish you all the luck in the world
2006-11-30 20:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by bodecia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 01:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by prinsh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i could write soothing words too you, but its not easy doing so from what you have explained in your question.
Its an hard life and we all go through it facing problems we hadn't ought to have to face.
There isn't really a quick fix for your situation, your love for your hubby still bonds you to him even though he has betrayed your trust.
Right now you have to step back take a deep breath and consider your options, which no doubt you will know, are stay or go,, if you stay then you will have to put up with his deceit and infidelity, and have awkward feelings for him. If you go then you have to start over.
The one thing you have to do in either choice is to try talking it through with him..
2006-11-30 20:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by robert x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him,,,,,,,,,,,,,,he's a pig. If you let him emotionally abuse you he's going to continue to do so. Don't raise your children in this. Always think of the children first,less more than often ppl put their feelings first when it should be the children's.Bitter ,,hell I would be irate.
2006-11-30 20:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your Mother, you need support and help you cannot go through this alone. I'm sure his Mother is as impartial as she can be but when push comes to shove she is HIS Mum and they are HER Grandchildren..........Go to your own Mother.
Good Luck to you and your kiddies.
2006-11-30 20:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is a loser, you need to find family and friends who will support you, he will not stop this, make him pay child support out the nose, make him lonely, and make his decision one that made you see the light.
2006-11-30 20:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by godzilla99s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Damn girl....firstly i am sorry to hear about this...
Secondly you need to express your feelings to him for your childrens sake...
If he doesn't come around...then take your kids elsewhere and find happiness...because it probably isn't going to be with him.
Best of Luck !
2006-11-30 20:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by admiralawesome2006 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋