My Boyfriend works third shift and he works in an accounting office, basically a 9x9 room. he usually works alone but recently he works with a woman who usually works the days my man has off. because it is Christmas coming up, so they have been working together... I know it is stupid but i get jealous when he is working with this woman and i dont know why it is really stupid and petty but i get pissed when they work together...IS this completely foolish?? i know he loves me and is not screwing around at work but i just feel like he is spending all his work hours alone at night with another woman, talking and laughing and blah blah blah.. I know it is his job but i get jealous... Am i totally screwed up?????
2006-11-30 20:01:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everybody has some jealousy in them it's only human. Just talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. Don't keep this bottled up cause pent up anger or frustration isn't good on a relationship. You don't have anything to worry about his conversations with her are probally all about you anyway so try not to think about it and if you love him trust him. Good Luck!
2006-11-30 20:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Obsidian © 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to have a healthy relationship when jealousy is always present. You may have to get out of the relationship if this feeling keeps eating away at your heart. Jealous people shouldn't really have a partner. I was jealous for many years. It's better to be alone than to hurt like that and worry.
2006-11-30 20:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by autumn leaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other posters are right, of course...but I'm a firm believer in following ones instincts. There has to be something in your subconscious mind thats telling you that there is a reason for you to be jealous. Maybe it's not anything he's done, but if youve seen this woman before and didnt like the way she looked at him or something triggered your jealousy? Trust your instincts and just be wary...pop in on them if possible like a suprize one night. That ought to squelch your screaming conscience...
2006-11-30 20:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are bipolar, i wouldn't say you are "totally screwed up".
Even if you were bipolar its good you are asking for help.
You say it yourself that is stupid and petty 'cause you know it is. yea, of course you want to be able to have your boyfriend to yourself at nights. Especially at this time of the year, its damn cold outside (hard to express how cold it is without using profanity) , so you probably want him to keep you warm at night. And instead that SOB is spending his nights with some other woman. What girl wouldnt be upset with that, its a pretty sour deal. Its only natural.. that's why you are called "women" ;O)
this is what you need to do.
talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling
:this is not going to be a easy task to do. you need to be very careful in how you put this out there for him. while you are dealing with this (weather its in form or a letter, phone, or face 2 face) make sure you have a good understanding of the way you feel and don't let your emotions take over.. cause if you do... it is going to come out all wrong and it will be your boyfriend who is asking you ARE YOU TOTALLY SCREWED UP??.
like i said you really need to communicate this well with him (lets hope you two have a good track record in the communications department) . If you two already have a pretty shaky past, especially, with jealousy issues... it is likely that he is going to be upset at first word of this situation.. so if you have had these kinda issues in the past, do yourself a favor and not approach him in the same way you would normally. he will see it coming from a mile away and the results might not be so well, cause he wont want to listen.
you got to keep in mind that maybe he wants to be with you two. but he has a job to do. and as if it wasn't hard enough to work alone without you. now he has to share the room with some other woman. bad deal for hI'm, im sure he'd rather have you. also, its a busy time of the year at work so he is stressing double time.
so unless your b/f is in the adult film industry, i don't think you have anything to worry about. he didn't ask to share the office with some other hot chick. that's the cards he was dealt
(just giving you a hard time bout the adult films, don't stress on it)
I've personally had to deal with a situation like this
(I'm not with the girl anymore)
i would come home from my job which lasted for the most part of the night.. clean up before i get in bed with her.. in the bathroom sink i happen to notice what looks like a big amount of blood that has been washed down.. get in bed with her to find out both wrists have been really sliced up... thankfully she was ok.. (the way it made me feel is a diff story)
I'd also get home and not find her in the bed... guess she decided the walk-in closet behind all the close was a better spot to wait for me... rocking back and forth dripping sweat...
eventually it led to me getting home.. goin to unluck the door and finding that my key has been removed from the keychain.. by her of course..
i'd knock she would open... if it took her more then 45 seconds i was gone and found myself somewhere else to sleep in my ride.. cause i sure in the hell wasnt goin to knock twice (she hated that.. lol)
my point is i was workin a honest legit job that was generating plenty of revenue for us (including her son).. and yea the job was around plenty or woman.. but i was workin, not boning them down. i had a fine peice of work at home to take of that for me.. but i guess with her insecurities one thing led to the next and disaster struck in more then one way...
she was bipolar though... heh
just be careful in how you get this done.. good luck to you and your b/f
email me if you need more advice
(hopefully this helps a lil)
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2006-11-30 21:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by satanthdevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering that you are a geisha, his jealosy seems grounded in reality. Persuing a deep relationship while also being a geisha would be difficult or impossible.
2016-05-23 07:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being jealous in a situation like that says something about you. It says that you are not secure in your relationship. You don't trust your man.
2006-12-01 03:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind he HAS to be there. If he didn't I'm sure he would be with you :-)
2006-11-30 20:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋