my best friend broke the news to me that she cheated on her hubby. They were having issues and she went for the temp fix. She knows that it was wrong. But he still dosen't know about it. I'm not sure what advice to give her. Or what to do. Can someone help please!
2006-11-30 19:55:50 · 14 answers · asked by mandy b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have a good friend who cheated on her hubby,
now my next step is to seduce her for myself
2006-11-30 20:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have got to talk to her and tell her that despite being in a hard time, what she did is still wrong. tell her that now it does not matter but she can not do this anymore no matter what she is going through. sleeping with somebody else creates more problems than there already is. she is your best friend and she needs to rely on you right now. tell her that you will be there for her if she needs you. it is very important that both of you won't say anything to anybody so that her husband will not find out. is she happy in her marriage?? maybe your best friend and her husband can try counseling if they are going through a hard time
2006-11-30 20:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you are also friends with the husband then you or your husband needs to tell him. It is not right for him to go on thinkin g that everything is okay when he is being cheated on. If you are not very close with him then convince your friend that she needs to tell him, because in the end it will never work out if they are not honest! Just be supportinve of her and her hubby and maybe you can even help to save their marriage tor help them decide that its time for them to seperate. Best of luck!
2006-11-30 20:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by ashi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this same situation. It is very unfair for anyone to put a person in that space. I just listened. I then told her that I would not tell her husband unless he asked then I would feel obligated to tell the truth. I was asked he was told. This was over 20 years ago. She's still my best friend her ex-husband and I are still friends and we are all now living happily ever after.
2006-11-30 20:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by alliance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely ignore it. You are in a no win situation; if you tell anyone else you are the villain. If hubby finds out and asks if you knew, say you either thought she wasn't being serious or you weren't really listening. Don't give her any advice at all.
2006-11-30 20:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by Bart S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really the question "Who should have my loyalty". You have to decide if keeping the friendship of someone that would betray another like that, even if just once, is what you find important.
Personally, I would tell the guy if I felt that it would happen again. If not, I wouldn't but I would still end the friendship with her, she cannot be trusted with another persons heart.
2006-11-30 20:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't ask you for any advice did she ? She only came to you because you were friends and perhaps she needed some one to talk to. Soooooooo why would you run off and spill da beans to her husband?
Why are you so worried about what you should do?
It doesn't seem like you need to DO anything,except nod your head and say" Mmmmm" and "Oh really" at the appropriate places during the confidential conversion.
2006-11-30 20:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jade 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under no circumstances would I tell the husband. Your friend told you in confidence. Lots of folks go through this and many come out ok. I wouldn't feel compelled to play god and stir things up.
2006-11-30 20:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Vincent F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to make that decision on her own.
If she did it and feels guilty about it, Chances are that she will never do it again.
But she has to live with the choice she makes.
You should let her decide and stay out of it.
Because if you tell her to tell him and he leaves, She may blame you.
Just tell her you will support whatever decision she makes and then be there for her to lean on.
2006-11-30 20:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by mistique1818 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you think it's wrong,because she wouldn't want it done to her. You shouldn't be the one to tell him either, she should(and if you tell your husband he may not want you to be friends with her because he'll see her as a bad influence,if your married). Tell her your still friends but morally wrong things she has done you don't want to be told.
2006-11-30 20:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋