My ex-boyfriend has been bothering me lately, hes trying to get me back! Im 9 months pregnant to my now boyfriend tho. my ex wont stop calling and he wont stop comin over. How do I tell him to back off!?
2006-11-30 19:52:16 · 13 answers · asked by Yahmina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im 17 - so no I cant be married or else theres this whole "permission thing" My mum would agree but you know... im almost 18 ... i can wait
2006-11-30 20:07:27 · update #1
Wow, tell the guy to back off and never come to your house. If he disobeys, call the cops right after he leaves and get them to tell him. If he does it again, they will make sure he doesn’t come back by giving him one of those legal documents by a judge that he can’t bug you or go like 200 ft near you or else he will go to jail. This is really serious; an ex that won’t go away can become very dangerous driven by jealously. You are about to become a mother, and if this guy keeps violating your wishes, you and your baby are going to be under more stress and could be in danger. DANGER! You have to think the worse could happen because that’s what usually happens when you last think it. Call the police and let them take care of him. It’s not an extreme, think of them of average people that just want to look out for you. Its better that an authority figures that you don’t know gets this guy off your back than involving some of your friends or your baby's father. Testosterone is something to fear because men unleash it without thinking and will do whatever they want without a second thought. Call the police. They really don’t mind and enjoy helping you. Next time he calls, be firm and don’t sugar coat it. Tell him that he can’t come over anymore and to stop calling you and that next time you will call the police. Just make sure that you follow through. It’s better to hurt his feelings than to have him do something stupid that you will regret later. Please this is a mater of safety for you and your baby- you must protect yourself. Change your phone number without telling him, move, something! You, your baby, and even your family of loved ones will thank you. Please take care of yourself.
2006-11-30 20:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Stickie:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there anti-stalking laws in your state? Tell him firmly that you will take your first step in stopping him from bothering you further if he chooses not to abide by your demand. And then follow through. A phone call to the local police should answer all of your questions.
2006-12-01 03:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise him that you feel complimented that he's still interested in you. However, advise him that you're now 9-month pregnant and would be great if he could leave you alone to enjoy pregnancy and motherhood eventually. Alternatively, tell your current boyfriend about it and have him deal with your ex. Take care and heartiest congratulations!
2006-12-01 03:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure you're not sending mixed messages. Flat out tell him to stop. If that doesn't work, threaten to slap him with a restraining order. I think a lot of times women say, "Stop, stop," but secretly like the drama and attention of it all, and send confusing signals. Make sure you're not doing that.
2006-12-01 03:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by freshmeatpuppet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. File a complaint with the police
2. Get a restraining order
3. Marry the father of your child
-- that should do it.
2006-12-01 03:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by screaminhangover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a joke. You are just about to deliver. Tell your ex, not to bother you. Tell him you are now settle and have responsibility as a mother.
2006-12-01 03:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kamal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order on this guy. You've obviously moved on if you're pregnant with another guy's baby.
2006-12-01 03:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him clear and simply to go away, that you are not interested, and that your relationship with is is dead and buried.
Failing that think you should look at getting a restraining order against him if he is really seriously bothering you
2006-12-01 03:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by bodecia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go back to him, or you can try to explain to him that you are pregnant and have no strength to be bothered etc.
2006-12-01 03:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by Avner Eliyahu R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah , weird situation. Should you not already be married to your current boyfriend?
2006-12-01 03:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋