I love my husband and a nother man who is just the oposit of my husband. me and my husband are tring to work things out. But i am in love with his cousin he doesn't know i love or have a major thing for him. [the other guy] he is such a jetalmen and is sooo cute and he doesn't drink like my husband does. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!
2006-11-30 19:09:58 · 9 answers · asked by distantangel78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you really love the cousin or do you just want a better relationship?
2006-11-30 19:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by saucylatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, I don't think it it ever right to cheat on your spouse. But, if you are in love with someone else, then there must be problems in your relationship that caused you to go outside of it, to look for something that you weren't getting. If your husband drinks then that is another issue. I don't think anyone should have to put up with someone who drinks. I think that you need to exhaust all efforts to try and see if you can make your marriage work. If you have done that, and there is nothing left then you will know that you did everything in your power to try and make it work. You won't feel so guilty later down the road. But, I don't think you should continue to see this other guy, until you make a decision with your marriage first. Try to remember that another relationship can seem exciting at first. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. I cheated on my boyfriend, and then later learned the hard way when I realized that I didn't really like the "new" boyfriend. It was just exciting at first. Luckily my boyfriend took me back, and we have been together for years now and are as happy as ever. But, I really learned a lesson in a hard way. And, hurt people along the way!
2006-11-30 19:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it kinda seems like you dont know what you want. Does your other guy have the same feelings for you? Maybe these feelings you have is because you've been with your husband for so long and now that you have found something different, he's taking you to another level. But just remember that you can't get the same from your husband if you do decide to break things off with the other guy.
2006-11-30 20:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by tweetyzluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is worth working things out with your husband he is the man you made vows to, not to mention let's say it did work out with the other guy and later on down the road you find out he really is an asshole or that you truely love your husband and the other thing was just an intatuation.
2006-11-30 20:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll_y2g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you define love as "having a thing" or "sooo cute" or "not like my husband" as basis, most likely you'll have such problem over and over again.
My suggestion, look into yourself and find stronger foundations for any relationship besides what you have now.
2006-11-30 19:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by yebastick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does not sound like your in love with your husband, or the other guy for that matter..sound more like lust. If you are in love with your husband (assuming he's not abusive), why would you leave him for his cousin who you are "in love with", not to mention you don't even know how he feels? Regardless,if you want to leave your husband, then leave because there is no way the relationship will work, and not based on feelings that can come and go based on one person.
2006-11-30 19:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by Bucky for Prez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, you should make a list of pros and cons. whoever has the most pros, you should keep. On the other hand you are dealing with a man whose drinking makes you unhappy, therefore you should either learn to drink like him or dump him. That doesn't mean you should take on the cousin, though. Escape from your purgatory or suffer the consequences. Trust me.
2006-11-30 19:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by queensassey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are married tel your husband to change a bit and try harder to work things out
2006-11-30 19:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the right-one you think
2006-11-30 19:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋