I'm so lost. I've made a very big decision by giving up my unhappy marriage but which is not hopeless for my ex-boyfriend. Coz I know it will be very hard for us to be together if I stay in my marriage and I can't love 2 men at the same time.
Now he is getting ROM very soon. I knew it when we first get back together, I thought I won't mind as long as we are together. But as the day drew nearer, I felt the heartache. The man I love is marrying another woman.
I asked if he can don't get married for my sake. He said is impossible as he is responsible for her and they had been together for coming 9 years. He won't leave her unless she leave him. He also promise me that leaving me will be the last thing he will do. I'm so hurt and don't know what can I do. I've came so far for him and don't wish to give up. Please tell me what to do?
2006-11-30 18:17:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you're a mess. Marriage is susposed to be forever.
2006-11-30 18:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just get out from an unhappy marriage, now you to broke up a happy marriage??? If this guy was "responsible" for his wife to be, he shouldn't have get back together with you, what is he up to? He definitely not a man to consider for marriage. You should wish him all the best for his marriage and tell him not to bother you again.
2006-12-01 02:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you gave up your unhappy marriage for your ex-boyfriend so that was your decision. You also said you knew what was happening when you went back to your ex-boyfriend. Are suppose to feel sorry for you poor decisions? Sorry, we all make bad decisions in our lives but we also have to live with them. Next time find someone that isn't in a relationship and start fresh.
2006-12-01 08:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feeling the uncertainty in your current relationship. And clinging onto the last relationship feeling.
Let them both go. Find happiness inside you first.
Then you will be able to give and receive from others.
If he has found happiness, let him go. Set him free. You should do that for him and for you.
If you are meant to be together, maybe as friends will complete your loss.
Get your life together, then introduce yourself into another serious relationship.
Don't be in a big hurry, find yourself first. Then look for others to join you.
2006-12-01 02:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is playing u and his sonn to be wife. what u need to do is take time for yourself and forget about ur ex or men for like 3 months if u could.. You just came out of a bad marriage, divorce and what u need to do do is take time for your needs and this ex is not going to give it to you only u can do that. If you have children think about them too. Youe ex is being selfish and if it makes u feel better for everything u gave up for him as a payback or feel better solution tell his fiance whats going on, its not fair that she is being betrayed just as u are, and i see it doesnt feel good but u need to STAND YOUR GROUND, or else u will be stepped on continuosly.... good luck
2006-12-01 02:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were unhappy you did right to leave...as for your "boyfriend"...he is quite obviously not yours but someone elses if he is getting married to her...he cheats on her and he will cheat on you too, why don't you try finding a man who doesn't have a girlfriend or wife...relationships tend to work better that way...so in answer to your question...no he doesn't love you he is using you
2006-12-01 02:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by darkest queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this guy immediately he is playing with youre feelings and no man is worth youre tears, its very difficult but you have to move on, deep inside you know the awnser
2006-12-01 02:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by Candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone,he obviously wants to have his cake and eat it too,and think about it////if he will cheat on his wife he would do the same to you if you were married to him. He sounds loke an arrogant,self centered person who cares about no one but hisself,I say find someone else who wants to be with you and only you.
2006-12-01 02:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by pammi_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to choose to marry her, not you, why do you want to give up your marriage. He is also leaving you for a further destination, arent you wasting your time. He said, he wont leave you, but in real fact he has left you.
2006-12-01 02:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U ARE ONE OF THE SELFISH BIT*CH I'VE EVER COME ACROSSED.THE MAN HV A BETTER CHOICE AND WHY CAN'T U TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER.U CAN'T STOP HIM FROM GETTING MARRIED TO ANOTHER BETTER PERSON AND OBVIOUSLY THE PERSON IS NOT YOU..SO DONT BE A SELFISH ***** AND MOVE ON WITH YR LIFE
2006-12-01 22:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that your life is confusing and (i don't want to be offensive but) messed up. you broke your commitment to your husband and now you think that another guy should give you a commitment. maybe you should not try to break up your ex-boyfriends relationship with his fiance. just let him be happy and work on being happy with out him.
2006-12-01 02:26:19 · answer #11 · answered by jmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋