work outside or stay at home?

Question

Do you think whether wives should work outside or stay at home?
Why? and please write where you are from.

Answer 1

Stay home with your kids as long as you possibly can. I work as a full time nanny, and have done child care for over 15 years. My experience is that the mom is usually so tired from her day at work, she has a hard time doing housework, helping with homework, and cooking dinner. There is not enough time to spend quality time with the children. The husbands are very little help either. Why leave the rearing of your small children to someone like me, who will love them and enjoy them as much as you should be able to? Houston, Tex.

I wanted to add, that I know there are single moms out there that have no choice in the matter as you have to work to support your children. I was a single mom, and that was one reason I opened a daycare home when my children were very little.

Answer 2

I'm in the UK and 52 years old...........I know things have changed a lot over the years but, you know, it depends on circumstances and personality. I worked from the age of 16 until I had my family at 28. I then stayed at home for 9 yars until my youngest was 5.............and by then I was 'climbing the walls' much as I loved my children. During that time my then husband worked overseas for some 3/4 years, so I was, effectively a single mother although I admit without the financial worries.
I believe there is no, one answer fits all. I was lucky, at that time in that money was not an issue. These days many wives need to work to supplement the man's income and carve out the sort of life they want.
I don't know where in the world you are and your culture may view things differently but if a woman is reasonably intelligent and has studied she may feel she needs to have a life outside of the home. Certainly, I could not have been a stay at home wife before the children arrived and only could for a few years after.

Answer 3

Ok this one is a hard one because if you have little children under the age of 5 I think a woman should stay home. If there is no children or the kids are over 5 then I think a woman should work only because of the fact that men now a days are not reliable anymore. You never know if they are going to get up and walk out of your life or if something bad is going to happen. I know all of this because I was a housewife with a 2 year old son and his father left me for another woman. I did not work for a few years and did not know how to drive. It was very hard at first to get on my two feet but I did and I also learned how to drive. I am remarried and have a full time job just in case something like that ever happens again. I am from California.

Answer 4

I am a stay at home mother for 9 years,I don't know how I would work and still do all the activities that my children do,plus clean cook,etc.I don't see why people have children then send them off basically for someone else to raise,I do understand some people have to work, but take my sister in law,she had to take drugs to get pregnant with her son,it cost a lot of money,she stayed home till he was 3 months old and went back to work and left him in her mother's care and now her mother in laws care,he gets dropped off at 5:30 a.m. and gets picked up at 6:00 p.m.,they are in bed by 9:00p.m. because they get up so early,so she spends a total of 3 waking hours with him,is that fair to him,hell no.She has no need to work ,her husband owns a very successfully auto garage. I just feel that some women are selfish and others have no choice. PA

Answer 5

This depends on the couple , first if they can afford the wife to be at home many husbands need the wife to work these days. If you have the money I would say to have the wife stay home and have one on one with her own children then letting strangers take care of the kids. there morals and there teaching may be different from yours. Would be nice to have the mother at home for the children always when they come home from school etc.. but again depends on the family finaces.

Answer 6

I think it is a personal decision for each couple. I myself would love to be able to stay at home. When the time comes to start thinking about it, I am going to find me a job that will allow me as much time as possible at home. I know we can not afford to live on one paycheck yet though. I plan on doing everything I can to be able to stay at home. Like I said though it is a personal decision. I think it is better for the children to have a parent at home, instead of being with some strangers all day. I see it as my job to raise my kids, not someone elses. I am from Mississippi.

Answer 7

Firstly, it depends on you. It is your decision.
I have worked for most of my life, but for the past few years I've decided to stay at home. My youngest daughter is now 11, my older 14. In the past few months my chldren have suffered tonsillitis, stomach upsets, broken fingers etc. Add in the orthodontist appointments, inset days, holidays and unless you have willing and helpful family around the corner, you're stuck. I don't. I also find that my children need me and I need to be perceptive. I found that when I worked, I couldn't be bothered with their problems as I was too busy cleaning, cooking, etc etc.
The downside is the loneliness. I've never been bored, though. I live in Hertforeshire.

Answer 8

personally i think the one parent should stay home until the kids are in school. it is your job to raise your own children, not pay some nanny to do it for you. once they go off to school they are at the mercy of the world and you need to be sure you have instilled the right values in them. then, if you want you could have a part time job but make sure there is a healthy balance between your family and your job. maryland

Answer 9

Who cares? As long as the kids are taken care of and you're making money what difference does it makes where you do it? Can you make more money and/or be happier at home? If so, work there. If not, work outside the home.
Louisville, KY

Answer 10

I like working outside the home...give me sometime for me and make some new friends. If your thinking about it..you can work part time this way you can do both_