About 6 months ago I started working together with a very nice guy. We have similar interests and I could tell he was interested in me. At that time I had just split up from my boyfriend and I needed badly to be liked by someone. We spent a lot of time together, also outside the work. It was only flirt and deep conversations. He often had phonecalls during what he went out and acted weird. Then I finally heard from another person that he has a girlfriend. He never told me about her although he spoke about many of his friends and everything he did. Finally I asked him about that and he admit he was in a relationship with 'a girl'. Still no names or details.
Now we have started to go out with the same group of friends and with me he still isn't talking about her. I know her name and I saw her once but he even didn't introduce her to me. I don't flirt with him anymore and I don't talk to him about personal things anymore as I find that a friendship should be equal. What's wrong with him
2006-11-30 18:06:04 · 10 answers · asked by rottentotten 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe he wants to keep his private life private. I don't tell people about my significant other and he is a truly important part of my life. I just don't feel the need to tell the world about him, I want to keep him to myself.
Sure I blab about him whenever I can here in Answers and try to integrate him into my writing (I write best when I write about things relating to him) but I don't talk to actual people about him.
2006-11-30 18:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its pretty obvious that the reason he was not talkin about her is becuz he was hoping that something would happnend between u 2. Rather he wanted sex or was lookin for a relationship i cant say but either way he is still with her so to me that means hes off limits. I always say why should u be number 2 when i am perfectly capable and good enough to be number 1.
2006-11-30 18:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was interested in you, and so he kept his "girlfriend" out of the conversation to see how far you and he would get. He was not just interested in friendship.
Now, of course, it's too late, as you have cooled since you found out he's "attached" (which is exactly what he thought would happen if he told you.) Since you've already put him through the inquisition about her, and then cut off the flirting and personal talk, he's done being interested in you. He feels guilty about not coming clean to begin with, and figures it will just upset you. Or worse, he could be worried it WON'T upset you if he talks about her, that you WON'T be jealous.
There's nothing wrong with him that castration and regular estrogen shots wouldn't cure.
2006-11-30 18:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
happened to me also, he just likes you alot but dosent like hurting people or he just thinks the relationship he is in with his girl is going well. i have made a mistake of losing a really good guy frind over that and it sucks! stay his friend...but good idea to cut down on the flirting, take it from a fellow girl who knows!! lol.
2006-11-30 18:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by dylan morrison<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with him is that he is a dog and he wants his cake and to eat it too. I suggest you leave him alone because he has some things that he needs to work out with his girlfriend. And if he brakes up with her for you, who's to say he won't do the same to you?
2006-11-30 18:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by angie221984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever consider that he might be growing tired of her and looking for someone new... maybe he does like you, just because he has a girlfriend doesnt mean hes married. maybe hes the type of person that needs to be with someone and he wasnt going to dump his girl for someone else unless he was absolutely sure something would come out of it
2006-11-30 18:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by eoj8008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he does understand your intrest towards him, and feel bad you will be hurt. Eventhough you know, he does not want to loose your friendship, because he might thought you will be jealous, if he talks about her to you. How can a girl not be jealous with another when the one has feelings with that chap. I will appreciate that guy, eventhough he knows you know, he respects you and does not want to hurt you.
2006-11-30 18:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels his personal life is private and not something he wants to share with co-workers.
2006-11-30 18:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something bad happend
2006-11-30 18:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by iMedic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya questions too long, dont have a spare hour and a half to get through it so i'll guess. my answer is yes.
2006-11-30 18:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋