2006-11-30 17:59:05 · 37 answers · asked by chapped lips 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i only did it once and don't plan on making a habit out of it
2006-11-30 18:03:06 · update #1
Looking at your picture I can see that the devil made you do it. Explain to your husband that you want to have another exorcism and he'll probably give you second chance.
2006-12-01 00:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The trust has gone from your hubbys point of view now,and whether you "don't plan to make a habit of it" or you do make a habit of it,(which you will,once a cheat-always a cheat,you have tasted that forbidden fruit,there is no stopping you now!),you should let him go and find some REAL happiness,with a REAL woman. You cannot possibly make it up to him,nothing in this world can help him with the hurt and agony he is going through. He must be strong and realise that there are decent women out there,not just the worn out old mattress's like you. Best of luck to him.
2006-11-30 20:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already, try to analyze why you slept with this other guy. Then try to talk to your husband and explain your reason(s) and let him know how truly sorry you are; that you love him and sincerely do not want your relationship to end.
Hopefully, your husband will at least be receptive enough to listen.
It will be like "walking on eggs" for a while and he may have outbursts of anger. Muster up your patience and bear it out. Things like this sometimes take quite a bit of time.
If, after a reasonable amount of time, he still can't seem to get over it, maybe you should consider counseling, if he will go along with it. If he will not consider counseling or won't even listen to you, maybe a period of separation would be best.
If your husband really loves you, he will come around. Like I said before, it may take some time.
2006-12-02 12:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Oenophile... (Lynn) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he knows what it will take to regain his trust. Ask him, and really listen to his answer. It's likely that right now, his answer will be "nothing can make up for this", and if that's truly the way he feels, let him go and don't fight it. Also be prepared for an unwillingness to answer right away, or an answer that changes over time -- but all of those responses are reasonable, because you broke the trust in your relationship, and he doesn't know how to rebuild it, either.
That's because the only way is time. If he'll give you the time to prove you're a loyal wife worth trusting over the long term, you may have a shot; if not, then let it go -- and let this be a lesson to you about the consequences of your actions.
2006-11-30 18:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if he wants a divorce, then give it to him.Can't stay in a relationship if one wants the marriage and the one doesn't...The trust is shot right now, Not saying it can't be built back up, because it can be..Being cheated on causes alot of emotional and physical pain..Some ppl can over come it and some can't..Good Luck
2006-11-30 23:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice to you would be to stay away from him for awhile. Give him time to think about this and deal with what has happened. It's very hard to deal with someone both on your side and his, it really hurts. Both of you are hurting and only time will heal this. He may be afraid you are going to do this again, so many people do. Cheating hurts so much, I hate it.... it takes a long time to forgive, some people just can't. Take this as a lesson learned to never do this again to anyone whom you have a serious relationship with, it's too painful to each one involved.
2006-11-30 18:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to fix something like that.. You betrayed trust, honestly, and commitment. Not that that im making an excuse for why u did it, but maybe there was something lacking in your marriage, try talking to him and try giving him an explanation of the reason u did it and why u wont ever do it again. Tell him tou want to work things out and would go to marriage counseling.
2006-11-30 18:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't maybe marriage counseling but if i was the husband i would leave to marriage is about trust and being with ONE person you should be more stronger than that once a cheater always a cheater how does he not know that if he forgives you you will not do it again.
2006-12-01 05:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why you slept with another man. Maybe because that other man gives you something your husband doesn't. Talk to your husband and tell him what you exactly want from him. Tell him I know it's hard to forgive me but I have realized my mistake but in time I will prove to you that I am the best thing for you.
2006-11-30 18:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You should have never done it even once. How insulting that you think because its not a habbit, you didn't really do anything that bad. Your a poor example of a wife, and if your husband has any pride left, he will dump you.
2006-11-30 20:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have thought about that before you cheated on him. Life is hard, and sometimes we make really bad decisions, that we inturn have to deal with the difficult consequences,.Either way, each situation we come upon should be taken as an expierience, and learn from it. Hopefully you've learned something...
2006-11-30 18:03:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋